What's something so counter intuitive but when you've trine it in the field, it worked?

kingcal · 2013-12-04T03:34:45+00:00

Exercising my own selective choice. For a long time I dealt with self-esteem issues. I was so desperate for female attention that I'd take anything I got. I thought I was "getting lucky" that a girl would show interest in me. Far be it for me to turn her down. I'd hook up with girls I didn't find that attractive, go on dates that were boring, all because I thought it was only up to the girl to choose.

Then I had one really good date. It wasn't just good because she was good looking or because I hooked up, but because I had fun being me. We did the shit I'd normally be doing, not some boring "get to know you" date that is "standard". I learned that I could have fun being myself. Even though the relationship didn't work out, it became an important part of my life. Whenever I meet a girl, I'm screening her. I'm trying to decide if she's a girl that I want to spend time with. If she is, great. If not, oh well. It doesn't mean she's a bad person, but it is obvious to me that things wouldn't work out. There's no hard feelings.

It's not necessarily an outer game technique you can apply, but more of an inner game thing that will affect your whole life. Ever since I reached that point, I would say the overall quality of every interaction I've had with women has been much better, even the attractiveness of the women.

SpaceCatNinja · 2013-12-04T16:35:28+00:00

Not having a plan. Not spending half an hour piecing together the perfect outfit. No pre-party, no pre-drinking, no meeting up with friends.

Show up and dance. Enjoy not having a plan and look forward to taking whatever the night throws out at you. No easier way to get into the zone.

Tombstone31 · 2013-12-04T05:41:18+00:00

No warm up sets - better to be nervous talking to a girl I'm super interested in (nervousness is a good thing! I'm told it's endearing or something) than not see said girl because I'm too busy getting lose with girls I'm not interested in.

Also, asking for a casual sexual relationship or a one night stand. "Plausible deniability" is silly - girls know what's up.

wrdp · 2013-12-04T05:49:17+00:00

The less I say the more mysterious and attractive I become to the girl I'm with. It all comes down to staying positive and working the eyes.

HappyJerk · 2013-12-04T16:34:20+00:00

"Hey you're too hot to be with these guys you are with" - that has worked so many times and every time I say it I am literally shaking with fear.

Title	What's something so counter intuitive but when you've trine it in the field, it worked?
Author	SuperPoop
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	December 4, 2013 2:41 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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