How did you beat up you approach anxiety? Tell me your story

was_sup · 2014-09-29T17:34:18+00:00

Just do it anyway. I still get approach anxiety, but if something catches my interest about a girl I find myself walking towards her right away. Don't plan to say anything besides hi.

For example last time I went out there was a girl who was really good at dancing. I saw her in the smoking area and had to tell her she was a good dancer. She had a really cool personality too nd I had a great time with her that night.

whatisurgame · 2014-09-30T08:56:17+00:00

I might get down voted for this but it works for me.

I can be a very shy/introverted guy and what I've found helps is alcohol, I'm not saying get drunk every time you want to try pick up a girl. But if you're out with your friends maybe at a party or hitting some clubs, have some drinks, get drunk, get on a good buzz, but don't get so drunk that you cant pull together a good conversation.

The hottest girl I ever dated only happened because I was drunk and managed to get the confidence to just go up to her and ask if she wanted to dance. I've also noticed because I started off approaching girls drunk, it became easier when I wasn't drunk. Just a tip for someone starting out.

SamGill · 2014-09-29T22:09:32+00:00

(1) i built a habit of approaching. (2) over time AA just decreased. well over 600 approaches. at least. perhaps upper limit would be 1200. i have no idea. (3) initially it was very scary. now very much less so. (4) i have not had any success per se. but i can say i am not afraid of approaching.

laboratory1a · 2014-09-30T05:27:15+00:00

I hear these lyrics from rent every time a set seems to be opening

There is no future There is no past I live this moment As my last

There's only us There's only this Forget regret Or life is yours to miss

FigureItOutTmrw · 2014-09-30T06:20:15+00:00

Talk to everybody. Start with people who you're normally around with already but havent really got to know them yet and get to know them. Then talk with everyday people you run into like the teller at the bank or the cashier even if it's small talk. Also when approaching a women don't approach her any different from those people. Approach casually and talk to her like you normally would with the teller at the bank. A lot of guys will set themselves up for failure during the approach because they're already putting that person at a higher pedestal then the cashier or teller. Remember she's just another person. Just talk to them with no particular goal in mind and if you like how she responds to what you are saying then ask if she wants to hangout. You will get rejected but that's okay. Rejection is actually good for you because once you get rejected it gets easier and easier to approach. Fail and fail often.

Doublejizzle · 2014-12-20T20:47:46+00:00

Read the book she is six steps away.

2014-09-29T15:53:46+00:00

Build social momentum

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpBSriWqUYU

Title	How did you beat up you approach anxiety? Tell me your story
Author	seducedbycookies
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Date	September 29, 2014 3:33 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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