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If you read, "swipe right if you're open-minded and liberal." And can't intuit that means DTF, that doesn't make him a liar. It makes you an idiot. I'm sorry this whole conversation is you defending being naive and socially unattuned. Then blaming others. Do you have this problem in other parts of your life? If you're in a restraunt and it's 20 min till the close, you notice them putting chairs on tables and looking grumpy... Are you like, "Boy I wish they'd just be direct. They are so manipulat…
/r/seduction08/10/25 02:41 PM
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I'm not attracted to people who reject me. Maybe that's not universal? I can stop longing for people, that's an emotion I can control. You said women you reject stop being friendly... I am saying I dislike when that happens. If someone rejects me, I don't stop wanting to be their friend just because they don't want to be romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:16 AM
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I hate it when people don't want to be my friend because they aren't physically attracted to me anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 01:31 PM
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For most of us who just want to get laid and aren't looking for a wife I think there is a place for ethical non monogamy in which you'll find sex more satisfying and break ups easier/less messy. And it's well before "I'm looking for a wife" but a little after, "I'm only trying to get laid." I also disagree with "for most of us." TV/Media push that message on men, and we are all left thinking that's how we are supposed to be, or we are weird for wanting a more substantive relationship before bond…
/r/seduction15/11/16 08:38 PM
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Changing the subject was the right play, given he didn't actually have a reason to talk to her, or believe what he said. However, he could have answered the question honestly, and then transitioned and it would have been more natural. imo I have seen "I'll tell you later," No no no "Tell me now" Go on and on, or seen situations where girls keep going back to it. And it's super cringie.
/r/seduction15/11/16 08:21 PM
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"To give you an idea of the sort of things he says, last night I saw him open a girl with something like ''Hey. you look like someone worth meeting''. She was like ''Why?'' and he said ''You've got that look in your eye!''. She said ''what look'', and he said ''I'll tell you later''." IE: Come on girl, this is just a lame pick up line, give me a god damn break. Should have anticipated the follow up question, and had a real answer. There was something about her that drew him over, think about it,…
/r/seduction15/11/16 06:22 PM
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At this point I stop texting and do one phone call a week until hard rejection or I lose interest. (The later is rare if I've had one good date.) I've had several girls who took months or years to score the second date with. But all have turned out to be worth it. If you are using this method, steal yourself against rejection. Most girls who stop answering actually want to soft reject you and you won't win back. As you are seeing other people, you have no attachment to the outcome and so hard re…
/r/seduction15/11/16 06:07 PM
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This is likely unpopular, but what I do is I de-escalate. "First you'd buy a puppy, and it'd be adorable. Then you'd go to the park and start playing fetch. There'd you'd meet a clown and join the circus. Not as a clown, because you're no clown. But maybe an acrobat, or one of those weight guessers - like what's his name from the jerk, have you seen that movie? Anyway now you're traveling the world for a living - not so bad. Maybe you'd meet me - I'm a clown, or at least clown friendly. And I'd …
/r/seduction15/11/16 05:56 PM
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Agree and amplify like a shit test. Or ignore completely.
