I never liked the saying "Good things come to those who wait." It seems to imply that if you sit on your ass and wait for good things to come to you, it will happen. But we all know the truth is that good things come to those who get off their ass and go get it. But if anything, I think the saying should go like this:

Good things come to those who are patient.

Boys need instant gratification. Men are patient. Boys need to get laid now. Men know that sex will come with time and that it isn't something that should be rushed. Boys need to see the girl they're talking to TONIGHT. Men understand that she may be busy tonight, and the thought of waiting a few days does not bother them. There are plenty more girls out there to meet.

Etc.

Let me tell you a story:

I met a very cute girl last weekend. Talked to her for a few minutes and went straight for the number. She was excited to give it to me. I felt the positive vibes and thought "this girl is awesome! I'm going to get her out with me this week!"

We parted ways and I texted her the next day, trying to set up a date.

She told me she wanted to but that she was very busy this week, but hoped we could work something out at some point. A little frustrated, I said okay and waited a day. The next day I talked to her and suggested this weekend or possibly next week. She was still a little hesitant. But I did not take it personally because it was obvious she was flustered from school and did not want to commit to a date just yet. So she responded "I'll let you know later!"

You see, we just happen to be grad students at the same school, and she takes school very seriously. Nothing wrong with that at all. And I was not ready to give up just yet because I could tell she was interested, but had her priorities straight. If anything, that's a turn on.

So what did I do next? Well, I was tempted to wait a few days and then hit her with the question again. But then I thought... what would a real man do right here? What would a "nice guy" do right here?

I'll tell you what. Being that "nice guys" are mostly selfish and want instant gratification, they would probably text her and say "you figure out when you want to meet this weekend?" and try to pressure her into coming out with them.

Not good. Dates cannot be forced, and we ALL know that.

But the real man would be understanding and patient above all else. Moreover, she probably EXPECTED me to text her again trying to get her out because that's what MOST guys would do. So what did I do? I texted her and said "Hey, it sounds like you need a little more time to get this school thing under your belt. I still would love to meet up, so why don't you take a couple weeks to get acclimated and I'll get in touch with you after that?"

Was I reluctant to do that? Yes. Do I want to see her this weekend? Yes. But sometimes (well, usually) the tougher decision is the right one.

She responded enthusiastically. She told me that sounded perfect and thanked me for understanding.

Me sending that text showed 3 very attractive traits: 1) Patience 2) Understanding and 3) Self-Control

If I had nagged her again to come out it would have most likely made me look 1) Impatient 2) Desperate 3) Needy. Not good.

But patience applies to much more than this situation. If you're just getting started with pickup, don't expect to start seeing immediate results. This shit takes time, effort, and determination. You'll get rejected, girls will flake, some girls you meet up with won't want to hook up just yet. But you gotta be a man about it and keep your cool.

I'll say it again. Good things come to those who get off their ass and go get it, but are patient as well.

Here are some tips on practicing patience and making it a virtue you truly excel at:

  • Stop freaking out if the guy in front of you is driving slow. It's not a big deal at all.

  • Stop being late. Leave your place with plenty of time to spare on your way to work or school. You won't be in a hurry, and hitting a bunch of red lights won't bother you

  • Keep yourself busy. Whatever you're counting down the seconds to won't seem so far off if you keep yourself busy with important shit

  • If a girl is taking forever to text you back, see the above point. Stop sitting by your phone waiting for her to respond. She has a life and so do you.

  • If you have a situation like mine where a girl can't meet up with you anytime soon, GO. MEET. MORE. GIRLS. Now.

TL;DR: If you can't stand waiting for something, then maybe seduction isn't for you.

Onward and upward.