(HELP) I want her to be more than just a friend :( </3

Dyablo66 · 2015-02-09T13:41:49+00:00

Honestly? It seems like a textbook friendzone scenario. Not much you can do once it already happens. Besides you seem very needy and that's the #1 way to kill attraction. Sorry if it sounds harsh but I'd forget about her. Even if you get with her you'll probably lose her due to being that way. I know this is some tough love but that's the way it is man. For some actual advice? If I were you I'd heavily cut down the time listening to her problems and start demonstrating interest in her. She'll either go along with it or give you "let's just be friends" speech and then at least you know it's all over. Good luck.

Syd1804 · 2015-02-09T14:21:08+00:00

It'll be hard. I'm pretty sure you are, since a long time, friendzoned.

You have to change your behavior. Don't be that guy listening to all her issues and talking at phone for hours. Your time worth more then that ; you have a social life ; you meet other girls etc.

Hang out with her, but not to listen to her for hours ; take her somewhere you can meet other friends ; game with her (stop no-point discussion ; you have to make the temperature higher : that means that you should value yourself, kino escalate, eventually sexualize the conversation etc. check the FAQ)

HotDropOCIock · 2015-02-09T13:18:44+00:00

You won't find answers on reddit. Tell her what you just wrote here.

hcarguy · 2015-02-09T13:29:18+00:00

Tell her how you feel unashamedly. You risk losing her as a friend but I think it's a chance you'll have to take if you really want her. Good luck.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2015-02-09T14:10:24+00:00

What do i have to do

It's not a matter of what you have to "do", but who you have to "be". For example, a confident, self-assured man and a clingy, desperate man can say the same exact joke. They will get different results because of who each man is being.

If you want to be attractive to a single woman, you have to know how to be attractive to women in general. Check the sidebar to start.

MastaJukes · 2015-02-09T14:49:26+00:00

First off, you need to kill your desire for wanting her as more than "just a friend" this is the text book example of why a lot of us came here in the first place. You need to not pedestal-ize her (READ: that does not mean treat her like shit and berate her if feelings are not returned, it means be an independent happy self-assured guy and have fun with the girl). If you do this, she'll sense it and either back off or even worse, manipulate you cause she knows she can.

Hangout with her and do fun things. Demonstrate by your actions and lifestyle that you're a fun awesome guy to hangout with. Don't be afraid to get playful and physical. (Examples: she says something to you, jokingly nudge her, give her a hug when you meet up with her, play with her hair, hold her hand, jokingly read her palm etc..) Think about the way a boy and a girl act together when they're friends at like 7 or 8… They tease each other and play around.

Show her your dangerous side. A few things I've done with women to show them my dangerous side are things like exploring abandoned buildings and trespassing somewhere at night to go skinny dipping. If this kind of thing isn't up your alley, obviously don't do it.. But it can be a lot of fun! One time, I was with a girl when I was 18 or 19 who I was friends with and we had to run from the police after we got caught trespassing in an abandoned building. We hid in a room behind some kind of filing cabinet for like 1 hour and wound up making out in it as we were hiding.

Again, the fact that you're posting this here suggests that you're really holding this girl in high regards when you haven't even kissed her, let alone gone on a date with her. It's okay to think a girl has a really cool personality and have a crush on her, just don't let them drive you into an over-analytical anxious mess where you fantasize about marrying her and freak out cause it's been 3 hours since you texted her and she hasn't responded.

zomgitsduke · 2015-02-09T15:22:25+00:00

Well, you have to be willing to risk the entire friendship for romance. Tell her how you feel, and if she just wants to be friends, tell her no thanks. This is the most reliable way to turn a friendship into a relationship.

However, you're there as a friend for her, you're the nice guy. Do some research on how to not be the nice guy.

yooweave · 2015-02-09T16:34:13+00:00

Had something similar happen to me. Eventually i told her how i felt but i think i waited too long and it killed our friendship. Haven't talked to her in almost two years now.

Title	(HELP) I want her to be more than just a friend :( </3
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Comments	20
Date	February 9, 2015 12:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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