/r/seduction15/10/16 12:45 PM
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I think you'd get success if - after resistance you told this to a girl. Slight edit. "Hey, so you pulling away is a little awkward, and that's okay. Me pawing at you was awkward too. I want you to know something about me... I didn't grow up hanging around many girls due to strict parenting so being intimate with a girl -- especially one I actually like -- is very foreign to me. I have sexual urges when I'm around you but I have no idea what I should be doing to properly express that. I'm going …
/r/seduction16/09/16 04:15 PM
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Not enough information! Are you dating her? Is this going to be a fuck buddy? What advice was helpful to you? Did you use specific techniques? Also 15hrs ago -How did it go? If it hasn't happened yet. My first time was awesome. I really cared about the girl and we were together for years. Don't sweat it if it's not perfect - is awkward - or if it's awesome/mindblowing. There will be a lot of this in your life going forward. And if it doesn't happen - someone gets cold feet - or you don't take th…
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:45 PM
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Always go for the hug. Here are things I've said before upon first meeting a girl. "Do you! pregnant pause accept hugs from creepsters with good hair?" (insert something you like about yourself in place of hair. EX: Do you! accept hugs from creepsters with massive pokemon collections. Like just the best mother fucking pokemons.) "I find first dates awkward in a couple of places. 1) Do you hug/shake or ignore? I want to hug soo bad. hugging is the right answer isn't it?!" After hug "Alright now t…
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:32 PM
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If your anxiety is that massive - boot camps are usually a bad deal because even if they get you out - that support system isn't there when you leave. So far you've been unsuccessful but it's not impossible. It's not like you live a life of a shut in. You talk to girls - you just aren't doing the "game" thing of hitting on random ones. Your approach anxiety may even be on the normal scale. I've seen numerous posts from people with massive anxiety that said they escalated slowly. Did a week of sm…
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:16 PM
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Invite them out - bring up open relationships as a topic. "Hey I have a friend who is full blown into open relationships. And he was telling me it's just like when you're playing the field and that the girls he dates are 100% cool with it. That seems great too me, but I've never had a relationship like that. What do you think?" Do not go up to the guy and say, "Derp - can I have sex with your girlfriend." First of all - it's not up to him. He's a boyfriend not a gatekeeper. Second off it's total…
/r/seduction16/09/16 03:06 PM
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Escalate until hard rejection or until you are not interested.
/r/seduction26/06/16 12:23 AM
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"I can't say a girl has ever checked me out" Try skinny jeans for a week and get back to us. Girls look at dude's bulges all the time. Girls who were into heman as a child, girls who lift themselves, are really into muscley dudes and the affection they lavish can often be intense. And basically every study on looks shows that the vast majority of women want fit/ripped but not huge. The whole world treats you differently if you are hansome. Not just women. "Don't feel bad if you're not in shape, …
/r/seduction09/06/16 04:38 PM
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Yes
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:24 PM
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Guy doesn't talk to girl for 2 years, reports she's the shy one. Having a crush on someone and not telling them is creepy. Because your motivations are hidden.
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:18 PM
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Success. That's the point of the anecdote. Did you go up to 100 girls, say, "hey, you're cute, I'd love to get your number." and go 0 out of 100?
/r/seduction09/02/16 02:55 AM
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I don't believe you've asked 100 women for their phone number and all of them said no. No matter how bad your approach is that won't happen. I have an acquaintance who stood outside and just asked every woman who passed if she would sleep with him so he could lose his virginity.
/r/seduction08/02/16 08:40 PM
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I'd add: Gang bangs are not common and should give pause, would be incentive to look deeper into a girl's past. It seems unlikely that sort of behavior wouldn't exist as a coping mechanism for trauma. A gang bang isn't a run of the mill kink. If she did it once, and it was enjoyable you'd need to contemplate if that's an itch you'll indulge her scratching. Most guys I know would avoid a gang bang. I reject the premis that guys are hypocrites when it comes to sexual purity. Most guys I know want …
/r/seduction30/01/16 06:01 AM
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People are different in what they want. Play to the person.
/r/seduction26/01/16 03:38 PM
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Get her a card. If she isn't seeing someone else, try to take her out as a bday present before bday or day of if you can.
/r/seduction26/01/16 03:37 PM
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This is not a phenomenon I am familiar with. Could be coincidence.
/r/seduction26/01/16 03:29 PM
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What website? It sounds like Ashley Madison. Which has chat bots. It just sounds like you aren't interacting with real people.
/r/seduction26/01/16 03:26 PM
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Yes, that's the generally accepted "nice guy" theory. A truly nice person doesn't complain about not getting what they want and instead takes life as it comes and looks to actively improve everyone's life.
