I am still doing something wrong apparently

tangman · 2014-04-23T22:55:55+00:00

Stop running and build muscle. Get a more stylish haircut. You look proud of yourself, which is awesome.

As you can see from your nerdy friends it's really very easy to get girls. Just open your mouth, talk about yourself. Focus on making friends first, even if they are in relationships. Develop charisma, be the guy that always adds to the enjoyment level of the group.

Hot girls always have hot friends. Don't worry about escalating and all that, you'll know when the time is right. When the time does come, just pull the trigger, don't be afraid, make it spontaneous and not premeditated. Your enjoyment of life won't depend on her response at all.

sansurnt · 2014-04-23T04:18:35+00:00

It's a lot about personality you know. Looking good and buff won't get you everywhere unless all the woman wants is a quickie.

harkrank · 2014-04-23T13:29:06+00:00

I think you are in the zone between beta and alpha in the eyes of the girls and that place sucks. You are probably more confident and outgoing than a normal beta, which makes you too much of a challenge for a relationship. Women might write you off as not suitable as a beta bux. Yet still you haven't reached the level of alpha to make the pants wet and be suitable for hookups, like you say being Asian works against you, there is no stereotype Asian player or normal bad boy. It looks like you are short from the pictures.

I gotta say though that you've made a great job improving your looks! Fuck, it looks like two different guys. You're already 90% there with your look improvement, the rest shouldn't be so hard now.

You're in the toughest place right now because swallowing the pill is lonely until you come out on top. Don't envy your friends, their relationships are probably unbearable for a self-respecting man. Also a word of advice, if your friends are beta they might be destroying your reputation behind your back. This kind of toxic thing happens all the time, and if you're physically stronger than them it's even more reason for them. Keep your eyes and ears open.

Do you party? I suggest for you to be more though and cocky, but with a smile. You are Asian and can afford to be politically incorrect more than others as long as it's funny and don't come off as bitter. Have any vice? Women love this kind of self-inflected weakness. They might be worried you are too focused, too much in control of yourself and aware. Asians are stereotyped as calculating.

It's hard to give more advice unless you tell more about yourself, hell what I've written might not apply to you at all.

OneTouchHowMuch · 2014-04-23T05:52:14+00:00

Be a fun person to be around. You like cars? Go to car shows. You like cooking? Have a cooking night with friends. Hell, even if you're boring and you only like watching TV and if you live in a major city you can even make THAT fun by being an audience member for a TV show.

It's a numbers game in terms of meeting people and being around them. Set up situations where you will be around more people.

aaron_the_just · 2014-04-23T04:50:18+00:00

First off, good job improving your looks.

Now it's time to improve everything else. Get out there and game. Get out there and approach. Don't get a goal of getting a girlfriend; just hang out with a girl for a few hours, escalate, and bang her.

You may need some outcome independence. And FYI some girls prefer Asian guys. I had this female friend who was half black and she had a stated preference for either white guys but "Asian guys would be best" (from a purely physical attraction standpoint).

Most her dates with Asian guys were a wreck. The usual outcome was horrible personality. For example, one guy just talked about how important money and financial security was to him. Obviously, don't be that guy.

Title	I am still doing something wrong apparently
Author	dai_xinyi_boxer
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	April 23, 2014 1:14 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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