Reading Models by Mark Manson, have some questions on being less invested in girls than they are you. [19M]

DikembeNONONO · 2014-08-14T03:14:38+00:00

There's nothing wrong with "sharing" everything. That is part of being vulnerable and a behavior he ultimately describes as attractive.

I guess what it means is have other hobbies and a reason to live just besides her. I don't think girls are turned off by committed men it's more so when that commitment turns into clingy and needy behavior. I think you can be mentally committed to the relationship without having to SHOW it every second. Like long as you're down for the long haul.

And investment doesn't necessarily mean you have to "like" them less. That's fucking stupid. I think it means that you to just be more worried about what YOU think of YOU opposed to what she thinks of you. So for instance if there's a certain opinion you have and you share that with her and it goes against her views, you would say it anyway without fear of her wanting to leave you or starting an argument because your thoughts > hers. In the least selfish way possible. It's not an extreme.

I don't know man. Random thoughts, let me know what you think.

blastanova · 2014-08-14T06:12:28+00:00

If you get into a relationship with a girl, it's probably because she saw something in you that she liked. If you try to bed over backwards to appease her (change your interests to match hers, start hanging out with her and her friends more than you hang out with your own friends, mindlessly agree with everything she says with and never have your own opinions), you look like a plastic person.

If you become invested to the point that you change who you are to match what you think she wants you to be, you will very likely cease to be the man she was originally attracted to.

Basically, if you don't respect you, then she won't respect you. This doesn't mean that you should avoid commitment and shouldn't open up and connect emotionally with your partner, instead it's about staying true to who you are and not changing based on what you think someone else wants you to be. It's okay to do things that make her happy, but place your own happiness before hers.

DeltaEmerald · 2014-08-14T11:34:58+00:00

Wow I'm like at the same part of the book too! (Sorry, just a cool coincedence)

Nacgt_the_Elyts · 2014-08-14T17:23:14+00:00

Dude, you re on the 60 page, read all the book then you can say something about it.

Title	Reading Models by Mark Manson, have some questions on being less invested in girls than they are you. [19M]
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Date	August 14, 2014 1:53 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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