/r/seduction26/01/16 06:55 AM
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I wish I could read her heart rate. Not even her mind. Why are you gimping your magic wishes? It is not religiously conservative to avoid asking someone out on a date. Take a deep breath. Get a grip. Ask her out, rejection is better than your current torture. Asking her to hang out in a platonic fashion in order to mask your lustful intentions is super creepy. Don't be a creepster. When you are wishing for super powers go big or go home. Think about it, WWJD?
/r/seduction26/01/16 06:53 AM
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Don't put it. Girls who dealbreaker on height can be won over. Such a dumb dealbreaker. You being awesome and charming will help them confront thier ignorant prejudices.
/r/seduction25/01/16 09:32 PM
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I like the idea, but dislike the format. As it comes across as condescending. Perhaps you could do a search and cull good responses to these issues. As there are a number of ways to Kickstart someone out of this line of thinking.
/r/seduction19/12/15 07:57 PM
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First off, practice. 2nd maybe sex shouldn't be your goal. If your goal is go out and have a good time, enjoy company, sexual escapades happen more organically. If you are thinking, boy I want ti get laid, that's the subtext you're pushing out to the world. Also, though I normally don't recommend this, under the circumstances you describe I think you should ask what's up. If this has happened a half dozen times, there is likely insight that these girls have to give you.
/r/seduction19/12/15 03:25 PM
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Yeah, dyslexic. Homophones and near homophones are my enemy.
/r/seduction13/12/15 02:43 AM
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Social proof works. We want what others want. It's super effective on me, girl be not on my radar and some guy says daaamn and all the sudden I'm all, she is really attractive isn't she? Stupid brain.
/r/seduction13/12/15 12:47 AM
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I have a boyfriend is a soft no. And often indicates you didn't build raport before going for the ask or are giving player vibe. It's a less crass way of saying, "you are only talking to me to get laid." If she has a bf, she's either not going to mention it until you try something overt or she will drop it more casually, "my bf gave me this cool book, if you like sci fi you should try it." So work on building report and it will probably stop happening. Things I do, I ignore and change topics. I …
/r/seduction13/12/15 12:41 AM
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Your question is basically, have you ever gotten laid after watching a movie...
/r/seduction13/12/15 12:24 AM
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Sure. Before pickup, when I just started talking to girls I'd tell them how obsessed I was with x and how she was perfect for me and blah blah blah. In particular, I would tell an embarrassing story of trying to when her over in a clumsy fashion only to be rejected. On the face of it, this story is all about me being needy and inept, and on some level gullible. But god damn if girls didn't think, boy, I wish a guy would be that stupid over me. And it got to the point were it almost felt like pai…
/r/seduction12/12/15 07:39 PM
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Always assume attraction. Escalate till rejection. You think she's into you. So that's an indicator. An indicator isn't a sure thing. An ioi is one of many small markers that help you guess @ the probability of interest. You will never know if she is into you. In the grand scheme of things, you could marry her, have a million babies and on your deathbed learn she never really loved you. And think, but all those indicators!
/r/seduction12/12/15 06:12 PM
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Having flaws is okay, actively working on them is good, being insecure is bad. Ymmv, but being honest in this way has opened more doors than it's closed. On a personal level, I hate avoiding direct questions. I never/rarely dodge confrontation. Are you hitting on me? Yes.
/r/seduction12/12/15 06:03 PM
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Sincerity in your frame. That would be my guess. Here is a specific example of how one might turn it around. Are you trying that youtube thing? "Yeah! I mean, I honestly do think you're pretty - don't get me wrong, but I needed help talking to girls. On some level it's working, though not as i expected. Have you ever seen a good youtube pickup guy or one you really hated? " The girl is basically saying, wait? Are you hitting on me? Which isn't necessarily rejection and can be a good sign. You ar…
/r/seduction12/12/15 02:41 PM
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5k messages and you never met? And she's telling you her feelings for you are stronger than some dude she knows in real life? Your game is not my game.
/r/seduction11/12/15 06:28 PM
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Op, how often do you watch porn and or masterbate? Is it really a sex drive issue? Or have people guessed correctly that you jerk off every day and that's what's satisfying you?
