[FR]Hit a low point today. Cried a little, rant.

RandianHero · 2014-04-10T05:02:20+00:00

Don't give up, son. Everyone who's ever had any real success sat exactly where you sit now. But it gets better. You'll learn the rules and they'll be second nature to you. You won't even think about them after a while -- you'll just do what needs to be done. You're already way ahead of the curve for beginners by the sheer grace that you're talking to people, stepping out of your comfort zone, and getting numbers at all. You've got a ways to go, but take a step back and admire how far you've actually come. Some guys on here? They haven't even mustered the courage to talk to women, let alone build enough of a rapport with them that they'll score dates (even friend dates).

You're going to get there eventually, I promise. And when you do, you'll look back on this time as the rocky start that all of us go through at one point or another.

mast0rz · 2014-04-10T08:07:10+00:00

The best part of hitting the bottom is it can only get better from here. Stay strong. Don't pursue women, pursue your dreams and women will follow!

lord_of_vader · 2014-04-10T12:45:51+00:00

Hey man. I know those feels.

You put on your war paint, marched into battle, and got licked. It happens.

BUT. Look at all you've accomplished. You approached, you got numbers, you got the reference. You did what 99% of guys simply won't do: walk up to a beautiful woman and say hi. That's amazing. Too many people look ahead and say "I didn't get that", instead of looking at where they're standing and say "look how far I've come".

So take your licking. Feel that burn in your chest? That fire will kill you or turn you into a 2.0 of yourself. All you have to do now is make a decision. Are you a sheep or a lion?

ArtistBlock · 2014-04-10T05:16:44+00:00

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ArtistBlock · 2014-04-10T06:02:32+00:00

We all have our downs man, it's hard. When I'm going through a lull where things in my life aren't going very well (Low success with women, lack of motivation to hit the gym, bad exam score, etc) I just look back and see how far I've come, even from my low point. I know that by holding my ground, making slow, steady progress over time will get me to the place I want to be.

I've approached 10 women this month already and haven't number closed a single one of them. Is it disheartening? Yes. Am I proud that my AA is slowly fading? Yes. The key is that personal growth is the slowest, most painful endeavor to succeed in, and you need to be willing to acknowledge that when the going gets tough. Imagine your progress like a rising stock. Ups and downs short term, but more ups than downs in the long term.

Bottom line, accept the lows and love yourself for the progress you've made. Take a day or two off to clear your mind and get lots of sleep, it will help a lot.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-04-10T06:48:33+00:00

I've been where you were. I know how you feel, I've experienced it all. What I did to overcome it? Just not take this whole seduction thing as seriously. Honestly, just don't even worry about it dude. You're over thinking everything, you probably went into that coffee shop and tried to think out your life in the next couple of years, and trying to sabotage your mindset but believing that you'll never get girls and all these other negative things.

My advice to you is to not think about it. Don't pollute your mind with these negative thoughts. Forget about all the shit you've done before, forget about all the blow outs, the rejections and the dates and listen to what I'm going to tell you now. From now on you're going to make each and every one of your interactions with women count. Those numbers you got, you probably texted them once and decided that things were dead after getting no reply. What you should do for next time is hit up those numbers again in a couple days with something relevant. Don't be so eager to call each number dead and throw away each opportunity with a girl. You don't want to plow, just ping each number once more. After the second text though and you still don't get a reply that's when I would call it dead. But give it some time, maybe ping again in a couple more weeks after that.

All in all just don't take it so seriously man, look at the positive shit going on in your life and don't even think about the negatives. I've had so many rejections I just forget about them all lol. Like they literally never happened and I just move on.

Only focus on the positives, don't take pickup too seriously, approach those cute girls when you see them, make your interactions COUNT, and don't be so quick to call a number dead if they didn't reply to one text. Good luck.

MarkTheWanderer · 2014-04-10T09:45:49+00:00

If there was any advice that was ever useful to me it's to stop looking for a SO and you'll get one. Fake it till you make it bro, don't put all your money on these girls, simply keep getting numbers and pushing as far as you can. Yeah I'll admit, I'm pretty sad and lonely myself, but I'll be damned if anyone other then me is allowed to see it. Acting the part of not caring will lead you to genuinely not caring.

2014-04-10T10:06:38+00:00

Man if it were easy to be a PUA everyone would do it. But is isn't. So work hard and have a good fucking time cause every girl that says she has a boyfriend really needs a manfriend

Title	[FR]Hit a low point today. Cried a little, rant.
Author	ArtistBlock
Upvotes	2
Comments	14
Date	April 10, 2014 4:49 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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