I've been recently feeling overwhelmed on account of things mostly not related to pickup. Self improvement can be a hassle sometimes because it feels like there needs to be more step by step action, when it's actually more of a process. I'm slowly coming to terms with that.

However, there's just some days where you feel pissed off, unhappy, and maybe stressed. Today is one of those days.

This girl I've been talking to and actually was supposed to have a date with today (She had to visit her dad/she had work) was not really very responsive today. SO OK whatever, moving on. I texted her later, not feeling needy or begging for approval, but I don't know, I felt like I was obligated to text her because I need to keep attraction up or whatever. I assume that type of thinking is counterproductive, oh well. Anyways, she didn't respond for a few hours, so again oh well. Now she texts me back. I don't want to seem needy begging for her validation, which I guess it may have seemed like (We have texted every day this week, but 5/7 times she texted me first). And I do not want to be friendzoned because of a lack of first date, but I also don't feel like I should ignore her. This leads me to think "Okay, just text her back. If you look needy for a day, oh well. Whatever", but I'm in a pissed off mood and I don't think it be very good to look needy AND pissed off.

So while the story was more about a particular girl, what I'm wondering is how do you handle situations like this?

My biggest questions:

  • How often do you text/call if you're at a stand still?

  • What do you do when you're pissed off, tell that you're pissed off or just don't respond until feeling better?

  • How do you become even less outcome independent while still enjoying interactions? This one has been hard for me, I feel like I have made a lot of progress becoming less needy, but when I legitimately enjoy interactions with girls, it's hard to not actually want it to go well.

Thanks guys.