Cold approaching in smaller colleges?

Interrupting_Otter · 2014-09-22T02:35:32+00:00

I go to a much much smaller campus. I stopped doing cold approaches because I asked a girl out, got rejected, and then experienced the awkwardness of bumping into each other a dozen times a week.

But you can use this factor to your advantage. It is much better to join clubs, start study groups for your classes, go to school events and you will eventually start encountering some of the same people again and again. The serendipitous nature of these meetings in different settings only works to your advantage. Be spontaneous, seize every moment, be present. See who responds to you, who you enjoy being around and what situations make you feel most at ease and to which you naturally belong. That is where you can be your best self, and attract and game best.

That is the advantage of being on a "small" campus.

recyclablebantha · 2014-09-22T12:46:18+00:00

However, some people bring up small colleges are the exception to this rule, what's the official ruling on this?

There are no "rules" in this. People who say that small colleges are "bad places to game," are speaking from a standpoint of fear.

I'm in a small college of around 6,000 students and I personally don't want my name trashed because of a few bad openings.

Look, there's this outlook floating around here that "gaming" and "seduction" are skeezy and trashy things. Just because you might want sex, doesn't make "seduction" dirty or trashy. Seduction is SOCIALIZING. Talking to people and getting to know them and then seeing if they want to hang out and then seeing if it can go anywhere.

Your name won't be "trashed" because you are social and like to meet new people. Your name will be trashed if you treat people like a dick.

MickFromAFarLand · 2014-09-21T23:02:00+00:00

Sorry this turned into a "who's school is smaller" contest. The social dynamics at a 6,000 student school is gonna be a lot different than a big ass state school. I went to a 2,700 student liberal arts college, so I'm familiar with the problems.

What exactly are you worried about? A girl telling her hot friends that you're awkward? Cause that's gonna happen, and it'll suck, but that's as bad as it's gonna get. It's not like high school. There's no intense bullying aspect when you embarrass yourself. You'll feel neglect, then someone else will fuck up worse than you, and it'll be over. Keep moving, work out most days, take care of your shit, and you won't get stuck in a rut.

The most important advice: know how to have fun in a group. Be genuine, be vulnerable, befriend guys and girls who interest you and roll up to parties with them. Do keg stands. Get naked if you get shut out in beer pong. IF you're natural and fun (not forced and faking it for pussy), you're gonna get the positive reputation you want. Hopefully you'll be having too much fun to notice tho.

MacFatty · 2014-09-21T21:29:11+00:00

Small, 6000.. Holy shit. You guys don't know shit about small.

secondbase17 · 2014-09-21T21:23:58+00:00

I went to a similarly sized school and never really cold approached for the exact reason you mentioned. I ran most of my game at parties.

sedditthrowawai · 2014-09-21T22:11:40+00:00

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nuuance · 2014-09-21T23:29:30+00:00

One thing I'm trying to remember as well as execute is to make friends as well as game...I get stuck into the "no friends, just bishes" mode, and it's something I need to break out of.

Title	Cold approaching in smaller colleges?
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Date	September 21, 2014 9:21 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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