Advice for an Asian(Chinese) guy

[deleted] · 2014-02-08T20:05:24+00:00

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notseriouslyserious · 2014-02-08T20:05:57+00:00

I lost my virginity when I was 16

I think you're way ahead of the Asian pack based just on this alone.

key402 · 2014-02-08T20:08:31+00:00

I'm a white dude about your height, so I can say that just the height aspect is going to make it more difficult to approach a lot of women with any success. I also agree that a lot of westernized white women unfortunately aren't going to be very interested in Asian men unless you are in really good shape (or tall)...but I've seen it done before. One of best buddies pulls more women than anyone else I've ever known, and he is a short Asian dude. They are mostly all Asian women, but if that's okay with you, you will be drowning in pussy. I've noticed they really seem to flock to the muscular cool-Asian-guy personalities.

I'm not going to lie, you could definitely have no problem fucking white women, but you have to remember that society has conditioned most of them to settle at very minimum for a generic looking 6' tall white man. I sometimes have trouble myself, and I have a good looking face, I'm in shape, I have a high-paying technical career, lots of hobbies, etc, but I know that to a lot of these women, I'm probably not much higher value than the tall white guy working at a starbucks.

[deleted] · 2014-02-08T21:10:00+00:00

I'm Asian my self, I'm shorter than you, I am 5'5 which equates to 165cm and consider myself to be feminine as well. Now my my relationship with women has not been very good at all, but I have talked to white people most of my life and very very small portion of Asian women.

I have realised that demographic locations make a huge difference. I am living in Australia and there are certain regions of the area that are dominated by certain races, but a good majority of the country side towns don't have alot of multicultural aspect at all. Alot of people are racist, but I cannot be biased and say that every one is bad because I have a bad encounters with certain people, how ever I have lived in the country side for 20 years.

How ever when I went to do my studies in the bigger Capital City, my social dynamics changed so much, there was so much different ethnicities and people from different backgrounds got along very well with different race.

When people realise me, they realise that I am not those gooky Asian Nerd who plays video games and like "Anime" that's just stereotype, but I have convinced people that I am a awesome guy and I am not those typical Asian Nerds.

My best advice is to get new clothing, look at what all other Asian guy's are wearing and try to look different from those Asian guys, look into ASOS or Urbanoutfitters, and do your hair and spike it up, not those typical Asian comb over - soccer ball hairs.

Enphuego · 2014-02-08T23:42:20+00:00

If you want people to see you as an individual rather than a stereotype, you may need to break your stereotype in an obvious way. Once you've done something that would be out of the ordinary for your cultural group, people will be forced to evaluate you as an individual.

As a practical matter, it's going to need to be your appearance as that's all that most women are going to see before they've sized you up. One way would be to lift weights until you are noticeably bigger, but that would take years. The most attainable way I can think of is dressing really well, in a style that is not asian influenced.

Take a look that this guy: http://i.imgur.com/Kx8Hh.jpg

I'm not even positive if he is asian, but when he walks up to a woman, he's not going to be fighting against stereotypes. His clothing style sets him apart and exudes power and success.

I suggest you go over to /r/malefashionadvice and come up with a coherent clothing style that screams success, power and not asian.

[deleted] · 2014-02-10T19:56:42+00:00

If you think going to China will help your situation you are nuts. Don't you know theres no women there? And what's there aint good because of supply and demand. Hate to break it to you...you wont be a pussy magnet. Focus on working on yourself, do things that differentiate you from other people.

Gold_Leaf_Initiative · 2014-02-12T00:54:22+00:00

You will be fine. Don't let your race define you. You can use it to make you seem cultured, exotic. Just be knowledgeable.

MolecularMillionaire · 2014-02-09T00:18:00+00:00

Hey man, I love this post. I'm Chinese American. I also am trying to figure out how to spin plates. I'm 6'2''+, great body, former university cheerleader, and ex-model, in medical school in the US, and dress in a shirt and tie everyday, and I'm up 50K on the stock market, so you'd think I'd be drowning in pussy. Not yet anyway. I find that it takes the right financials, free time to pull it off, and right attitude. I started reading trp a few months ago and I find basically dressing professionally, walking tall, looking all-around high SMV, and ignoring women - making a point to not look at pretty girls always gets them wondering if you think they're not pretty, have a better girl, etc.) when they expect attention gets you the right female attention. I can't tell you how many times women open doors for me or initiate conversation with me when I treat them like they're dispensible objects. Women want to be ignored, treated like they're dispensible, and used. That's how I treat them. Right now, I spend about 80 hours a week doing medical school related things so I don't spend my free time in bars or nightlife, and I also take care of my mom who is a widow and lives with me, so these two things are my biggest obstacle from spinning plates - I'm trying to figure out how to bag chicks with my current (relatively new, difficult situation). But as long as I remain driven, bust my ass in medical school, secure a plastic surgery residency, and move my mom out into a different apartment near wherever I'm living, it's going to be fucking great. What I'm saying is, start building yourself to be the best version you can fucking be and then reap the rewards. Game will come naturally if you actively seek to improve. Definitely lift weights. The most important thing for is having a good income, looking good, dressing well, and keeping the using women attitude. Also, if you travel to China go to fucking Macau and get a prostitute. 100% legal, very professional, cheap, great amenities (think 1st class airline amenities), and a line of 12 of the most beautiful Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Thai, or Russian girls you can pick from. it's a fucking blast. You have a much higher standard for American (or British women in your case) after you've experienced a nuru massage, fire/ice bj, and a completely selfish fuck. Go get em tiger!

Dr_Nikk · 2014-02-09T09:29:57+00:00

I'm half Asian. Same height. Find your niche bro for example, black women love Asians.

Dress well, work out, demonstrate value & prowess, then get out and meet people.

Gfresh405 · 2014-02-09T05:03:51+00:00

It's simple. Accept what you can't change and follow what Red Pill advice you like or agree with (that's what I do). Frankly it just seems like you're whining and making excuses.

RedBigMan · 2014-02-08T19:31:04+00:00

If you arent eating right (/r/paleo or /r/keto) then lifting weights will only do so much. 80% of your success for how your body looks comes from diet.

As for being asian it can be a bit of a disadvantage though I dont think you are overly short you're within average range. Also white women tend to be overly selective. If you find black or latina women attractive you could always try gaming them and you may have more success.

Manuel_S · 2014-02-08T21:31:27+00:00

In china, you gotta be tall, right and educated - and have own car and condo.

Otherwise, bring a lot of tissue paper.

PlayingInTheRain · 2014-02-08T19:59:20+00:00

Oh you're in Britain! That would explain it.

British people are racist towards asians due to the lack of racial diversity. Move to france, or canada. You will fare so much better over here.

Edit: I meant specifically asian men.

Title	Advice for an Asian(Chinese) guy
Author	PlayingInTheRain
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	February 8, 2014 6:02 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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