At a party, I started making out with a girl. I push her into a nearby bathroom to get it on. She stops, says "I'm too drunk", I reply "I don't care."
Next she tells me she used to get raped a lot. She then sinks to the floor, curls into a ball and says "I can't believe I just told you that, I don't tell that to anyone". She repeats this last line 5-6 times. I pull her up off the floor, tell her to collect herself, and send her out the door. Party ends, we go separate ways. Haven't spoken to her since.
I do not want to be her shoulder to cry on, but at the same time I sure hope she is getting help. Therapy...etc. She is part of the same University club that I am heavily involved with. She isn't a total random person. I tend to think I am not the only person she has told, and she is seeking help elsewhere.
If I am the only person she has told, I would feel bad if I didn't get her to tell the people close to her, and push her towards therapy.
What if she lied? How does she define "rape?" How did she get raped more than once without someone going to jail? What if she lied and never actually was raped? What if all of her friends know, and me confronting her is a pointless waste of her time and mine?
Tl;Dr I don't want to be a white knight, but this is pretty shitty, and I don't like seeing people go into psychological holes. I can take rejection, that's fine. But I don't like bing rejected by someone grabbing the biggest skeletons in their closet and dumping them on me.
edit: Wow, BluePill went to town on this one. I said "I don't care" in a playful, "I don't judge" tone. I stopped kissing her, and in a moment picked her up off the ground to console her. To the folks at BluePill who assumed so: she wasn't crying. Either way, call me rapey, but the point of this post is to seek advice as to whether or not to help her, and how.
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