/r/seduction11/12/15 06:09 PM
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Look like implants. Bolt on.
/r/seduction11/12/15 06:07 PM
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Psst, hey. I just wanted to congratulate you on awesome choice of streets to walk down this morning. My name is sq, what's yours? Replace Street with place you are in the moment. Also, "on a scale from one to hottest guy in the room, how hot is that guy over there? The one with the top knot. Oh! Really, he was my pick. I am glad you left room for my self delusion that I might be your #1 pick. But I have to tell you, we are friends now and friends don't rate each other on the hot or not scale. Th…
/r/seduction05/12/15 02:04 AM
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"I'm definitely not trying to generalize all women based off what I'm attracted to." You definitely did generalize all women. Also "Women make it pretty clear if they are interested in you simply by, continuing conversation with you, asking you questions, and most importantly eye contact." Note to self, any woman who makes eye contact with me is being clear she is into me. *rollseyes Your take on this subreddit and mine are very different.
/r/seduction05/12/15 01:53 AM
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I'd say it's def. okay if you're dating. I'd also say, you've got to play it by ear. Some girls build report and intimacy through text. You've got to gauge what kind of girl you have. If you've established in person report, and clear about your intentions, holding to a strict, "Only text for logistics" doesn't make sense. (Unless you hate texting. And I do! Girls who text chat are a total boner killer for me. I just loath it. Give me a call. Meet me. I don't want your emoji bullshit blowing me u…
/r/seduction02/12/15 03:51 PM
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"I don't like daygame or clubs" AKA: I'm inexperienced at gaming in these venues and have limiting beliefs. A dude on here gave me this wisdom a while ago regarding your situation. If you're disqualifying over looks, you haven't dated enough hot girls. Finding a girl with a truly compatible personality is much rarer than finding a hot girl you get along with. Once you've dated a lot of hot girls, you realize it's not rare or interesting. I'd add, your dick gets just as hard for a seven as it doe…
/r/seduction02/12/15 03:49 PM
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op isn't talking about sex. Obviously if she verbalizes disinterest than you aren't asking the question, you know where she stands and you act accordingly. You escalate until rejection. You assume attraction until confirmed or denied.
/r/seduction02/12/15 02:58 PM
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This seems like a deeper issue, maybe it should be taken up with him or R/relationships.
/r/seduction30/11/15 10:37 PM
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You have a small penis but you don't have a micro penis. Yours is in the average range for adult males. 4in is technically enough to hit g spot, yadda yadda. Sorry you had a bad exp. It may not be your last, and is more likely to happen with girls who have a small sample size to reference. (if she's only seen one or two dicks and they happend to be 7, that's normal to her.) more experienced girls will know that they come in all shapes /sizes. Most people care more about personality than looks. M…
/r/seduction20/11/15 02:01 PM
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I normally call. "This is the mandatory after great date text" "Checking in on you." "My day has been awesome, how is yours treating you?" I used to not check in, but people complained enough that I was convinced it's best practice.
/r/seduction24/10/15 09:22 PM
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Saying it just like that is fine.
/r/seduction23/10/15 07:32 PM
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This guy will be cool. Third wheel is pretty avoidable. As long as you aren't jumping her bones the entire time, just treat it like you're going out with two friends. In general, other people should help your game. Because you'll be able to show you get along with her social circle. Being accepted by her friends will reinforce that you're cool to date.
/r/seduction23/10/15 07:06 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3nma9w/chicago_seddit/?ref=search_posts
/r/seduction23/10/15 01:41 PM
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I think you missunderstood what he meant by "just go with those guys." @op you told her to date other dudes? Her mentioning other dudes is like dhving herself. It's like saying, "look wartole, i am a catch!" But it also checks you, to see what you're interested in. Are you comfortable with her having orbiters, fwb, casually dating other people? It sounds like you'd prefer to be monogamous with this girl. Is that the case? Talking about other dudes doesn't put you in the friendzone. Being unclear…
/r/seduction19/10/15 02:25 PM
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This makes me want to make a list of conversation starters that I've used. These don't fit my style. The biggest problem with these is they aren't open ended. *Edit for grammar.
