Ever felt like just giving up?

ThePUA_Baddie · 2013-09-24T15:28:31+00:00

You're too outcome dependent. That is, you're making others responsible for your own happiness. In other words, you're being needy and you care too much.

Try to cut that mentality out of your life. Realize the whole "I just need a girl to be happy!" is a form of self-hypnosis.

There is a way to clear your mind of women. Just stop being dependent on women on happiness. Stop reinforcing the idea that you need a woman to be happy, because it's a lie that you're telling yourself. Don't rely on women to feel complete. It helps, but you should feel complete as a man without women in your life.

You're still putting women on a pedestal. Relax, take a breather, and keep trying.

Also, how often do you go out? Can you give an example conversation or interaction? How's your overall lifestyle (e.g. hobbies, work, etc.)? Can you describe a typical night out? Can you describe a typical set? This kind of information helps us help you.

turbopork · 2013-09-24T05:50:28+00:00

You're going through what they call the pain period (when nothing goes your way for a long time). It could last months, depending on how much you approach. Power through it and you'll see yourself getting the results you want.

Just remember to be outcome independent (don't give a fuck) and have fun. Your really wanting a girlfriend might be shining through a bit too much and could be scaring your targets off.

Also, try recording yourself (audio) and have a friend come along and observe you, you might be doing something weird that you are unaware of.

HiccupArtist · 2013-09-24T07:26:48+00:00

Are you having fun?! You're outcome-dependent if you are constantly yearning for a girlfriend.

Go out, have fun, get to the top of your game and the girlfriend will come.

lepies_pegao · 2013-09-24T19:07:26+00:00

Day in and day out I yearn for a girlfriend or girl in my life that I can have a sexual relationship with, and each day I try to find this girl by doing these approaches.

This is your problem!

AFormidableContender · 2013-09-25T05:02:09+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily say I gave up, but I did stop believing in this stuff.

After spending most of my adult life knowledable of and inside the community, (found it when I was 17, now 25) I've come away with one important caveat rarely discussed:

No amount of confidence, frame control, openers, or outter game tricks is a substitute for simply having less value than the next guy. Looks, money, height, whatever your issue is, you're probably more or less fucked. The age old trope tends to prove true: be attractive, don't be unattractive. I think the community gives women far too little credit for being just as shallow as men, really.

In my time in the community, I've realized that almost anyone that actually get's success out of it, almost always have a base level of value that is more than acceptable to achieve the life of sexual abundance we all desire, yet simply got turned around somewhere in life and adopted shitty beliefs. Had they simply spoke to more women, this problem would have most likely auto-corrected on it's own and this community would not have been needed. People rarely ever go from 0 to hero; most were capable of at least having girlfriends or several lays prior to success. The community, at least in my opinion, doesn't and can't actually help anyone that actually needs real help.

If you're not 8 feet tall, and black, sorry, but we all can't play in the NBA....

Paaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa · 2013-09-24T16:37:52+00:00

I, uh, I don't go on this subreddit anymore for actual advice, I'm just interested in the subject of seduction in general, just to see how other people go about it. Me personally, I've gotten pretty close to mentally eliminating the desire for women out of my mind. I'm concentrating more on forcing myself to no longer want sex than actually trying to get it. Hypothetically, what you're trying to do can be done. And you could be one of those unlucky men who simply don't have what it takes to get women to like them. I don't know you, so I can't really say. There's more to life than sex. Find something that keeps your attention, gives you purpose, and then focus your entire efforts onto it. And let's face it, most relationships are pretty terrible, so it's not like we're missing out on anything more than thirty seconds of happy happy joy joy. Either improve yourself, or just stop trying. One of those things will work for you.

recyclablebantha · 2013-09-24T13:21:45+00:00

Could you post a picture of yourself?

Title	Ever felt like just giving up?
Author	ThePUA_Baddie
Upvotes	13
Comments	34
Date	September 24, 2013 5:38 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1n0ian/ever_felt_like_just_giving_up/
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