A problem I have, getting things a little more seductive...

newmood · 2015-08-11T09:35:12+00:00

It's funny because the last I think three or four guys have had this exact same problem.

It's not what you say, it's how you say it. You can be sexual about chili. "Oh you like spicy food" - "Do you like hot things in your mouth". Just an example that I said to a girl on Saturday on the street in the middle of the day. But it would not have worked if my all around tone of voice was not sexual, if it was not man to woman and if it was not breaking rapport i.e. going down instead of up.

Here are some examples:

She is not logical, she does not care what you say, she's looking at your sub-communications. Be sexual, but not overtly sexual, feel attracted to her, think of her as a woman not a friend and she will feel that you're a man not a friend.

About topics.

Don't go into deeper topics until you've fucked her.
Be that fun guy it doesn't count with.
Be the relatable retard.
Don't try so hard.
Don't try to please her.
Don't agree with her all the time.
Don't think that you have to prove something to her.
Don't take yourself to seriously.
Stop giving a shit.
Start being yourself and let go of your ego man.

Go in in-direct, self-amusing and with intent. You can research any of these further by youtubing them.

And to actually get all this you know what you have to do right? You have to actually approach, a lot, all the time everywhere in fact. You should be approaching right now instead of reading this and I should too, bye.

greatestaccounteva · 2015-08-11T10:29:16+00:00

A very pure, simple and direct way to make it into a man to woman convo, is to compliment something you like about her. Something you're attracted to. Specific is nice. The timing is whenever it occurs to you how much you like it, because thats the time when it will be the most genuine and thus the most powerful.

It's not about having deeper conversations. Don't get caught into a trap of trying to force "interesting subjects" or stories or anything out. What you say barely matters. Rather than what to say you need to be focussed more on how to be, if you get that right you can say nearly anything.

But to widen the range of things you can come up with and say, try going to an improv class or club. Also, simply work on observing what's around you when walking around. Comment on your surroundings.

recyclablebantha · 2015-08-11T17:37:33+00:00

Hey, I noticed lately a problem I have. I have no problem in talking to girls in general, yet things never get forward, I can't seem to do it. Even when I try a little more kino and stuff, things don't go as plan.

Can you be more specific? You're leaving too much information out. Are you talking about girls you have just met?

Are you trying to push a lot of "kino" on girls you just met? That's a good way to shoot yourself down.

And what exactly do you mean by "things don't go as plan?"

I think I need some advice on getting my convo's into more man to woman ones. How can it be done? especially in daygame enviorment.

What do you mean by "into more man to woman ones?" If you mean sexual conversations, you don't need to do that. ESPECIALLY in a day game environment.

What you need is, the ability to build rapport, the balls to physically escalate, the insight to escalate at the pace she wants, opportunity to escalate, and a place that's adequate to escalate in.

Another problem I have is that sometimes its hard to find topics to talk about that are a little more interesting then day to day ones... How do you come up with those deeper conversations and transition from the normal ones into this type?

You actively LISTEN to the girl you're talking to. As in, you listen so completely that you aren't thinking about the next words you want to say, while she's talking. You listen until she's done talking, then when she stops, you think about what she just said, then you make your next question or comment about that thing she just said.

And overall, you're shooting to get at her emotions and motivations in whatever subject you're talking about.

processedfoodkills · 2015-08-11T20:34:47+00:00

Conversation: Say hello, ask her a simple question and let her do the talking and provide validation for her input while throwing in some specifics as to why you like what she is saying (or why you don't). If the conversation dies put the pressure on her to keep it going. Stretch, take a drink, look at her expectantly. Let her know she has to prove herself to you.

Escalation: You already know this. Kino. You have to convey with how you touch her that you want your body on top of hers. I know it's not a popular suggestion here, but have you tried weightlifting to be more muscular/attractive? It's not nearly as important as game, but it does matter. I started lifting about 4 months ago and have found that as I got bigger I don't have to kino as much. In fact, one or two touches is usually all it takes for her to start touching me.

Title	A problem I have, getting things a little more seductive...
Author	amit240
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	August 11, 2015 9:10 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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