How can I stop looking for validation from social networking websites?

joshsway · 2013-11-11T20:48:22+00:00

Everyone likes that kind of stuff, nothing is wrong with that. Just don't make it your life.

mpayne69 · 2013-11-11T20:47:23+00:00

You don't have to delete it. It is the best way to get off the junk, but I understand that FB is important for planning future events/following up on girls you've met.

My advice is to take an approach that one might when they're trying to abstain from masturbation. If you cut it out entirely, you'll likely relapse at some point and then fall right back into the habits you have now. Instead, plan 1 day a week in which you will allow yourself to check your FB. Every Sunday is a good one, because you can use that day to plan out the rest of your week (parties, etc.). Don't touch the FB app on your phone until that day. Disable FB notifications on your phone. Over time, your desire to check it will wain. Make a calendar and mark off the days until the next Sunday if it helps you stay on track. Hope this helps.

LiberalPenguin · 2013-11-11T20:50:17+00:00

Don't post anything, ever.

Turn off all notifications from all non-close friends

Remove all non-close friends from your chat window

Hide ALL photos, and likes and whatever you can to make your profile as uninteresting as possible.

Deny every attempt at tagging you in pictures.

AR2thro · 2013-11-11T20:45:22+00:00

Give your passwords to someone you trust, ask them to log in and change them for you to something you won't be able to guess, and then limit yourself to one supervised 10 or 15 minute login per week. Or not at all for some predetermined period of time. Then see if you can't keep on top of events etc. by text alone.

But yes, while deactivation is basically the nuclear option, it may be what you need to cure yourself of your addiction. There are measurable neurochemical effects associated with social validation. You are literally physically addicted to it. Going cold turkey is the safest cure. But the next best option is keeping yourself to strict regimen by removing your control over your own access from the equation.

nameless233 · 2013-11-11T21:06:54+00:00

No one has to interact with anything relevant to your profile (statuses, pictures etc) in order to contact you in the way you seem to be suggesting. Just use the website for what you need. Don't delete it. Check it for messages, event etc, but just stop acting on the site. Don't post any statuses. Don't comment on anything. Don't post pictures. Good luck.

DANdruff4MEN · 2013-11-11T20:00:51+00:00

De-activate your accounts

What you're asking here is akin to an alcoholic living next to a 24/7 Liquor Store asking how they can stop drinking. Remove the source entirely.

This was a big reason why I quit Facebook and twitter and social media in general. The positive feedback loop is silly if you sit back and think about it. Beyond that, I got tired of constantly judging my life compared to other peoples.

De-activate your accounts. It's the best step you can make. You will be in withdrawal at first and your first birthday may make you feel down as you were addicted to the Happy Bday wishes but you will get used to it.

sino888 · 2013-11-11T20:24:07+00:00

Delete it.

Title	How can I stop looking for validation from social networking websites?
Author	ti95
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	November 11, 2013 7:55 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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