How to get this "nice guy mindset" away?

nittutt · 2013-06-27T10:41:45+00:00

Think of it like this:

As long as you THINK everyone are better than you, they are.

Do you really want to let your mind fuck you over like that? Nah.

puaCurveBall · 2013-06-27T09:29:15+00:00

Have you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" ??

kwastion · 2013-06-27T09:25:01+00:00

Just take instead of giving. I know it's not as easy as it sounds.

A friend of mine has zero problem approaching and getting with girls in general, and he's not really your Brad Pitt, really not, if you know what I mean. You already knew that I guess, but it's all about confidence and also about getting rid of fears that are "counterproductive", if I may put it this way.

I'm not the top model either but I don't consider myself as an ugly-looking person. Some friends told me of opportunities I've missed because I was too shy at the time. You know how it works. You're convinced you don't have what it takes when you actually have more than enough, even personality-wise. I've been asking myself too many questions. Now that I've grew up a bit and got more self-confident it makes me mad to think about those missed opportunities but I'm attached and all that :)

You may not be a top model yourself, and you may not be an extrovert, but don't assume anything before trying. Not very original but just be more confident is what I say.

BarrelMonkey · 2013-06-27T09:44:17+00:00

Everyone is selfish, but some people convince themselves that being super nice will make them feel better, because they made other people feel better and that is true to an extent that is GREATLY exaggerated.

Try being on the receiving end and see how it feels.

lilhurt38 · 2013-06-28T00:06:27+00:00

A ton of how other people see you is based on how you see yourself. If you think you have value, others will also. There's nothing wrong with being giving and nice. However, you have to have the sense of self worth to be able to see when you're being taken advantage of and to call people on that. You've gotta have a rule that if someone is treating you badly, you're not going to be nice to them. You have to have boundaries with how nice you are to people. It's not about being an asshole. It's about having the self-esteem to not put up with someone being shitty. I'm very giving and caring towards girls who are giving and caring back. It's not me being nice to get into their pants. I've already hooked up to them and since they're being good to me I want to be good to them. If they aren't treating me well, I've got no reason to be nice to them. You also should have a mindset that she'd be lucky to date you. You've gotta look at yourself and be like, "Hey, I'm a really good catch." You've gotta think that if things don't work out with this one girl, it's ok cause you're valuable and other girls will see that. If you're thinking that you're not good enough for someone, you don't have a chance.

PaintDreams · 2013-06-28T03:25:30+00:00

get rid of expectations, both negative and positive, getting rid of negative expectations gets rid of fear, getting rid of positive expectations gets rid of dissapointment when you're being "nice", and allows you to stay in the present and allows you to be nice for the sake of being nice.

projectself · 2013-06-28T04:34:37+00:00

Robert Glover has a book called no more mr. nice guy. It has some exercises... go to his forum, google it. search for a poster named ruffwarrior or the like. Follow his plan, it is by far the most popular thread on the entire forum. You will never look back. another good plan is from supercoupnut...

Title	How to get this "nice guy mindset" away?
Author	DuyBach
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	June 27, 2013 9:11 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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