Lurked on TRP and learned a lot. I have a situation that is a bit sticky which had I found TRP sooner I would have avoid it all together, so now I'm seeking damage control.

Been seeing a single mom (problem 1) for quite sometime (about 8 months). She has all the basic single mom qualities, 7.5/10 Bod, willing to please sexually (even if this involves her friends, threesome etc), and has the capacity to be with someone great to someone who wants her.

She has followed all the same entrapment steps, introducing me to the child and getting him attached to me so I will feel like a jerk if I leave (and to be honest the kid is more awesome this his mom). Of course the sex, "child is #1" are the main points shes pressuring but she is also dropping the word "love" more often then I would like to hear it from someone who I dont feel the same about. And although, ignorance is part of the problem, now armed with the knowledge I would like to do what is best for both of us "safely."

(Problem 2) I currently work with said person, although nobody else in the office knows of the relationship. While I NOW realize this puts my job at series risk (and have started locking in another source of income so if need be I can quit) I would rather not have to leave here if its unnecissary.

So my question is in this situation, how do I mitigate damages as much as possible, without causing a massive situation. Just tell her its over flat out? Let he down slowly? Peel away? Throw the blame on her? Keep her as a friend? (who knows I could use a good threesome one day).

She is a nice woman with a good heart, but I dont feel the same way she does. I enjoy her company most the time, her kid is awesome so there isnt really any problem there, (save the fact he will have to get use to me not being around as often). I would like some input on this situation as of currently I am lost.