How do you make the switch from hooking up with random girls to having an actual girlfriend?

newmood · 2015-08-18T07:54:44+00:00

To me it sounds like you don't want a girlfriend. So what's the problem? Go out, fuck multiple girls. Enjoy yourself instead of being poison dripped into becoming a fat lazy loser.

letsgetrandy · 2015-08-18T13:29:03+00:00

It's also hard to be honest about my past because they'll think either, "Wow, this loser has no dating experience", or "Wow, this pig just wants to have sex with as many girls as possible"

Don't be scared to be who you are. Don't lie or hide your true self. Own it.

How can I make any girl my girlfriend when they're all easily replaceable? While I like talking to them, I usually lose interest after we have sex.

You probably didn't have much interest to begin with. That's fine. Don't force it.

Just keep meeting people. Eventually you'll meet one whose company you truly enjoy and whose conversation keeps you buzzing. Spend some time with her. If you keep liking it spend more time with her. If you're a good fit for each other, keep her around.

Don't bother yourself over terms like girlfriend. It's just a label. Do what makes you happy.

ThatSpecialPlace · 2015-08-18T14:02:02+00:00

Find a girl who pleases you sexually and emotionally. (You just might have not have come across such a girl yet.)
Show her you're into her as more than just a hook up. (Text her about how you enjoy being with her, how you want to spend time with her, etc.)
Make it FB official. No but real, make her your GF at that point.

2015-08-18T07:55:44+00:00

Hook up and then tell her you had fun you'd like to see her again. Keep seeing her. Be more personal in the conversation. Open up. Have her open up. Repeat until you too are comfortable. Then ask her if she would like to be exclusive. If your being genuine and not mr.pua-trynafvck then she will genuinely like you back and presto your locked down ahaha. Hope that helps good luck.

Tamazin_ · 2015-08-18T09:01:19+00:00

Just keep going, eventually you meet the ones (which i refer to as "a keeper") and hopefully she likes you the same way back (but take it slow!). Tho' it does take time. About what, every one in 25-50-something i date is someone i could see a future with, so they're not so common. But then again i'm quite picky.

An_Emperor · 2015-08-18T10:32:46+00:00

Sounds like you need some r/nofap magic! Get those emotions back in no time.

Harmonic_Minor_Shred · 2015-08-18T09:56:04+00:00

You're 22 lol. Fuck getting tied down so young just keep pimpin dude.

Title	How do you make the switch from hooking up with random girls to having an actual girlfriend?
Author	gungmas1
Upvotes	13
Comments	24
Date	August 18, 2015 5:25 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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