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1: Sprezzatura and Least Effort

Now, we all know that we should approach and carry on our dating dance with reservedness. Why? The general law is this. Everything you do must appear most natural and effortless. (Which only comes after you dissect general rules from the vagaries of much experience) IQ plays a great role here and that's why I think that the returns on IQ of dating is U - shaped. The hot, dumb guys can get in there cause they are physical, aggressive, fast and are "in" with what's popular. But to be universally and independently severely good is to have a higher IQ than the average Joe. It's needed to figure out general rules. The other part of this is the person who appears to put the least amount of effort out, while getting the largest amount of effort returned to him by others, comes across as the most socially powerful. This is the CRUX of why alpha is higher value than beta. It ultimately comes down to the economics of it. As time is a currency, the alpha or "cad" gives up less and gets more as a short example.

This is usually why it's almost certain that the guy she settles down with isn't the guy who set the best record unless she's a virgin or had milquetoast guys mostly. These two change because you could still put in too much effort for a celebrity, a rich guy, a successful man. Especially if she mingles in these crowds why do you think these girls are "harder" for most celebrities? On who's dated who, I look for a guy who's ploughed through all my favorites never happens. It's hard.

2: Frame Pinching

Not really needed. When one is picking up chicks when broke in fact as your skills reach veteran level you'll think about picking up chicks poor and be like that's a whole lot easier. Why? Well, girls evaluate the guys they gave sex with in two ways. Lover and provider. A woman can look for and perhaps find both in one person to varying degrees of success. But, both are often negatively correlated whereas some contradict the others completely. So what I do say is this. More of a lover/ less of a provider. Why? Because the lover actually gets more from her. Her emotional investment in him is stronger, she's more devoted etc. She may see him as a disposition as well but lovers are rare. Many guys are wealthy. Especially if she's super-hot. She's probably in a celebrity circle with Justin Bieber, Cameron Dallas getting used to the good life it becomes threshold.

Lovers have a steeper curve to getting there and much of that is genetically determined like good looks, charisma, masculinity etc. The experience level and perception is also a factor. Perception means a PUA may be missing out on new techniques and levels of expertise that he may never know of it it's known to very little and it's done mostly behind closed quarters like how to escalate to sex once in the apartment. He's much rarer. He's built for a more primal level of attraction. As Ninon de Lenclos admitted to the other women in her court, There's a lover usually poor who commands such affection from her that she cannot sacrifice him with eclat (not the nice guy cause he's had many experiences with this) but cannot help but blush at mention of his name. She may leave you to marry a more "suitable" partner socially but that's cause women are more pragmatic. They evolutionarily had to be. Thus you still have her. She's just "kept" with another guy. Many female relationship counselors will attest to this with women. I recall the quote " I love my husband but there are sides to me he'll never know."

The provider frame is very dangerous to fall into when very rich and successful. But the R&S of Hollywood are usually very high in cad-like traits so let's skip to where we usually see guys cleaned out and hung to dry. It's in business. Poor Elon. He noticed at least. Frame Pinching is thus simply having a tighter frame of "I am not your Prince Charming" but in as subtle and non-sleazy a way as you can if you like. It means indicating that there's a time bar for how long I'll wait and how much games you can play. Before, I'll just "ghost" you and move on. If you think this is manipulative, remember arrogant and manipulative guys have higher notch counts. In general, they always get a better deal.

3: Frame control of paying for shit.

Now, that's really something isn't it. If you're a fucking rich dude. You're expected to pay for shit. When you were not it was 20 dollars on the first date and 75 on after she sleeps with you etc. But now, you'll look weird. If you don't use logistics to aid your frame. So i.e. only meeting her in your bachelor pad, hotel room and ordering necessities. Christian Grey slept with her before ANYTHING fancy. He kept things simple because you are rich. Simple is probably awe-inspiring to a normal girl! Right! Just to see you solid gold jacuzzi or room service. She'll see it as your baseline threshold eventually and so see #1. You also MUST not make a fuss with money but there's a bit of a Berkson's paradox with the "acting like I don't care" or maybe you don't. Like most. If you're still spending lots of money like 20 mill loses relativity.

4: Bringing her to a level she realizes she can't afford to do without.

