How do you handle the tension of being a man in your prime?

the_life_is_good · 2015-07-06T22:35:27+00:00

Good question. This is the first time in my life a girl got suicidal after I broke up with her. Uncharted territory for me

thoroughaway1234 · 2015-07-06T22:36:58+00:00

If you're good looking, just be friendly, funny, make friends with everyone, and let the girl come to you. Just don't blow yourself out by tripping all over the social dynamics of the group

thoroughaway1234 · 2015-07-06T23:10:15+00:00

Kill the hostile dudes with kindness. Don't fall over yourself trying to appease them but look them in the eye and start asking them real questions about themselves. Pretend like you didn't hear any veiled insults; you know they're just insecure. Build them up and give them value. They'll like you soon enough. I've managed to kill many an AMOG this way. They usually back down as soon as they see you're a good guy and as soon as they see you're not intimidated by them. This works especially well if there are girls present because they know the girls will just see them as losers if they get too shitty with you.
Again, kill them with kindness. Be nice but don't let them interfere with your game. They'll be quick to fall back in line.
Talk to them! Get them talking about themselves. They'll relax.

trufas · 2015-07-07T01:18:33+00:00

I want to see a picture of your beautiful exotic face please

recyclablebantha · 2015-07-07T02:10:07+00:00

How do I neutralize the hostile dudes?

As Colm Maxwell said, kill with kindness. Or disregard (kindly).

How do I peacefully push away the approval-seeking dudes?

Think about how politicians are kind but diplomatic, shaking hands as they move around a room. They encounter such people all the time and they kindly accept it but they firmly set boundaries. They kindly dismiss people. They move around the room and leave people they don't want with them. ("Well, it was nice meeting you." or "It was nice meeting you, I have to ______ now.")

You deal with them in a similar way you might deal with a kid that you don't want to be mean to but you need to draw a line with.

How do I help the frozen girls open up so I can connect with them?

What are you actually doing when you open them?

SlimThundercat · 2015-07-07T03:09:31+00:00

I understand what your saying. And I actually went through the same thing. The only advice that will be useful to you is to look everyone in the eye as much as possible, and make sure they break eye contact. Second, always have a smile on your face. This will help with both the hostiles and the women. However some guys will always be hostile because they don't want to give away whatever "alpha male" status they believe they have in the current situation and environment. If your smart and good looking then those specifics just come with the territory and there really isn't anything you can do except be you.

chiliehead · 2015-07-07T06:03:25+00:00

Now you know how hot girls feel. Pretty interesting introspective.

sir_lags_a_lot · 2015-07-07T01:29:07+00:00

I'm 5'7 and 230 I'm built like a tank and have a very serious resting facial expression. But I'm nice and make a lot of jokes, you will be just fine

Title	How do you handle the tension of being a man in your prime?
Author	thoroughaway1234
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	July 6, 2015 10:09 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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