I spent the last few years trying to get laid. It finally happened. Now what?

JustDoMeee · 2015-03-01T17:34:58+00:00

Next goal: Find a girl to have a long lasting relationship with. Or put that much effort into other aspects of your life.

-Ratel- · 2015-03-01T19:21:51+00:00

In life you need goals to pursuit (unless you are a nihilist, depressed or some kind of high level Buddhist monk). For the last couple of years you made the goal of getting laid the main one in your life. Now that you accomplished that, it is normal to feel aimless. You just need to find your next goal/mission/purpose. You have been doing that your whole life already, the things that mattered when you were a kid changed as you grew to become a teenager and so on.

Just relax a bit and figure out what you want to do with your life - becoming a full blown player? finding a LTR? working on your career? PRO-TIP: Have a bunch of goals spread around your main areas of interest, so you don't become overly focused.

txroller · 2015-03-01T17:03:25+00:00

i am confused

2015-03-01T17:14:01+00:00

You keep going. Your results will only go up from here. Because,

theres a weight lifted off your back in a way, there's no more I'm a virgin in the back of your mind. The underlying knowledge that you've never had success can subconsciously add pressure. That's gone now. You can be comfortable in the mode of just having fun now
You now experience to reference to. When there's make or break moments, you can think back to your success, and remember what to do.

So right now just sit back, and imagine yourself in high school at a party. Then realize how you are now. And appreciate your journey so far.

p.s Might not believe it now, but sex is fucking amazing.However, it's also a skill. You'll get better at it. As long as you have an urge to get pleasure and to pleasure women.

FemaleAccountability · 2015-03-01T18:32:42+00:00

Work on your career, go out 3 nights per week to the bar to work on your game, approach girls on an infrequent basis during the day.

Dalianz · 2015-03-02T09:26:59+00:00

Congratulations man - reaching a goal is awesome! Next step is to realize that your goal was not the ultimate goal - it was just a stepping stone for something larger. Now it's time to set the next goal in the same field. Getting a sudden hole-in-one after swinging your club for years does not make you a professional golfer. Figure out what you did right, practice and develop your skillset and when you are getting laid consistently with the women you choose, that's when you have reached the ultimate goal of expertise within the field of seduction.

Oh, and the slight disappointment you are feeling is more tied to sex not living up to the expectations you had. I also imagined sex to be the single most awesome thing ever, but was vastly disappointed and didn't feel much different after I lost my virginity. My first girlfriend was the one who developed my appreciation and vast enjoyment of sex.

tituxr · 2015-03-02T09:52:41+00:00

Now try actually approaching girls and ultimately getting laid rather than having drunken sex at her initiative. Ie work on your game.

PM_ME_UR_UNWIPED_BUM · 2015-03-02T14:31:04+00:00

"You get what you want, you're unhappy. You get what you don't want, you're unhappy." - Buddha

dodaco · 2015-03-02T18:58:50+00:00

Congrats, hopefully your social skills, emotional intelligence, ability to initiate and develop relationships will carry over into your personal, social, professional life and you've become a much more attractive man as a result of your struggle, I, and many other people have, I know that.

J_Ferrara07 · 2015-03-02T13:51:08+00:00

Now you throw yourself in front of a train. It's all bullshit from here on man. Nothing matters after sex. Death is the only adventure you have left

Title	I spent the last few years trying to get laid. It finally happened. Now what?
Author	stevish1
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	March 1, 2015 5:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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