Now, this is where the going gets tough. She realizes that she has to keep you. She doesn't usually date a man this suitable as a provider. The better and more mesmerizing the lover you have to be. He is biologically and primally attractive. The provider is socially attractive. Right? But conspicuous consumption makes the phase change from provider to lover. Let her see your preselection. Let it intimidate her. It is conflicting interests. It is war. All's fair. Let her see you do all those things only guys like YOU can get away with, abide the fringes of course. This may trigger walls if not done properly.

Pull your own edges not the normal guy edges. The more you get away with compared to others, the higher your value. As long as you don't cross her walls. If you are ABLE to smack day ass when you first meet her and get her to take it. You are the man compared to the other guys she's probably also seeing who acts impeccably like a gentleman. You must also assert the male birthright that society tries to take away from you, the hot animal balanced of a cold, social predator. You must assert your sexism, cause it's fact not fiction that men are in charge. Be a benevolent sexist, who thinks women are just so silly and cute. Never get angry, ashamed or hot under the collar. Unless she DEMANDS it even so play her like Machiavelli with variable rewards like a slot machine plays you. If it works it works. Satire is the greatest form of cunning in a world of the pseudo morally superior. Make her out of control. Be mysterious. Be challenging. Be addictive. Be alpha. So set the precedent for your relations from the get go from at home chilling to great outings or whatever is your Normal not vice versa. That's not momentum. She wants momentum.

With social grace, you figure out how much anyone or you specifically can get away with. You know the walls and are very edgy but ultimately don't hit them. That takes real skill and intelligence. That's why, the hot, dumb guy has a threshold. He can remember but he thinks, specifically. There are several studies that say that barring an LD or autism, EQ is correlated to IQ. It's a function of IQ, not much by itself. But the smartest players don't make their awareness known especially if it's on a creepy, "you're naked level" which many intelligent guys have. They analyze these things well but they don't interact well luckily I have fearless dominance (Psychopathy Inventory wikipedia). Make her give up the pussy. The speed is relative, a woman is new to Hollywood, you take her faster and not so much if not. Usually she's smart enough to still recognize your skill. She catches the feelings from the fucking, how fast you get there and how well you fuck her. A woman is never really yours until you've fucked her real silly.

Romance is a place where the narcissist is king, why? He demands to win, he demands special treatment and more and more concessions and guess what you can have everything you want, say anything, do anything if you only know HOW. The narcissist wants to set the best precedent, he wants to swallow her whole. Not as much as PC says he should, not as much as Gloria Steinem says he should but what he wants. EVERYTHING. He takes. It's a game. If you aim to lose, you've already lost. It's a chess game, if there's no attack intent. You can't win. Even a stalemate can't be your intent.

5: Have rare things for R&S guys.

This boosts game with to the girls on the same social status. If you are a nerdy entrepreneur who also was a highly decorated SAS soldier who can show that masculine dominance. (Physical) Cause mental only works if the other guy cares and she cares (no matter how smart the frame context usually will make her not), you have thugs or you're telepathic/telekinetic. Besides all the guys are smart but you can survive if civilization has fallen. You can have the best style etc. But remember some things go counter to the nudist, buddhist rule. In Hollywood, style is nothing but among the Justin Biebers real physical masculine dominance puts you ahead. In the entrepreneur world, having a life outside of it puts you ahead. Being a hard-partying playboy by night puts you ahead etc. Differentiation comparatively.

Lastly, one should have good fundamentals: initial attractors. A man's scent, his style that fits him and his persona, the strong, confident body language, his walk or "stride", his swagger, his charisma, his frame control, his looks, his ease with himself, the attention he gives (how distracted is he), his grooming etc.

5: Let her respect your respect for yourself. Masculinity is rare. Don't let her run amok on you. Try this:

State Goal (tell her what you want to have happen and why)

Monitor Behavior (pay attention to what she actually does)

Reinforce Desired Behavior (reward her for good behavior) taking her out, sex, etc.

Reduce Incentives for Undesired Behavior(remove rewards for bad behavior) like dread game, walking off, breaking up etc.

Remember ban sex after drama. Let her associate your making her a little girl again with accepting you are the alpha. Never give anything less than equal or greater returns mostly. If anyone does like it - mostly there's the door. Remain calm and resolute in the face of drama. Handle her emotions by controlling your attainability. Always be less invested than she. Stick to your decisions (so don't be hot headed and say dumb things). As she misbehaves and throws tantrums, dial back your effort and interest but don't always punish (see above). Be relaxed and secure in the face of competition. Be discreet and don't judge. Decline to over-invest in her especially before sex. Move fast or even fastest with her. That's a man's precedent.

