Should you give more weight to a girls Indicators of Interest or Indicators of Disinterest?

2014-05-07T06:24:21+00:00

You should stop overanalyzing. Assume attraction until proven otherwise. She flaked, but she wants to meet up. Do it, and if she flakes again, put her on the back burner.

Doppleganger07 · 2014-05-07T05:08:29+00:00

To me this is normal, some girls just like to take their time replying so they wont seem needy, others actually have things to do. Just stick to the time of the meet up and don't be needy. (Ex. don't txt "so we still meeting up?") Just go, tell her your going, "see you in a bit :)" or whatever. If she flakes, go home or go do something else that you enjoy. Don't take it personal that she wont meet you that day. Try again later, if same thing happens and you feel shes playing, move on.

Patience is the refined sense of confidence. So be patient and meanwhile go after another girl or keep busy with your things.

And for the IOIs and IODs. I wouldn't really consider them IOIs or IODs. What works best is when you see her in person and actually see the physical IOI. Its just more simple, don't break your head over 1 girl.

yummyluckycharms · 2014-05-07T05:43:47+00:00

General rule of thumb is - whichever one is bigger and more meaningful.

A lot of women blow hot and cold, but they usually blow one way more. Its takes some practice and you're not going to get it right 100%

In your case, the IOI is pretty weak - she might be just bored. Flaking on the other hand is a huge IOD - like major. She's just toying with you - I would next her. There are just so many choices, especially if you are doing online dating.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-07T07:01:12+00:00

she sounds interesting, but you're being needy, so she doesn't care about you. tighten up your game and she'll respond well.

2014-05-07T13:03:45+00:00

You're overthinking and overanalyzing. Focus on being relaxed and having fun.

The thing is, you're inherently coming from the frame where you don't think you're enough. Now, I'm exaggerating, but when you're coming from this frame of mind, you can perform the correct techniques, but they still won't work because you're coming from the wrong mentality. If you relax and focus on enjoying yourself, then you'll virtually do everything correctly anyway.

If she's a smart girl, and you keep up with this mentality of "should I perform <x> or <y> technique?", then she's gonna get tired of your manipulative shit real quickly. Don't get discouraged or scared by this. It's natural to have this mentality when you're first starting out. Just use this as a little wake-up call.

Afeni02 · 2014-05-07T14:15:24+00:00

IOI for an IOI.

IOD for IOD

DaygameCoach · 2014-05-09T19:40:00+00:00

It's hard to respond without more detail...but I will say this: If she cancels last minute early on in the dating without a good reason, I'm done with her. If she has a good reason and is rescheduling instead of canceling, I'd give her a chance, if it's not a recurring thing. Generally things go downhill when people are canceling or rescheduling because obviously there are more important things to her (or you) than each other (or dating).

If you were getting mixed signals IN a set (in person), I'd say to look up Robert Greene's Hot and Cold Coquette in Art of Seduction, since it's an actual seduction style and is ok.

Cuisine, www.daygamer.net

Title	Should you give more weight to a girls Indicators of Interest or Indicators of Disinterest?
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Date	May 7, 2014 4:22 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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