OK before everybody jumps on my shit here, I’ve been working on myself for a really long time I’m almost 40. I’ve read the sidebar, I’ve already had tons of crap relationships, and a crappy marriage that lasted 13 years. I’ve already been a beta cuck for several girls when I was young and learned the hard way why it’s important to respect yourself above all others. The red pill community has really helped me to understand a ton about what I need to do to have a happy life. I’m also lucky to be in the top 5 percentile of good looking guys, I lift eat healthy, have tons of cool hobbies compete in martial arts etc.

Ever since my divorce three years ago I’ve been on a hard-core journey to get down to the core of the nitty-gritty and be rid of all the bullshit in my life. I would really recommend to a lot of guys to journal, and also to write down a ton of things that are awesome about themselves and to keep doing this until it totally sinks in.

My question is this: as long as you have abundance mentality, and are attracting the type of women that you enjoy, is oneitis always a bad thing? I would say that for my own personality, the best time I could have would be in a steady long-term relationship with a woman who is a super rare type. Believe it or not there are women that exist that can respect you, enjoy having sex with you long term, and can be super foxy. One of my best girlfriends from junior high is a great example although she has a husband that she is very committed to. I’m talking the kind of girl who shit tests you minimally, comfort tests you minimally, and more less would be an ideal first mate.

The problem that I run into is that I generally have abundance mentality and I currently have five plates going, but of course one of them is my favorite. So even though I keep things cool with her, I feel like sometimes I’m going out with the other girls just to maintain the abundance. I should add that I don’t have the desire to add more plates. it becomes overwhelming on interpersonal level. But it would be really nice to hit it raw and eventually build a life with someone that admired me for having a mission etc. some of the other girls I go out with I’m physically attracted to as much is the girl I like the most but her personality and brightness are on a different level. Only have got one minor shit test and one minor comfort test in 3 months, she eats healthy works out every day and sings like an angel.

If you start heading down the path of one -itis is it going to ultimately cause a high value red pill capable woman to lose interest or start challenging frame or maybe somebody has some wisdom about this.