How to deal with being ignored (online)

IpickupGrandmothers · 2014-07-15T12:46:44+00:00

People are going to ignore you. Not just in seduction, but in real-life as well. With the exception of maybe your parents, nobody owes you their attention or affection.

SFofallplaces · 2014-07-15T21:21:15+00:00

Jesus Christ, the amount of “just ignore them” shit here is annoying. OP is asking for tactics for a better response rate. He did not say “how dare they!”

Ok, terrific. He’ll need to move on from these, but to anyone with two brain cells to rub together, OP is asking for a better phrasing tactic for the next time. Learn to read critically.

Ru5k0 · 2014-07-15T13:59:13+00:00

Maybe the frame of the conversation changed. If you're chatting for a few hours as pals and then suddenly drop the date bomb on them and they've already calibrated you in a friendly way, it'll throw them off and weird them out. Take a look at how you have been conversing. Personally I'd trim the conversations down a bit and ask them out sooner so there's no opportunity for misunderstood intentions. Build comfort and attraction in person, not over facebook.

that1guywithredhair · 2014-07-15T08:21:48+00:00

Rejection is a part of self-improvement. There is no such thing as a "man who gets any woman he wants". But even if you get no response, do these activities you mention anyway. And yes, alone.

samboodee · 2014-07-17T02:45:18+00:00

also you were talking to them like friends for too long and I'm assuming you didn't get their phone number while interacting in person...you were friend-zoned man, that's why they didn't message you back. Those girls are pretending that they didn't read your message so that you can figure out on your own that they have no interest in you. Has happened to me too in the past

Gallows9 · 2014-07-15T15:18:29+00:00

Stop caring about it. Overcoming your need for a response and validation sounds like it needs to be your first big goal.

Dating new women (ESPECIALLY online) is such a craps shoot. They flake, you flake, they just want attention, something comes up, you're not interesting to them, etc. There are a million reasons a first time date won't work. Just roll with it and learn from every rejection.

locotaco789 · 2014-07-15T20:45:18+00:00

I have never had success with using Facebook to ask someone to hang out. I would totally just recommend going up to them face to face or asking for their number first. Im not super experienced in that department but from the limited times I was chatting to them on Facebook, they would just go right over the comment.

For example, one girl I was talking to even told my roommate to talk to her face to face and even months later was still okay with going on a date. It just had to be in person. Its one of those things to over come and learn from. I definitely did.

samboodee · 2014-07-17T02:46:36+00:00

Don't message them anymore, because that makes you more needy. What do you win out of messaging them again? You will only lose time, pursue other girls. Now, if you want to message them because they are cool or you HONESTLY feel like it just to talk, then go ahead. But if it's to attempt to ask them out again, this will diminish your power even more

DaveO1337 · 2014-07-15T21:13:59+00:00

/r/howtonotgiveafuck

Title	How to deal with being ignored (online)
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	July 15, 2014 6:34 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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