You'll use this when a girlfriend is:

Accusing you of something harshly Being extremely rude or deliberately hurtful Making threats (this is a big one; you must have zero tolerance for threats)

... and anything else in that category of "extreme and petulant."

What kind of aversive stimuli should you use?

Either:

Righteous anger and indignation,Kicking her out / leaving, or Breaking up with her.

In that order of extremity. Usually the first is enough for dealing with these, but sometimes a situation calls for more.

I won't go over these again since they're already covered in detail in the two articles just linked to. Do have a look at those if you'd like to know more about them.

If you're wondering why something less strong than these isn't an option, it's because anything weaker falls into the realm of passive aggressive.

If you simply rely on, say, sarcasm, or bitterness, as a response to very bad behavior, that's actually passive aggressiveness, and it comes across as weak. It is, therefore, not effective punishment. Use righteous anger instead.

There are all kinds of rewards scattered throughout your relationship. Anything that she enjoys, that makes her feel good, and that she values that comes from you is a reward. These include:

Spending time together Talking with one another Being seen in public together Being physically affectionate Having sex with one another Going on outings together Going on trips together

... and any number of other things you can think of that you do together.

You can give her more of these things as rewards for good behavior, and less of them as penalties for bad behavior.

But in the real world, things aren't so simple, and the aversive stimulus you mean to use as "punishment" can actually provide reward. Things like:

Attention (even if it's to yell at her) A response (even a negative one) Her knowing she can get you to react if she wants to Her knowing she has the ability to push your buttons

... all simply serve to reinforce a behavior (unless the punishment is so severe that is thoroughly discourages it - we'll talk about this in a bit).

The problem with positive punishment (giving aversive stimuli... what most people traditionally think of as punishment) is that it just as often reinforces a behavior in real world non-laboratory settings as it dissuades someone from it.

And the problem with negative reinforcement (removing an aversive stimulus) is that unless you can find some way to be constantly punishing a woman in the real world, there's not really all that much aversive stimuli for you to remove.

So sometimes extinction, sometimes something will be minor enough that you don't need to use the giving or taking of a reward to deal with it. It's the equivalent of a young child who learns a dirty word and keeps using it because people keep laughing... as soon as the laughter stops happening, the word stops getting used.

Your relationships work exactly like this. Always make sure you've clearly asserted your dominance in a relationship. Always call out the fight. Call out the intensity. Never be ashamed. The most brazen wins.

Have arguments like this: A woman said she's done doing nice things for me.

"You mean... you're done doing nice things for me now, or you're done doing nice things for me forever?"

"Forever," she said.

"Okay," I said, barely containing my anger. "So in other words, you're just kind of gonna be here, taking up space, taking up my time, but not really contributing anything to my life, is that right? So there's really no reason to have you around?"

"Do you want to break up with me?" she asked me.

"Yeah, I do," I said. "I don't want to waste time on someone who's going to be selfish and inconsiderate."

That last part is EXTREMELY important - you need to tell the girl what she's doing wrong. Because that's how she knows what she needs to give ground on. You tell her, "I can't be with someone who's [blank]," and now she knows exactly what she needs to say she isn't, or what she needs to fix, in order to maintain the relationship.

As it was, this one ended fine, and actually was caused by a misunderstanding of something my girlfriend thought she heard me talking about with my friend. She thought I'd said one thing when I'd really said another; she apologized, and everything was fine.

It wouldn't have been had I not escalated though. She likely would've sat there and stewed for hours, angry about something that didn't even occur. And wore you down. So get it done. If you've over-invested and clearly lost ground, dial back to regain etc.

That boys is how you stack the game for you as a rich, successful man whose already at risk of being a provider pariah.

You start from abundance and move fast even if you want a relationship.

Maybe start casual and local before global and serious.

Trade gifts for experiences.

Learn more about each other.

Keep flirting with each other.

Keep experimenting in bed.

Keep improving yourselves.

Pick the right person. https://pastebin.com/bQ5Q83nV

Remove the ones about infidelity and the like and you're golden.

Cheers.

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