/r/seduction17/10/15 04:47 PM
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I do maybe one a week and the rest is internet. I garner I see about 3 girls a day that I'd be interested in. Just while out and about. But yeah, approach one. When I've done challenges like you are doing, I always find the dates pile up. After a while you are sitting on so many girls who are interested or you're dating that doing massive sets... There just isn't time. At my most active I was doing 3-5 dates a week. And it was probably over 100 okc messages a week. And then dating in my social c…
/r/seduction16/10/15 03:16 PM
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Get more sleep. Even this post is hard to parse. The body needs rest to function, getting solid rest is healthy living 101. Find the time. Stick hard to a sleep schedule. Setting boundaries and learning discipline when it comes to sleep is a quality life skill. Probably better than learning coping mechanisms for an otherwise unhealthy lifestyle. I can't/don't do this, but the most productive people I know are very meticulous about guarding work life balance. *edit typo; thanks
/r/seduction16/10/15 02:47 PM
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Are you trolling me? What about this convo doesn't reek of desperation for your attention?
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:23 PM
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This girl just likes you.
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:16 PM
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This doesn't seem like a shit test. It's just a girl who wants to hang out with you and is begging. What is the activity? Why are you annoyed with her? This seems like you two are flirting. I would counter offer if I liked her and say, I prefer not to, if I didn't.
/r/seduction15/10/15 03:04 PM
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Being funny is an almost entirely cultural and learned trait. Different tribes, in the broadest sense possible, find very different things funny. Saying "I've rarely seen girls who are genuinely funny" is akin to saying, "I don't get South African humor." Or, "That Japanese comedian seems very peculiar too me." Of course not! You aren't the audience. You don't have the shared experience, the verbal colloquialisms, you are an outsider. Feeling humor is or isn't genuine... it isn't due to gender n…
/r/seduction14/10/15 11:26 PM
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Soul mate, huh? Good luck with that.
/r/seduction14/10/15 12:45 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/search?q=Kino&restrict_sr=on
/r/seduction14/10/15 05:02 AM
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Having a diverse set of friends is valuable. Coming away from that experience thinking, "Boy woman are so different than men," and even, "women are better friends than men" is not ideal. If one were to put ten women behind a chat program and gave you ten minutes to talk to them, you'd have no clue whether they were women or men... unless you asked them point blank. I don't want to pick this post apart piece by piece. I agree with the general idea, one should seek out a diverse set of friends, no…
/r/seduction14/10/15 01:14 AM
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"I'm afraid that I might come off as a creep looking for sex." Is that your goal? When you talk to a stranger, are you thinking, boy I hope she fucks me or else this convo is one big waste of my time! *edit homophone
/r/seduction14/10/15 12:32 AM
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Thanks, I am also hoping to hear from someone who actively engages in this. I feel like our assumptions might prove wrong.
/r/seduction13/10/15 04:26 PM
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I would escalate as normal. If she reiterates or hard rejects when I go for the kiss, I'd freeze her out. I am not going to play flirty when what I want is a real relationship. tl;dr Decide what you want and pursue that. "Oh, I am not ready/I don't want a rebound" is a very soft rejection.
/r/seduction13/10/15 02:17 PM
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Escalate until rejection or you are not interested anymore, don't text more than once a day if you are interested. If she isn't interested, it's okay for her to use her big girl words and let you know. You are a dude who isn't going to fly off the handle when someone directly turns you down. The reason you should pursue is because while most girls don't respond as a sign of rejection, some are forgetful, busy, testing your interest, or simply have different text etiquette. You will never know wh…
/r/seduction13/10/15 02:00 PM
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I hold out for 5 months, rule of thumb. Most people I know do about 3 dates. In my social circle very few men are interested in random sex.
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:29 AM
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Brave to share. I hope you stop doing it. But I also don't think you should beat yourself up too much. This is pretty common faux pas. You and the girl are both consenting adults and low self esteem isn't just on her end.
