How to make yourself seem more approachable?

frozenGrizzly · 2015-06-10T23:23:28+00:00

A trick a lot of PUA's will tell you is to "over-emote."

Basically, most of us not-extremely-social people have faces made of stone, because we don't use them very much. So you kinda have to go beyond what you'd consider a normal expression just to get to what's actually considered normal.

It's weird at first, but you'll get it.

Another thing - smiling from just your mouth makes you look like a serial killer who's really pleased by how neatly he just disposed of that body. The trick to making a non-creepy smile is to smile with your eyes.

Basically, it's where the corners of your eyes crinkle a bit when you smile.

Try this in a mirror: First, smile with just your mouth. Kinda weird right? Looks like someone asked you for a photo but you didn't want your picture taken, but you begrudgingly smile anyway. Next: Think of something really funny or happy, something that makes you giggle like a schoolgirl, and then smile and look at yourself. You don't just smile with your mouth, your whole face lights up. That's a genuine smile.

Smile with that smile and you can hold a creepy amount of eye contact and people won't be weirded out in the slightest, because you genuinely look friendly and approachable.

Ivabighairy1 · 2015-06-11T07:47:26+00:00

What ProteinPavel said. I don't have a lot of confidence, don't smile much, get laid once in a while but am NOT anywhere near a "Ladies Man" … yet anyways. Today I was at a car dealership (Doing a fundraiser and asking if they would like to get involved) and talked to a really hot blonde with a dynamite body. I've been reading up on Seduction and Pick Up and thought here goes nothing so I started smiling with the mouth closed and then started showing the teeth AND I maintained eye contact. While she was telling me things she started blushing. When she got done I mentioned her name and said it was a pleasure meeting you. She shook my hand and started to say it was a pleasure to meet you as well but she started stammering and tripping over the words. I can't tell you what a confidence boost that was. It works. Try it.

ProteinPavel · 2015-06-10T22:43:47+00:00

Start smiling with your mouth closed and them start showing teeth just ever so slightly until you find your smile.

arobotspointofview · 2015-06-11T15:15:04+00:00

I've found that when I think of something funny and laugh about it to myself - the resultant smile is very natural and effective.

I've even accidentally made eye contact with strangers while laughing about something unrelated and they've always smiled back.

2udaylatif · 2015-06-11T03:05:19+00:00

Women find the stoic look more sexy than smiles

2udaylatif · 2015-06-13T00:38:05+00:00

Approach. Forget your smiling.

Title	How to make yourself seem more approachable?
Author	My_Fox_Hat
Upvotes	32
Comments	10
Date	June 10, 2015 8:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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