How important is being funny?

puaCurveBall · 2014-12-16T20:17:15+00:00

how do you get funnier

Gain more social status.

Humor is not what most people think, conversational humor is primarily a way to ease tension with people you perceive as higher social value.

This is why a dork can say the funniest thing and it will fall dead to a group that doesn't like him (because no one wants to lower their own value by providing validation to the lowest member of the group), and an Alpha leading the group can say really stupid drivel and it will have everyone laughing. (They want to gain value from giving validation to highest person in group)

High social status guys are funny without trying, so work on how you are perceived in groups. For 1on1 don't worry about it, just learn to speak your mind and be honest, you'll get laughs just by being yourself, because you'll naturally point out the funny things with how society works.

Big_Apple3AM · 2014-12-16T20:03:51+00:00

Good question. I'm someone who's been told I'm really funny. Combined with being a slightly above average looking skinny male, I usually attract decent looking women. But I really have no PUA game. I don't use any of the "tricks" usually discussed here. Usually just some confidence, a couple witty jokes, and a nice smile.

That's the "how important is it" part. My summary of that would be, if you have game elsewhere, being funny isn't super important, but it can definite accompany good game and it's not a dealbreaker if you don't have it.

Onto "how to be funny" - I'm not really sure where my humor comes from, but I'd say a big portion of it is movies/standup/etc. Watch more funny movies (not silly comedies like step brothers or anchorman) and pay close attention to the structure of the jokes and delivery. Standup is usually the best to learn how to deliver jokes. And I'm not saying jokes as in "knock knock" I mean life situations and making them funny. Seinfeld has a really good way of finding things that are observed by almost everyone but rarely ever talked about. That's what made his show so great. If you can spot those things yourself, that's golden.

I'm kinda running out of thoughts so I'll leave it at that. Maybe your response will spark more thoughts.

zomgitsduke · 2014-12-16T22:14:02+00:00

Watch a lot of sarcastic standup comedians. Learn to love entertainment that is strictly humor. You will eventually start to see it everywhere, and thrive from the reactions of people. I love making people laugh, I try to do it every day. It makes me feel accomplished and it builds bonds with people.

DaygameCoach · 2014-12-17T03:58:40+00:00

It's a great attraction trigger. You can read books on comedy writing and/or take improv classes.

Title	How important is being funny?
Author	supercuriousgeorge
Upvotes	4
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Date	December 16, 2014 7:51 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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