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:27 AM
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Do you feel incongruent? Dishonest? Or just lame?
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:20 AM
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Do you feel incongruent? Dishonest? Or just lame?
/r/seduction12/10/15 03:20 AM
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Chicago accessible.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:47 PM
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I skimmed it. Seemed like it was fine and playful banter. I never want to text a girl that much. I fucking hate chat conversations. I want logistics for hanging out, and that's it. I never build any attachment via text, and I'm annoyed when girls do. I need real life shared experiences. Everyone is different.
/r/seduction10/10/15 04:31 AM
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This isn't enough info to give quality advice. But just ring him up and actually be upfront about your needs. "And when it comes to dating I'm pretty up front." Oh yeah? This posts belies otherwise. Also, "It's been a month and he texts me daily but it's so irregular..." wait everyday is irregular? Are you -- my mom? Fuckboy seems to be contentious as a term, not sure how you are using it. http://www.slate.com/blogs/lexicon_valley/2015/08/18/what_does_fuckboy_mean.html In my social circle, a fuc…
/r/seduction10/10/15 03:36 AM
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What is your therapy situation? Hard case, like you talk about usually comes about from trauma.
/r/seduction08/10/15 01:47 AM
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"And it's always the fat ugly chicks that approach me, or worse homosexuals." This kind of thinking/talk is very unpc might be disqualifying you. If you are ripped, as kickboxing suggests, you might be intimidating. Hard to give concrete advice without a more detailed field report. Looks matter very little compared to game and game works for everyone, even hot dudes. Likely worthwhile, get someone to take a pick of you without your shirt and do the internet thing. Get profile tips from r/OkCupid
/r/seduction02/10/15 05:05 AM
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Pick one as target. Aproach as you would any group. That they are twins should make 0 difference to your game. Your instinct is correct, don't mention it and don't care about it.
/r/seduction02/10/15 04:46 AM
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Your answer seems fine. Unlikely to reconnect no matter what you say. But keep trying until you disqualify her or she rejects you.
/r/seduction02/10/15 04:41 AM
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Hahahaha. Thanks for the reply. I've never had an experience like that. I don't know how to respond. I want to moralize and pontificate about boundaries and staying sex positive. But it seems inappropriate. Good luck on your next approach.
/r/seduction01/10/15 03:18 AM
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"The girls I do have sex with are from the internet and gross me out." LOL, What?
/r/seduction01/10/15 02:51 AM
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"The whole Indian parents thing is just a lie IMO, most do not care about race at all." 0.o Even Gandhi talked shit about black people. "Racism in India" gets 37 million results in google. Are you going to tell me, there isn't a serious cultural gap between feminism in America and in India? This certainly isn't the perception I have gleamed from Indian women who live here now. My sample size is small but of the dozen male Indian/Pakistani friends co-workers I've had. Three had issues with family…
/r/seduction30/09/15 03:38 AM
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I see it all the time.
/r/seduction29/09/15 11:43 PM
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"Have never seen an Indian guy with a..." try google. The simple pick up dude is indian and pulls white chicks all the time. Is your position that American women are just that racist? Or that the human genome isn't 99.9% the same between you and every other human on the planet? I don't have a ton of Indian friends, but all of them have tons of pressure from their parents not to date white girls. I know one case were a family disowned a son because he was engaged to a hot white blond girl. He lef…
/r/seduction29/09/15 11:42 PM
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Fetishizing age is the wrong way to go about this. You didn't waste your dating years, you chose to do other things. Start keeping track of your day. Make goals. Learn to focus on the process. Instead of "regret" focus on change. Reframe, I wish I would have... To, I look forward to... Regret can be a helpful emotion to feel, but use it to make positive changes in your behavior. On some level...if you're feeling really low about girls, try this perspective: Like dude, sure you could have been wi…
/r/seduction29/09/15 09:24 PM
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Escalate until rejection or you disqualify her. It's never harassment to clearly communicate your desire. Also, your intention should mitigate creepiness. Your intention is to express yourself, not to get her # or sleep with her. If you have outcome independence, you aren't creepy.
