Help. After failed approaches,my brain resets itself.

VMikeL · 2013-05-12T12:13:32+00:00

The whole back and forth "I improved" and then "I can't do it" is approach anxiety. It's like if you were anxious about driving, and you conquered your fear. Sure you braved up, you felt the adrenaline, and you did it, but the next time, you still have that anxiety, but a part of you is like "I did it... I already proved that I can do it. I don't need to do it again."

The simple way to break through that barrier is to keep going. You don't go from Zero to Hero in 5 approaches, you need to keep going. Make yourself accountable if you have to, take a friend and have something at stake, just as long as you keep approaching.

rmbarnes · 2013-05-12T16:17:00+00:00

How easily you can approach girls is very closely linked to both your own self image and your current emotional state.

The self image of the guy who is good with women takes time to develop. You need time to get lots of positive reference points.

Your emotional state varies day on day, hour on hour. This is why you could approach one day and not the other.

Over time, as your self image improves , you'll find that to be able to open even when you aren't in the best emotional state.

Willem20 · 2013-05-12T21:45:28+00:00

You should start reading Models by Mark Manson. Your intentions are off.

Title	Help. After failed approaches,my brain resets itself.
Author	notquiteengineer
Upvotes	6
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Date	May 12, 2013 9:03 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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