What is abundance mentality? Sounds like a sexy term to roll off the tongue but do we appreciate how impactful it really is?

It's a world of difference in your dating life if you come from a place of scarcity mentality.

Abundance mentality means you don't place girls on pedestals.

Scarcity mentality means you're needy.

Abundance mentality means you have options.

Scarcity mentality means you have "that one girl."

Abundance mentality means you are just fine without her.

Scarcity mentality means you feel like you need her because girls like her are so, so rare.

Abundance mentality means you pursue sex, but don't stress out about not getting it.

Scarcity mentality means you're desperate for sex, and will do anything to get it.

You get the idea. Abundance mentality means RESULTS. It means a BETTER YOU. And the way you get abundance mentality is by constantly meeting girls. Even if things are going well with one, two, or even three of 'em. You're always meeting new girls. You never know what can happen. She may meet another guy. She may have lots going on in her life. She may not be interested in you. Who knows? Not your problem.

But do you ever have those moments when you've met a new, cool girl... you may have set up a date, maybe not... or you may have already gone on the date, and you aren't sure where to go from here?

We all have.

When in doubt, check your intentions.

  • Are you hitting her up to set up the next date, or just to "see if she's still into you?"
  • Are you intentionally waiting forever to text her back just so you don't look desperate, or texting her when you want?
  • Are you trying to build rapport with her and get to know her, or trying to impress her by being what you think she likes?
  • Are you trying really hard to rush into sex with her or are you letting it flow naturally?

By reading those, you probably knew what the right thing to do was. And you guessed it, the right thing to do will naturally come if you have abundance mentality.

Earlier this week, I thought about texting a girl I'd recently gone out with. We'd texted a few days prior and she was apparently very busy, but we agreed we'd get back in touch after a week or so. I want to see her again, but I realized I wanted to text her not to set up a second date, but I subconsciously wanted to see if she was still interested in me.

So I thought: What would someone with abundance mentality do? Would he text a girl just to see if she's still interested?

Probably not, because it's not an issue to him. If she is interested, he won't have to send texts like that to make sure. A man with abundance mentality does things with a purpose. If he texts her, he's building rapport or setting up the next date. If she's busy, he'll let it be for now and in the mean time go out and meet more girls!

So that's what I did. Went out to meet girls. And tonight (it's been a week) I texted this girl for a purpose. That purpose being to set up a date. My intentions were clear.

I realize it's very easy to just say "have abundance mentality" and it's much harder to actually do.

It's always harder to do than to say.

The way you create effective mindsets is to apply them. Live a lifestyle that illustrates that mentality. Force the change.

Meet more girls.

Set up more dates.

Pursue your goals, in dating and in life.

Develop your skills.

Do stuff you love to do.

Because girls love guys who live awesome lives. And guys who live awesome lives will naturally have abundance mentality.

I know you can too.