/r/seduction28/09/15 10:21 PM
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I have dated a handful of girls 10yrs youner, they don't introduce me to friends, they hang with my circle instead. I am certainly not picking them up from class or walking around campus. So I'm not sure where you'd see this coupling... Also, people would assume I am dad or friend or boss so there might be perceptional blinders. These relationships have also always been short lived, save one.
/r/seduction28/09/15 10:04 PM
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It's junk science. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/give-and-take/201309/goodbye-mbti-the-fad-won-t-die
/r/seduction27/09/15 01:44 PM
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It totally depends on the scenario. People take cheating too seriously. It's not the end of the world and it can be a one time thing. It is almost always a symptom of some outside factor rather than, "they don't respect you." Feeling unloved, insecure, yadda yadda. If you want, you can work with someone on that. There is a savage love anecdote where he's like, "you made 25 years and only cheated once? You did awesome!" Walking is always fine. But imo, it's not a given. People should know the con…
/r/seduction19/09/15 10:23 PM
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There are many ways to add value. Examples: be funny, knowledgeable, generous, be a connector, offer kindness, support, insight. The idea is that your object in any interaction is to give selflessly. Understand you've been given to generously throughout your life and that you are dhuty bound to give back at every opportunity. In this way, be mindful of your gifts and cultivate them. Are you good at basketball? Practice, teach, play with others. Are you interested in science, participate in the c…
/r/seduction19/09/15 09:44 PM
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Be direct and honest. Also flatter. Call/text regularly. And be explicit about commitment.
/r/seduction17/09/15 09:17 PM
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I think all the answers below are true. The most awkward open in the world is easily overcome if you can carry a conversation. What I do, is I either find something I want to tell her. Or something I want to ask her. Both of these are outcome independent. I don't want her to listen. I don't want her to answer. I just want to execute my actions, what she does with them is her business. The importance of this mindset is that if you don't talk to her, you've failed yourself. You'll feel that pang, …
/r/seduction17/09/15 08:25 PM
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I like it. r/poetry or deviantarts poetry forum might be a better place for it though?
/r/seduction31/08/15 03:07 AM
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Those are AWESOME details. I now hope this guy calls you back, and you have a million babies together.
/r/seduction29/08/15 04:09 PM
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"I gave him my number," Did he initiate? Did he ask for your number? I'd drop this guy. He banged you, and didn't give you a courtesy text/call within 48 hours, not even a response to yours? (Hey fun, but I'm not feeling it. Hope it's not awkward at work!) One night stands are fine. But people should respond to texts and use their big boy words when they want to end something. Don't shit where you eat. Don't fuck dudes at work. Don't date dudes at work. 2 billion other dudes, show some restraint…
/r/seduction28/08/15 08:48 PM
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I get what you're saying. It's what Dataclysm and Okc/blog recommends. And I think dating 100s of women in search of (the) "one" you want to spend the rest of your life with, is a good way to go about life. But there are women who aren't responding because they Never reply to copy pasta. If that doesn't bother you, more power. But those are the types of girls I'm specifically interested in. I bet there are probably even some women who only reply to copy pasta, thinking, "If the guy has time to w…
/r/seduction28/08/15 08:28 PM
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If you are playing a numbers game, and you don't care which women you meet, than efficiency is key. Even then, gaming the system with unique copy pasta is going to be your best bet. Find things about the girls you like, and write something specific about it. There is a great example in Dataclysm where a guy sends messages to smokers. It'd be hard to guess that it was copy pasta, but the dude sent it to 100s of girls. There are a bunch you can find on various blogs. But I suggest you take a few h…
/r/seduction28/08/15 05:29 PM
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That rule doesn't apply to college/High-School.
