Getting over attached and clingy too fast because lack of women in my life

Osafune2 · 2015-12-14T10:33:56+00:00

I've been the same bro. Building elaborate fantasies in your head and all that shit.

Talk to other women, I always had a tendency to just latch on to the first girl I connected with. Make yourself approach other girls.

Also, get a hobby, I got into bodybuilding which gave me a focus beyond thinking about girls

TheMinistryOfAwesome · 2015-12-14T13:36:23+00:00

I reckon that rather than cutting contact with her you should up your contact with other people. The problem with this whole situation "the investment funnel" is that you're not getting a good comparative perspective of potential gfs/parters/fwbs. Basically, you're leaping, as you say because someone has shown a bit of interest.

I can't help but feel this is a tiny bit trollish, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. If she's giving you so much problems with the rest of your life, just delete her, cut contact or go completely over the top and let her cut contact with you.

functionequalsform · 2015-12-14T19:51:32+00:00

Honestly dude? She's probably gonna shit all over your heart at some point. But the first girl who takes that 1 big shit on your chest is doing you a favor.. Here's why.

A few years ago I met this girl who was a few years older than I was. We hit it off pretty easily, just 2 pretty laid back people getting to know each other.

I wanted to have sex with her so bad but she seemed pretty straight forward with what she wanted so I took it slow for about 6 months. Not a single kiss.

Well one night she comes over more.. Excited than usual. So we get to talking, and she tells me she's ready to take things to the next level. We don't do anything because I found her behavior to be suspicious. Anyway come to find out (not through her) she had been seeing 2 of my ex-friends secretly the entire time. Every word spoken, every gaze met, every gift given had been shit on. The girl I gave my 100% respect and interest to had been fooling around secretly the whole time.

This needed to happen. Why? I was WAY too emotionally invested. Not the 'text right back' clingy but the 'I expected emotional reciprocation because of my oneitis'. She was the sweetest girl I knew, and she cut the deepest.

I've learned never ever again to put all my feels in 1 basket, and to never expect any emotions in return. And never.. ever.... EVER trust these hoes.

Fenriso · 2015-12-14T18:11:30+00:00

Ok so the thing to remember is: you are your own person, and you do what you feel is good for you. When u havent talked to alot of girls you often project this thought u have of a girlfriend, onto her. Remember that she is not the person u expect her to be, and the more hype you put to the interaction, the worse u will do

ScumbagPotato · 2015-12-15T00:22:41+00:00

It's clear to me from your post and replies that you have a very low self-image, OP. Of course that isn't inherently bad but if you should decide that's not how you want to live, then you need to change. A negative mind will never bring you a positive life. You have to get yourself out of your comfort zone so that you can grow as a person. Do things that you'll be proud of yourself for with no excuses. Don't sit around and wait for things to get better. Make yourself better and everything else will follow.

GrowPls · 2015-12-14T15:38:47+00:00

Sorry I don't have anything to add to this thread, but I just wanted to say that I can relate to everything you are experiencing, and learned important things from the people replying. So yeah, thanks for posting this. :)

leaveitaloneitsfine · 2015-12-14T17:15:15+00:00

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Title	Getting over attached and clingy too fast because lack of women in my life
Author	anabolic92
Upvotes	24
Comments	27
Date	December 14, 2015 10:31 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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