Has getting into seduction unearthed any deep-seated issues for you?

2015-08-28T05:38:31+00:00

Total honesty here, I haven't gotten laid in a month. The reason I got laid was because I called up my ex-gf, so that doesn't count. Before that, I haven't gotten laid by someone different in about a 6 months. Now Ive been in the game for about 8 months. DRY. Very quickly I had to make the decision about whether i was going to let failure determine my happiness. Game has never been about getting laid for me, it has been about self-expression and being able to connect with people around me. When I go out to "game", I have MORE FUN than other guys simply because I have to base my happiness on whether im doing what i want to do. [Internal not external] My advice to you, stop doing game and focus on something you have great passion for. Regain the spark in your eyes and soon the game will come to you. Be patient and be yourself.

ndatoxicity · 2015-08-28T03:56:37+00:00

I'm in a somewhat similar place dude. I feel like I just haven't made the progress I'd hoped for - I've read a few of the inner game books which helped but I guess I just struggle with being flirty and making my intentions clear with women. I don't really have a problem approaching or talking to people, I just can't seem to get past a certain barrier or wall. I'm not sure if I come off as needy/desperate (which may be the case) but I feel like I'm not seeking anything when I'm talking to people.

Idk, I've learned a lot in the past couple of years but I still have quite a long way to go. Sorry I can't offer more advice but just wanted to share how I felt also.

1vibe · 2015-08-28T08:43:01+00:00

Just have fun. Everywhere. All day. All night. While your having fun, talk to girls. Hope that helps:)

hamfraigaar · 2015-08-28T10:01:24+00:00

Sounds like you're not making any progress. Where is it that you get stuck? Is it in similar situations or are you inconsistent?

A guitarist isn't going to learn anything if he picks up the guitar and goes from playing a single note on a single string to attempting to play advanced metal solos at 200bpm within the first 30 min of playing, no matter for how many years he practices. He might do something right in some of his sessions some of the time, but he's never going to be consistent.

If he instead starts with short melodies, then plays open chords, then plays barre chords, then starts learning simple hammer-ons and pull-offs, then learns slides and power chords, then fingerpicking and eventually fretting and picking speed, then he'll suddenly realize he has somehow build up the arsenal to play that 200bpm metal solo.

But not only does he become a good and consistent guitarist. He also experiences small, motivating successes along the way that helps him move forward. And he gets the experience and fundamental understanding that gets him respect in the community, at least as a newcomer. Furthermore, he will start to realize that he can be a performer way before he can do the 200bpm metal solo. It won't be the kind of performance that will take people's breath away, but it will be good enough and fulfilling for everyone involved.

Start with opening and work your way up. Mess around, see what happens. That's all you need for starters. Then find out how you need to move forward. You'll start seeing where you get stuck after opening. How do you work around that? Figure it out. Now you can consistently open, so you can consistently practice what's next. Do it over and over again. Find out what works. When it works, what's the next step? Over and over again until you're satisfied with your life.

Not2original · 2015-08-28T13:36:03+00:00

Its all about screening.

You are not selling yourself to them, like a dancing monkey.

You should be screening them for compatibility to yourself.

What do you look for in a partner?

What are their qualifications?

Don't only look at the surface shit. (eyes, hair, boobs)

does she share any interest that you have?

Wecanbefriendsnow · 2015-08-28T15:18:39+00:00

Sounds like you are becoming more needy and turning girls off.

Take a break and just focus on you and your needs. Go to the gym, get an expensive haircut, treat yourself to a massage.

Take yourself out of the game and come back when you feel ready.

I'm on a 3 month dry spell. How do I remember? Because 3 months ago I moved to Japan. Going on a date tomorrow night so I may break the spell but I don't care if I do or not.

It's just sex, you aren't any less of a man if you aren't getting laid.

Title	Has getting into seduction unearthed any deep-seated issues for you?
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Date	August 28, 2015 2:50 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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