If any of you think I'm bashing seddit or pickup in general, let me go ahead and tell you I'm not. I'm simply sharing with you all a strategy that has worked well for me.

First, let's start off with an analogy.

The world of seduction is like a casino. Everyone goes in wanting to come out on top. Few do, most don't. And that's what makes this community special. We build each other up so that we can be that few. But most importantly, in casinos and in seduction, the odds are always against you. Discouraging? Yes, but if this shit was easy everyone would be getting laid regularly.

And that's why you teach yourself how to increase your odds. Sometimes, a total chode will go right into a bar/party/whatever and go home with a gorgeous woman. Not common, but it happens. Similarly, someone who knows nothing about casino games can walk in, bet a bunch, get lucky, and win a fortune. Once again, not common, but it happens. But the law of probability will usually take over if this guy keeps returning to the casino, and he'll eventually end up in the hole.

That's why gamblers get good at the game they're playing. That's why sedditors work to improve themselves to beat other guys at the game we're all playing.

Take blackjack, for instance. Think of every girl you approach as a hand in blackjack. You go by the book. You know when to hit, when to stay, when to double. Does it increase your odds? Yes. In the long run, you'll probably do better than someone who doesn't know how to play the game. However, you are eventually going to lose a hand and you know it. Think of this as rejection. You lose a hand, you move on. You win a hand, and you may keep playing, you may not. Think of winning a hand as any sort of progress with a girl you're talking to (getting a number, escalating with her physically, building rapport, kissing).

Let's say you win big on blackjack that night and walk away. You've just taken that hottie home.

Let's say you go by the book but it just isn't your night. You walk away from the table $200 in the hole. You did everything right, but the odds just didn't work out in your favor. And unfortunately, this is just the way it is sometimes with girls, even if you've spit great game and done everything right.

Rejection happens. Losing a blackjack hand happens. What makes us different from the rest is we don't give a fuck about it and we move on to the next one.

Most importantly, when a gambler who has lost some money keeps going back to the casino, it just goes from bad to worse. Chances are he WON'T win it all back and he's just making himself miserable by continuing to try. Going back to the casino time and time again to salvage his losses just makes him more desperate to win.

But if he stays away from it for a while and gets his shit together, he can go back with a clear mind and ignore his bad luck in the past. Instead of miserably trying to salvage his lost money, he starts fresh.

The same applies in pickup. If you aren't doing well and you are trying to recoup your losses, you put yourself at a disadvantage because you suddenly "need" to close. You have objectives you "need" to accomplish and you become outcome dependent. When you don't accomplish your objectives, it hurts your inner game. This is when you know it's time to take a few steps back and get your shit together.

Okay, casino analogy over.

The whole point I'm trying to make is that pickup can be frustrating at times. You've read up and put some of your new skills to use. You've conquered AA. You've built up confidence. You escalate with girls quickly and effectively. But maybe you have a long streak of rejections and you just need to chill for a while.

Sometimes you just need a break. Let's face it. This stuff will come naturally after a while, but it still requires work. You gotta go up to the girl and talk to her. You gotta follow through after you get her number, etc. For a few weeks I was going through the motions. Met a few girls, went on a few dates, but none of these really turned into anything. I got frustrated. I was tired of putting forth the effort of meeting girls and doing everything that followed. And I eventually noticed that this was affecting my game. I felt desperate at times. I felt like I wasn't giving it my all.

So, I decided to take a break from everything. I am currently on my third week of this and it has been wonderful. My frustration has gone away, I've been able to clear my head, and I've been able to focus on my schoolwork more. Am I planning on giving this up for good? Hell no. I plan on getting back into the game within a couple weeks. But as of now, I'm off the grid in this whole scene. It takes patience, but it is worth it.

It feels awesome. I remember the last week before I started to break from all this- I was really overwhelmed with everything. I needed to clear my head before getting back into everything.

And now that I have been, it really feels great. And I think that once I get back into the game I will be able to give 100% again.

EDIT: Just for clarity, by "taking a break" I mean:

  • not approaching new girls
  • not getting numbers
  • not trying to get things going with girls I already know
  • when I go out to a bar/party I am there to have fun and get drunk, nothing more
  • I keep the reading of seddit and related stuff to a minimum
  • if a girl is showing interest in me, I let things play out but don't put forth too much effort. if something good happens, awesome.
  • I recommend 2-3 weeks out of the game before jumping back in. YMMV though.

TL;DR- Taking a break from everything seduction/pickup related allows you to relax, clear your head, and really improve your game. I highly recommend it.

Also, props to you if you read the whole thing.