Rushing into game too quickly after a painful breakup?

theginger3469 · 2014-07-06T14:20:31+00:00

That all depends on you dude. If you let your own "baggage" get to you it will effect your in-field work. If you make the decision to not let it affect your game then it won't.

Remember, practice practice practice. You're going to stumble, you're going to screw up. Don't look back and think "Damn, if I didn't have so much baggage that may have worked out". This is a terrible mindset. Look back and think "ok, what didn't work well, what didn't she like, how can improve?"

gigitygigitygoo · 2014-07-06T16:07:40+00:00

I still have baggage and it's been years. Don't wait for it to disappear or you're giving up a lot of opportunity for self-improvement which is a big part of seduction.

I signed up for online dating to get my mind in a better place after my divorce and it worked wonders. There are a lot of women on there who are in the same boat as you so don't fret about baggage.

Tombstone31 · 2014-07-06T14:29:29+00:00

Like muscles, your confidence and ease in new situations will only grow as an adaptive response to stress.

2014-07-07T10:02:53+00:00

Exactly what most people are saying here. If you think that it will affect you it will. Most of game is mental. Just know that self improvement is never a wrong option. Also don't forget to enjoy life a little and take a break from everything.

highhopes01 · 2014-07-07T21:56:45+00:00

I worked on myself for some time since my breakup. It was a hard one. My partner was one of those "I will never hurt you" kind of girls. I was with her for about three years. She helped me get through some very hard times in my life. In that relationship, I let myself spiral due to me being in a comfort zone of having a partner for life.

Since then I have dropped around twenty pounds, gone down four belt holes and I have added some muscle. I haven't had any sexual outings, but I have turned a few down. I enjoy being pursued, plus I think that really makes other girls desire me more to see women actively trying to get with me. Something I need to work on though is really only being into girls who are a challenge to me. Maybe it is kind of a personal standards thing.

My social circle is growing. It isn't growing as quickly as I would like it do, but I will take any growth I can possibly get. I live in a smalltown, so any new people I can meet, I am happy to.

I think the best thing to do after a breakup is not to rush into another relationship or even sexual encounter. After a breakup you are going to be very needy, or you are going to be known as "that breakup" guy. You mentioned your baggage. Fix yourself and things will work for you. You do not need another person to complete you, just a person to compliment you as a partner.

Working on yourself is always going to bring you the best results. Go out. Have fun. You will meet people naturally. Girls prefer men who take care of themselves and are very positive people who have no issues with themselves. What is in your head is almost three times as effective as what is on your exterior.

lord_of_vader · 2014-07-09T14:28:46+00:00

The process is viciously symbiotic, and at some point you must necessarily push yourself into this cycle.

As you become a better candidate for women, your success will increase, causing you to want to push yourself to be even better, to achieve more success with better (hotter, younger, etc.) women.

I was in a similar situation, and took the slow burn route, with great success. Realize that pickup is essentially sales, and you need to focus on creating a product (yourself) that people (women) want (to bang).

Title	Rushing into game too quickly after a painful breakup?
Author	Psych40
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	July 6, 2014 2:14 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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