I get dates but they never seem to go anywhere. Is my personality just that bad?

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-08-30T16:17:37+00:00

are you familiar with the theory of being a value giver vs. a value taker ?

http://www.rsdnation.com/robotb0ner/blog/value-giver-and-value-taker-they-know
http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1gkth6/above_the_game_part_9_giving_back_be_a_value_giver/

I doubt it's your personality in any case. it's probably all in your head

2014-08-31T01:04:41+00:00

Have you tried a completely blunt approach?

Kill the awkwardness with blunt force trauma.

"So here we are. From what I know about you I like you. You're here so you must like me." And now playfully with a stupid smile say. "And maybe I want you to have my babies.... If you're good enough."

Tease her. Get her to validate herself to you for the rest of the night.

End this part with "let's go have some fun and see where we end up"

Have a list of places to go ready in your head.

Then escalate touching etc as normal.

I'm just throwing anything out there now.

Psych40 · 2014-08-30T15:50:58+00:00

Well, being "their friend" won't work, because you're not with them to be their buddy, you're there to put your dick in them.

In terms of "showing interest," what, exactly, are you doing? Be more specific and we can help.

glitch0 · 2014-08-30T18:36:59+00:00

You need to diagnose this, you won't be able to improve and fix this until you actually know what exactly you're doing wrong.

joshsway · 2014-08-30T19:39:38+00:00

what do you have going for you? List out the reasons you think girls should want to be with you and then how you demonstrate/show those attributes to women. Then we can more easily figure out what's wrong.

2014-08-30T20:50:31+00:00

I'm the same way sometimes... It just seems like a chore after a few weeks. Even if have had sex with them, I might just be an introvert or need to start dating crazy women again

2014-08-31T00:45:25+00:00

You say you fill awkward silences. There shouldn't be anything awkward ever.

What is a typical date? I can't even remember if you explained what happens during one.

indecencies · 2014-08-30T22:58:53+00:00

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Title	I get dates but they never seem to go anywhere. Is my personality just that bad?
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Date	August 30, 2014 3:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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