Hey Seddit, I've been noticing a pattern, Girls playing along but not commiting to a date. even with lots of IOI

disposableraconteur · 2014-10-21T00:04:13+00:00

fuck, this is exactly my problem. How's your text game? That might have an effect on it.

BrinksNY · 2014-10-21T00:58:06+00:00

How are you reacting then when they say they can't be meet up?

How are you proposing the dates?

Give us specific examples of texts you have sent.

turo9992000 · 2014-10-21T05:59:27+00:00

Don't try to game too much over texts. I usually talk to them about a topic or two over a day or two. When she starts to respond quickly to my texts I'll say "hey, you seem like a cool girl, we should meet up." if they say sure, I'll suggest a couple nights that I'm available and go from there.

austenpro · 2014-10-21T06:23:53+00:00

Set a boundary. Say that if she doesn't want to see you, it would be best for the both of you to save the time and just not see each other.

start asking me about the girl and why i'm with her, try to convince me to leave

Unless you're in a committed relationship, you should just tell them that you're a people person and that you like to see what other people have to offer.

conspiracybee · 2014-10-22T20:08:07+00:00

Female here and honestly it just sounds like these girls are using your conversation and attention to fuel their confidence. A lot of girls, when still developing their sexual self will tease a lot but not follow through. This may very well be the case, seeing as I unfortunately used to do the same. It's a way to explore boundaries. After you find a woman who has matured enough to be confident with herself, then she will follow through. But as long as you continue to chase young, fickle teenage girls then it will always be a gamble.

midnightpainter · 2014-10-21T11:22:44+00:00

Four days? Dude... Dread game runs harder than that.

The fact that you initiate re-contact (after such a short time) is incongruent with dread game.

jeanisss · 2014-10-21T05:49:55+00:00

Let me get this straight for you. You are never ever going to be able to convince a girl to go out with you. And also, don't call them out on their bullshit. Rather, try and make it less confrontational, and make it seem as if you are disinterested. A high value guy doesn't NEED a girl out with him. A high value guy has other options which he can refer to if he feels like he needs company.

What you are doing, ie: pictures of different girls on facebook, is NOT congruent with what you are displaying to them via being needy and confronting them. Remember that you are never EVER going to be able to reason a girl to coming with you. Rather, what you need to do, is perhaps when you are in the interaction with them, bring up hanging out with them (DONT call it a date, as it can put you in the provider frame or boyfriend frame). That way they can feel much more at ease with meeting up and hanging out with you.

Also, it seems like you are gaming a bit "too hard" which can lead you into two different frames:

Girl will see you as a tryhard -displaying low value
Girl will see you as a player -meaning she sees you as gaming her to add to your collection of girls which will definitely turn her off as it doesn't make her feel "special"

Both cases, it's definitely not a win for you. Don't get me wrong, you should always be perceived as a guy that can get any girl, but she still has to feel like she's "special" (yup i know how i fuckin cheesy this is)

Calibrate. Evolve. Conquer.

Title	Hey Seddit, I've been noticing a pattern, Girls playing along but not commiting to a date. even with lots of IOI
Author	seever
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	October 20, 2014 10:43 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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