Feeling a little frustrated by my lack of getting babes. Confidence problem.

SexySmexxy · 2015-10-01T00:52:06+00:00

I'm just ranting. Someone yell at me and tell me to talk to girls please.

Talk to girl.

No but seriously nothing you read on the internet is going to meaningfully change your life at this point.

Ever grow some hair on your chest and go and talk to girls (not try to fuck, just talk to) or you're just gonna be making the same thread here every few months/weeks.

2015-10-01T01:38:27+00:00

I am a sleazy horndog, and I believe in you.

You can do the thing.

JediAmerican · 2015-10-01T07:10:53+00:00

I learned this great trick from Tim Ferris about getting your confidence up when It comes to talking to women. You have to first get that initial confidence boost and start feeling good about yourself. Here's a good way I got started.

When you're anywhere (bar, social scene, whatever) and being your normal introvert self, pick the one girl you think is most attractive or that you would like to talk to the most. Wait until a point where you're leaving or you see she is. More often than not she will be with a group of friends but don't let that deter you because going up to her will make her feel you're confident and safe that you'll talk to her in front of her friends.

Say something to the effect of : hey, I don't mean to intrude, but I think you are just beautiful. (Pause and smile back at her after she smiles - they always do) my friends and I were headed to another bar and I would be kicking myself all night if I didn't walk up and ask if I could call you sometime. Would that be alright?

This usually always works. It's important to keep close to those words. First of course is the compliment. Say your friends and yourself so she doesn't think you're solo creeping. And then asking no if it's alright gives her an out and doesn't make her feel pressured. More often than not you'll get her number, she'll be flattered and you get a confidence boost. I'm not saying it always pans out after but it's a good way to get used to talking to beautiful women. After you do this a couple of times you'll have no problem doing it as soon as you get to the bar. Try it out and hope it works for you like it did you me.

Cheers!

Turlast · 2015-10-01T01:25:05+00:00

Honestly, what's really stopping you? Just talk to them and stop complaining.

Squand · 2015-10-01T02:51:40+00:00

"The girls I do have sex with are from the internet and gross me out."

LOL, What?

2015-10-01T18:38:47+00:00

You already have the body and the look. You already stated what your problem is.. Confidence. I have been doing pickup for two years and yet I always felt inauthentic and the reason is that I am lacking in confidence. I too have the look and the body and we already know our area of weakness, now we just have to improve our self image. Here is a powerful meditation technique that can help you.

Sit down and get relaxed. After a few minutes bring back a memory of a pleasant time and cultivate a joyful feeling. Cultivate the feeling by focusing on it and let it expand.. Do this exercise for a few weeks and I promise you will start to feel more joyful, confident and content. It's from a Tibetan master named tarthang Tulku. You could also try cognitive behavioral therapy with a workbook which is what I am doing. Cheers man you will get there

TonyDAbsolute · 2015-10-01T01:24:58+00:00

Maybe you should take a bootcamp with a good dating coach?

Title	Feeling a little frustrated by my lack of getting babes. Confidence problem.
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Date	October 1, 2015 12:49 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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