Escalating when she's over

mindfully_liberated · 2014-03-31T19:52:55+00:00

This is crazy man!! If you get her over your house, it's over, you already won.

Start with just sitting next to them with the tv on, talking. Then scoot closer. Then lean on her, or have her lean on you. Be creative.

Then ask her if she's ticklish, when she says yes, ask her where and then tickle her. After tickling her you go in and tickle her again, except this time you kiss her. Done.

I'll never forgot there was one time I got this really cute girl from Amsterdam to come to my house from the bar.

I remember brinigng her in and going to my mini bar pulling out a bottle of vodka in a cup.

As I'm pouring it with my back turned, I asked her, would you like a drink.

She goes no, no thanks.

While still pouring, with my back turned, I turn my head up as if I'm looking into a camera, and a fat smile stamps my face.

I stop. Put the bottle down. Think about it for a second, and then I say .... yup!!! Put the cup down and just take my shirt off while charging her.

Moral of the story is, why else is she going to your house? To bake cupcakes? Nah nigga.

figuredishouldwrite · 2014-03-31T21:15:11+00:00

The only thing I can add to what the other dude has said, is these chicks like you enough for you to come over. Then you must be cool. Think of what the cool dude you wants to do and do it.

"Moral of the story is, why else is she going to your house? To bake cupcakes? Nah nigga." - mindfully_liberated

Heater79 · 2014-04-01T02:29:44+00:00

Another good line to get them thinking about kissing you - works at home, or in a bar somewhere - great ice breaker too.

"When you kiss someone, do you naturally lean your head left or right?"

Everyone has a preferred side - it gets ladies thinking about kissing and you can build from there. "Oh, I'm a right leaner as well - I guess this means you'll have to compromise and go the other way"... or "if you ask nicely, I'd lean left for you", etc. I've used this with great success in the past.

Doomsday_ · 2014-04-01T00:16:49+00:00

we talk like friends

Firstly, the talk should get more personal, intimate, and emotional later on in the date. You should be talking to her like her lover, not her friend.

I don't know how to escalate when she's over at mine.

Sit beside her on a couch or bed, as this makes kino easier and less awkward. You can watch a movie/TV or put on music.
Begin with light kino such as putting your arm around her shoulders, or resting your hand on her thigh. (you should already have done ligher kino like touching her arm earlier on the date)
Eventually you go in for the kiss. It's easiest if she is sitting beside you or if you are both standing up. Don't wait too long before trying. There is no "perfect" time so you just have to make the move and go for it. One thing you can do is place your hand behind her neck and gently pull her face toward you. If she pulls away, you don't make a big deal of it and just continue talking to build comfort and an emotional connection, then try again a bit later. If the kiss attempt is accepted, don't go caveman. Don't use tongue for the first kiss; keep it light and short (you should pull away first).
After a few of these lighter kisses, initiate the makeout. If you don't know how to escalate while making out, follow the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder.

If you are too pussy to go in for the kiss without asking her, you can try the Mystery kiss close. Ask her, "Would you like to kiss me?" If she says "yes," obviously you go for it. If she hesitates, you say, "Let's find out," and then go for it. (if she says "No" you are sunk, but that's unlikely if she's been giving IOS)

DamienDieckeSOA · 2014-03-31T21:25:41+00:00

Hey buddy,

Yep, even though you are in theory at the 'easiest' part of the night, I certainly remember myself screwing up and sadly not actually screwing a lot of interactions under similar circumstances.

The reality is that the best thing to do is find one strategy that you can repeat every time over and over again. It doesn't even have to be a really smooth strategy either by the way. You just have to find a way that doesn't scare her, even it it's slightly badly calibrated, if she already likes you then it's totally fine. She'll just smile to herself at how nervous you are, but 90% of the time a woman will just consider that 'cute' and not a turn off at all. But again, you can't give her a fright while trying to kiss her like lunging a her or anything. Sadly, I've done this before many years ago, and many times.

One strategy I used to use A LOT when I was trying to overcome this, was to challenge her to kiss me. Something like:

ME: You know, you can always tell how good a kisser a woman is just by watching her walk HER: Oh really? ME: Yeah, like remember that waitress at the cafe? HORRIBLE kisser, her hips barely moved when she walked and she stomped around, kissing her would be like making out with a prison guard. HER: haha ME: But you remember the bartender? She'd probably be a very good kisser indeed. Pity she wasn't my type though. HER: She wasn't that bad ME: Yeah she was, she ha a lazy eye that freaked me out! Don't even get me started on you. Because you can tell so much from the way a woman walks. HER: No, tell me, tell me! ME: No I don't want to offend you HER: What? No, I promise I won't get offended ME: Well..... you'd get an A for effort. HER: not true! I'm a great kisser! ME: Of course guys will tell you that, they're hoping flattery will get them everywhere HER: No, I really am! ME: Okay prove it!

That kind of fun banter was how I started overcoming that terrible problem of not being able to find the right moment to kiss a girl. It's not necessary to do it that way, but having a good little process like that up your sleeve can make the moment a hell of a lot less stressful and a hell of a lot more successful :)

Girlproblems92 · 2014-04-01T02:07:28+00:00

You have to set the right mood. Invite her over to watch a movie, something funny and not too serious (romantic comedies are great). When she comes over talk for a little bit and then say lets watch the movie, etc. Turn the lights off so it feels good and as the movie progresses get closer to her, rest your hand on her leg and eventually reach your hand out to her..You have to understand, if she's coming over to watch a movie with you (and you've established that you're interested in her more than just friends), then she most likely wants you to kiss her too. Wait for the right moment, turn to her and look her in the eye and start getting closer, she'll know what the deal is and will go in for the kiss too. Once you make the move and kiss once, it's easy from there. You will forget the movie is even on and start cuddling kissing and enjoying each others chemistry. Hope that helps, its not easy to make the move but you gotta just have the mentality that there's nothing to lose and go for it. Can't have regrets wishing you made the move. Best of luck, pal!

2014-04-01T14:12:18+00:00

She's already there. Just kiss her.

Title	Escalating when she's over
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Date	March 31, 2014 7:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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