"Worst Texter Ever"

mxtrav · 2015-04-15T18:39:13+00:00

Deliberately delaying your text replies is a stupid game that should be avoided by all. It does not make you seem less needy, just makes the conversation that much more painful to deal with.

brojow · 2015-04-15T21:21:44+00:00

If you really want to spread your conversation, i think it's better to have a nice text exchange every 2-3 days than to have a really shitty one every day.

Diced-Pineappless · 2015-04-15T16:20:24+00:00

"I usually take awhile to text back" That might be the problem. If I'm texting a girl I'm interested in I will text her back the second I see it. No need to front and the conversation. If she likes you, you won't have to prolong the conversation. Ya feel?

kemar7856 · 2015-04-15T19:29:26+00:00

thats just dumb by the time you text her shes going to forget all about you

rawmaterial · 2015-04-15T19:55:25+00:00

Like everyone else said, deliberately delaying your replies is a bad idea. Reply when you see the text/don't think about timing. The more important thing here is the content of your conversation. You really don't want to have too much text conversation. Save the "so where do you work" and "what do you dream about doing in the future" for the in-person first date. Otherwise you will have nothing to talk about and will have formed an awkward and false sense of knowing each other.

DaygameCoach · 2015-04-15T22:32:52+00:00

Did you read the side bar on "shit tests"? Could be a shit test. Or teasing/banter. You may be taking it too seriously.

ScepticalProphet · 2015-04-16T04:11:44+00:00

Her saying that basically means you're the best texter ever. She's subtly hinting that she wants more attention and it obviously bothers her enough that she brought it up.

But I do agree with those below. You shouldn't have to force yourself to spread it out, it should be natural. The best thing you can do while pulling smooth moves is look natural.

Mouthpiece · 2015-04-15T23:19:47+00:00

Stop. Fucking. Texting.

Men with busy lives don't text unless they're setting up the next date.

southpole4 · 2015-04-15T22:34:12+00:00

This is what I would have done:

When you're getting her number, text her your name right away while you're standing right in-front of her. Then tell her you will contact her in a week to set up the first date. Text her a week later only to catch up a small amount and figure out logistics of the date. Tell her you'll talk to her later. Text her the day before or day of the date to confirm (Say something like: "I'm running 5 minutes late ..just wanted to give you a heads up.)

Setting it up like this is good because it doesn't make you seem available/needy and also lets you contact her a couple times before the date so she doesn't forget or lose interest.

I actually asked a similar question to the one you posted. It's on the sticky post on the front page and has some great replies.

2Siders · 2015-04-15T23:56:44+00:00

I normally answer my phone as soon as possible because quite simply I would forget to message people back. I don't know if it really does, but it can come across as needy so I do the same thing. I know that Mark Manson advises against it though.

Title	"Worst Texter Ever"
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Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	April 15, 2015 4:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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