I legit can't hold eye contact

Plooper262 · 2015-05-25T22:25:10+00:00

You just have to do it man. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable, maybe someone else can offer you some tips. If it's someone you know like the woman you and your father met, just do a small smile. A woman isn't going to stare at you across a bar, if you caught her looking at you more than a few times then she probably wanted you to go over and talk to her. Like I said earlier, you just gotta get comfortable with the uncomfortable, the more you do it, the easier it will become and soon it will just be second nature.

colmmaxwell · 2015-05-26T00:10:34+00:00

You don't need to worry about eye contact, you need to worry about deep inner game. You are carrying around a lot of negative self-talk, man. Next time you feel the urge to put yourself down, stop and find something positive to say about yourself instead. Do this every time a negative thought enters your head.

As you slowly start to build self-confidence you'll find that making eye contact with people is much, much easier.

nyyankees1237 · 2015-05-26T00:24:38+00:00

Eye contact can be substantially powerful. However, you need to be self confident before being able to express confidence toward others.

I would read into some red pill type stuff. Improve your posture, work out/exercise, love your hobbies and passions, get a haircut, buy some new clothes and shoes, talk to everyone you meet; if you become comfortable with interacting with all sorts of people eye contact becomes natural.

Say hi to people of all ages and genders including your family and friends and then expanding to acquaintances and strangers. Let your presence be known.

Compliment someone on their bike or shoes, greet people on the street, shake a persons hand when you first meet them.

I myself am incredibly introverted so this type of human interaction proved very difficult for me at first. But if you become aware within yourself, become indifferent towards negativity, become the person you know you want to be.

Then you will be able to look a girl or any human being for that matter right in their eyes and smile confidently but nonchalantly, because at that point it is just natural to your stature. The rest is gravy.

From someone who felt similarly to you just a few months ago:

I would highly recommend looking into literature. I've read books on philosophy, personality, all sorts of articles on confidence and exercise, etc. I personally started with stoicism and novels such as The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle among others.

Apologize for ranting, good luck!

WasimSocialGame · 2015-05-26T00:18:43+00:00

I know this sounds horrible but. Go hold eye contact with people you dont feel intimidated against such as homeless people or people with little social value and work your way up. once your in the zone of holding eye contact with low valued people go with average then people with high value.

Harmonic_Minor_Shred · 2015-05-26T03:11:12+00:00

Quit being a lil bitch. You wanna get your dick wet or not?

Title	I legit can't hold eye contact
Author	anabolic92
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	May 25, 2015 10:17 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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