I need to get out of this mindset. Can you give me some tough love?

619shepard · 2014-09-29T18:45:51+00:00

The nature of being a person means that you experience your own turmoil and only see the results of other people's efforts.

You are acutely aware of how stressed/insecure/tired you are and how much effort/work/time you've put into being where you are at certain things.

All you see of other people is where they are. You have no idea the mindset they are in or what dues they have paid.

I once was taking a private lesson for my favorite hobby and the instructor said something about "You're developing to be almost as good at [thing a] as you are a naturally good [thing b]" and I stopped the instructor and pointed out that I've been doing [thing b] for 6 years and have worked really hard at being good at it, because I didn't want that hard work to be dismissed. Talent is a skill you don't see the effort behind.

ithearrow · 2014-09-29T20:22:50+00:00

The best way to confront a belief is to challenge it. Challenge yourself, and constantly try to be a better version of yourself. Start small and go big. Good luck man.

gigitygigitygoo · 2014-09-30T03:34:11+00:00

I gotta sat I've been there before but as kindly as I can say it, this shouldn't be posted in seduction.

emonybz · 2014-09-29T17:41:11+00:00

You seem to have a glimpse of what you need to do to improve your situation. Its going to take work, and a lot of pain, to be successful. NO ONE WILL EVER HAND YOU ANYTHING, or at least anything you actually want. You have to work and get it. I hope the best for you!

Not2original · 2014-09-29T19:38:29+00:00

Well it sound like you already kind of know what you want and kind of what you need to do. So let me try to fill in the blanks.

Think of a person who exists that you want to be like. I don't care if they are real or imaginary. (within reason for imaginary people) Donald trump, bill gates, tony stark, mickey mouse.
What do you like about this person? and break down everything physical, mental, and emotional. If there is a second or third person that you like do the same break down with them.
What qualities of your ideal self do you already possess? break yourself down mentally, physically, emotionally.
Pick a few small and easy to accomplish changes that you can do, on your own and for little to no money. (change of clothes, haircut, exercise, set up a monthly budget.)
Do these tasks, when you accomplish one, replace it with a new one. (sign up for a college class, learn a new skill/language, improve your social circle)
Soon you will be your ideal self! =-)

reecewagner · 2014-09-29T20:52:57+00:00

Your life = the sum of all the decisions you have made.

It's that simple. No victim mentality. No one has done you wrong or hurt you in a way other than what you deserved. You are who you make yourself.

footlong24seven · 2014-09-30T16:37:55+00:00

There is no such thing as something for nothing.

The only thing you are a victim of is your own negative thoughts and decisions. Fortunately, you have 100% control of these two things.

2014-09-30T16:53:10+00:00

Your whole world is shaped by your thoughts, your emotions do this to you. Realize your world is only as you see it, you can see your world negatively, and complain, or you can get off your ass, stop staring at a screen, and fix it to how you want it.

How do you want your world? What's your dream? Figure out the process you need to achieve that, and get to it.

Title	I need to get out of this mindset. Can you give me some tough love?
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Date	September 29, 2014 5:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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