Sounds obvious, right? Well, many guys (myself included) have trouble with this. It gets pretty easy to worry about things when it comes to girls. Here are just a few examples of common thoughts some guys have in this area:

  • Why isn't she texting me back? Did I fuck up in my initial text?
  • I hope she had a good impression of me on our first date! I didn't do anything wrong did I?
  • Haven't heard from her in a while. I wonder if she's seeing any other guys?
  • Why doesn't she like me? Am I not enough of an asshole?

And on and on and on. Let me pose a question: Does thinking like this benefit you at all? Of course not. I struggle with this stuff too. It can be easy to get caught up with worrying about dumb stuff to the point where it interferes with you being YOU.

Focus on improving yourself. Focus on building your confidence and making yourself irresistible to women. Don't focus on getting more numbers or sleeping with more girls. These are EXTERNAL factors that are only secondary to you improving you, that you have much less control over. You need to stay focused on things you can control, and then rewards will come with time.

Here's a common example of applying this: You meet girl, hit it off, exchange numbers, and part ways. Things went great! She seems interested, and you think she's a cool girl. You text her the next day to set up a meet.

And she isn't responding to you.

You think "what?! but she seemed so interested! What's her deal?" etc. etc etc. And you start worrying about whether it'll happen or not.

First off, sometimes this stuff just happens. Relax. People are busy. Second, by worrying here, you are focusing on something completely beyond your control, and this gets you nowhere. You did what you wanted to do and you did it right. Now the ball's in her court. And that's it.

And when you think like this, your mindsets will change from "I hope I didn't mess things up and she responds!" to "Well, I did my best and hopefully I can see this girl again. But if she doesn't respond, her loss. Time to meet more girls."

Worrying is a nasty demon that can only hurt your game. And when you choose not to focus on things you can't control (Her choosing to meet up with you; coming home with you; liking you) that nasty demon will go away.

TL;DR: Finding the strength to let go of what you can't control and focus only on what you can will help you reach a peace of mind and stop worrying so much.