Downfall, Fear and a Cry for Help

VMikeL · 2013-12-20T14:41:08+00:00

It sounds like you know where your interests and passions lie, but you' e made some strange associations with what they are. The reason I think this has haplened is just a lack of a balance. You gamed too much, then You focused on self improvement so much, you left behind your academia, the. The switch left behind your self improvement and health.

Not everyone needs one, but youcan certainly benefit from a routine and day to day balanced lifestyle. Gaming isn't the death of seduction, nor is studying. Also living a balanced life may help alleviate your anxieties.

bl1y · 2013-12-20T15:14:01+00:00

but no matter how many articles I read or how many funny SimplePickup videos I watch, I can't get my head out of this state

Sounds like you're spending way too much time reading and watching videos. If you've read the sidebar and other basic guides, you've already read enough. The field is your new mentor, forget about everything else.

That should help you find better balance with your time management. It's not that hard to keep up with school if you're just going out Friday and Saturday nights. You probably would have been spending that time on video games anyways, right? It's losing all the daytime hours to this stuff that makes your life completely unbalanced.

bigcug · 2013-12-21T02:53:44+00:00

Ya don't need to go out to meet girls man. To be a true playa, hit on girls in every day life.

sillymallard · 2013-12-20T19:17:01+00:00

Live life truthfully, and this will make all your problems of anxiety, complexity, and worry go away. It sounds like seddit is the only place where you are being true.
You never forget how to swim once you know. You might suck at again it initially if there's been a long time since you've gone swimming. However, you'll still be able to do it and get back to how good you were pretty quickly. The thing about most successful PUAs is that they have changed, permanently. But you can't change your height, the color of your eyes, or your personality. This permanent comes down to knowing what to do rather than thinking about what to do. The permanent change is knowledge. I've been in a relationship for close to two years, and even now, I cannot un-know the things I know about seduction. My perspective on everything is entirely changed. It's as simple as that.
Always upgrade. Don't worry about the past, worry about the present moment and whether your actions and energy right now are working towards a better future. Never stop upgrading, even when you're 80 years old!

mf_dk43 · 2013-12-20T19:53:23+00:00

I am in the exact same place, just graduated and I am going out so much more than I am used to. Pickup is on my mind ALL THE TIME, watching many simple pickup videos and "studying" pickup material. it is pretty much driving me insane, memorizing answers to shit tests, worrying about what to text, worry about what I should open with. When the best thing is just not "studying" at all and going out to the field and straight up approaching... im still trying to internalize that thought

BeastSlayer · 2013-12-20T20:28:00+00:00

It seems we all have to find the perfect balance between our studies and our night life.

ardentslayer · 2013-12-20T14:18:33+00:00

Ever look back at your high-school problems and think, "LOL holy shit I can't believe I bitched about that". The same thing will happen in like, a year from now.

When an athlete stops training because they're sick or injured, it's not as if they suddenly lose their athletic prowess. They just need time to dust off the cobwebs and get back into the zone.

Your problems will fix themselves with more experience, assuming you eventually start taking action (with respect to PUA) again.

I am afraid that if I don't constantly think about my game and about how to improve I will go back to that pit of loneliness

Manage your time so that you have time to work and time to go out. Unless you're literally that busy, you have the time.

I am afraid that I will get fat again if I eat too much (as you could imagine, a guy that sits all day in front of a computer screen isn't the fittest person in the world; i was kinda fat and I lost a lot of weight), and I will not be attractive anymore

Then exercise and don't eat shit food.

I am afraid that I will lose the status I gained by being the social one, so I keep changing personalities like clothes just to please the people around me

Then stop changing personalities. You gained social status by being your best self.

but no matter how many articles I read or how many funny SimplePickup videos I watch, I can't get my head out of this state.

Instead of trying to mindfuck yourself to get out of this state, actually get yourself out of this state by taking action in life.

Every single thing you do in life is a learning experience. There are no such thing as failures. Only "success" and "how to not succeed". Learning how to not succeed (i.e. learning from mistakes) is just as important as learning to succeed. All of the shit that you've recently gone through is just one big learning experience. These experiences make you into a man with emotional fortitude.

Title	Downfall, Fear and a Cry for Help
Author	ardentslayer
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	December 20, 2013 2:13 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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