[First, let me make clear I’m writing this just as a private sedditor, not as a moderator and this does not reflect any official moderation policy.]

I’ve noticed lately a lot of posts along the lines of “Does anyone have a good line for X situation?” “How would you respond to Y?” or “Do you think Z is a good idea?”

Every single one of these questions can be answered in the same way: Field Testing. Want to know if a line will work? Try it out. Want to know how to respond to a certain question? Stay in the set and respond.

I know that a lot of the value of having a pickup community comes from learning from others, but most of that value is in learning the basics, things like why not to supplicate, how push/pull works, and not to be a dancing monkey entertainer guy. When it comes to handling specific situations, your best instructor is the field. And now I’m going to layout just why exactly these kinds of posts are bad for both you and the seduction community at large:

(1) They offer no intrinsic value. The moment you hit post you have offered no value. You have, however, added a new post to the sub which will potentially get in the way of posts that do offer value. Now I know you may be thinking ‘but the comments will have value,’ and that brings me to…

(2) The comments tend to have little value. The kinds of comments that do have value are the ones where guys have been in the same situation, been in it many times, tried different techniques, and have a good idea of what works, what doesn’t work, what situational factors are relevant, and why. Those are rare. More common are guys who have never been in that exact situation or have been in it once or twice, haven’t really had any success, but they’ve got a line they think will get them some lulz and upvotes. What makes your fellow sedditors chuckle won’t necessarily work out in the field with a girl, and it’s often very hard to distinguish between the two types of comments – especially hard for new guys, and they’re the ones who most need to not be led astray by keyboard jockeys.

(3) You’re breeding scarcity mindset and outcome dependence. If every time you face a new obstacle your instinct is to run to seddit for advice, you’re telling yourself that it’s super important you get it right the next time, and that’s because the next time might be your last time. You are missing out on a huge opportunity to create abundance mindset and outcome independence. That’s what you get if encountering an obstacle makes you want to go out and encounter it again and again and see just how that situation works and try out different techniques. You don’t want to see the world as a handful of experiences that need to be handled with kid gloves. You want to see it as a giant endless sandbox that can be replayed repeatedly.

(4) There is no substitute for experience. You don’t learn to read social cues, calibrate, or think on your feet by getting replies on seddit. But, asking for seddit’s advice gives you a pressure valve, a way to avoid going out in the field more to learn. You feel like you’re learning, so your mind rewards you for making progress, and now you don’t feel like you need to be out in the field so much, which means you’re not actually progressing at all.

(5) You make Uncle Billy grumpy. This needs no further explanation.

So, having said all that, what the heck is seddit good for? Why post anything at all if you’re not supposed to be asking for advice? Try comparing these two types of posts:

(A) Hey guys, how would you respond to a girl asking if you’re gay?

(B) Hey guys, girls keep asking me if I’m gay, so I tried out a bunch of different responses. I finally found one that works (it worked the last 4 out of 5 times), and here’s why I think it works. I’m also including a list of some that blew up in my face as a cautionary tale/a bit of lulz.

The second one offers value. It also creates a context (frame control!) where advice is based on experience, which should help to discourage keyboard jockeys from gumming up the works in the comments. It’s still better to get experience yourself, but reading a post like that will actually teach you something, unlike reading a bunch of random replies that may or may not have ever been tested. Writing that kind of post is also good for you, because it forces you to think about your interactions in an analytical way and try to figure out why things work and why they don’t. That’s a habit you need to develop.

You're also doing the right thing if your post is like this:

(C) Hey guys, girls keep asking me if I'm gay, and I've tried about 15 different approaches (listed below), and I just can't seem to get over this sticking point. Anyone have any advice?

With (C), you're at least developing the right mindset, and saving seddit for questions you can't figure out on your own. I've seen quite a number of posts where guys will ask for advice when they've encountered the problem only once. Once! You don't even know if it's going to come up again, and already asking for advice. I've even seen someone asking for advice on a hypothetical situation he hadn't yet encountered. You shouldn't be trying to avoid sticking point the moment they crop up (or earlier!). You should be trying to accumulate sticking points, because that means you're actually out there working on this stuff. Also, if you're not out there encountering a large number of diverse situations, you've got no idea what problems are actually relevant to your game.

In summation, the underlying value here is really that you need to think of yourself not as a consumer of seduction advice, but as an active member of a community. And, that active membership means contributing. You contribute first by generating data (field experience) and then by sharing what you’ve learned.