/r/seduction27/08/15 11:15 PM
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Once you get to know a girl, race won't be a real issue. It's superficial and people don't really care about it outside of 0 impressions or 1st impressions. Any racial preference can be quickly overcome through shared experience/flirting/game. (outside of overt racism) "Of course there's also the feeling in you when you approach a girl that maybe she "just doesn't like ______(insert race) guys. Any thoughts?" This will happen. But if you push through it, they should come around fairly quickly. T…
/r/seduction25/06/15 06:10 PM
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You are looking at your core values and thinking strongly about compatability. When you have abundance mentality, and always seek to give value, and improve yourself... this should sort itself out. When you're being non judgemental you're also open to friendship. You don't dislike the person, you don't think less of them, instead you realise you aren't right for them.
/r/seduction25/06/15 06:03 PM
1

But do you know her FB name or did she accept your friend request already?
/r/seduction24/06/15 08:11 PM
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Are you FB friends? Do you have her real email or phone number? (campus directory?)
/r/seduction24/06/15 07:17 PM
1

What's your fixation on being seen as gay?
/r/seduction24/06/15 04:12 PM
1

Game as normal
/r/seduction31/05/15 08:37 PM
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I don't think we can know from context, op. Probably good that you didn't ask right away, but if you stay friendly, ask her in a few days/week.
/r/seduction31/05/15 08:28 PM
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You can get fb.
/r/seduction31/05/15 08:10 PM
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Do you play any sports? If not, what are your main hobbies?
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:21 PM
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Not enough graphs, for my likeing. I think a greater question is, "What's going on in your dating life that makes a long distance relationship worth contemplating?" Of course it's not doomed. But it's difficult, not ideal, unpleasant. Before entering into an LDR think long and hard about whether or not your relationship is forever. Do you want to marry the girl? If not... why exasperate a sub par relationship? If you are planning on getting married or honestly think the relationship has that pot…
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:20 PM
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O.o How old are you? What is the setting? 0.) I'm sorry that happened to you. Those women were rude and should be ashamed of themselves. Most women aren't like that. 1) You can't be too conventionally unattractive because then they'd be too self conscious to mention it. 2) Don't try to read into facial expressions of people you don't know. People do that too me all the time, my face looks more expressive than it is. The subtext of "Hello." Shouldn't be overtly sexual. "Hello" shouldn't read as "…
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:07 PM
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Misleading title, doesn't turn someone who flaked into a date. It's all about mitigating flakes in the first place. Would be interested in seeing how people react in the face of flake. Those that keep going after it too make it happen. Most just let it go, thinking, if she flakes why would I want to date her, or ever reward that kind of behavior with my ld.
/r/seduction29/05/15 12:05 AM
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No matter how bad your approach is, this is poor form on the girl's part. I tend to agree with those saying, this won't happen with a good approach. But can you give us concrete examples of when this happened?
/r/seduction28/05/15 05:49 PM
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I wish Lucien had more upvotes. I want to add something someone said on this board about a year ago. Once you date enough models, you'll stop giving a shit about levels. Game makes physically attractive girls accessible for everyone. And you'll find, your dick operates for a 7-8 the same way it does for a 9-10. Once beauty stops being rare, it stops being valuable. It's value is entirely based on it's "perceived" rarity to you. This is not true for other traits you find attractive. Does she read…
/r/seduction28/05/15 05:42 PM
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"Status update. In the past month I have had 3 hookups, one arranged threesome (they nerved and flaked), one flopped hookup, and over six new phone numbers and at least four girls I'm working to meetup with since we're texting now." 1 hook up a week is in the realm of incredible. Especially if you're starting from scratch. (All new hook ups.) "This feminism bullshit, women deserve respect fuckery, and thinking there should be a special connection for sex is all garbage." This is not true, there …
/r/seduction25/05/15 04:09 PM
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I'm of the opinion that it's good to have these sorts of interactions where you don't go for a number close. You ejected. It was on your own terms. (As far as she could tell.) There is a non 0 chance you'll see her around and now you're the guy who chatted her up but didn't want anything out of the exchange outside of being friendly. Also, the next time she is thinking, "Guys just want to get in my pants." She'll think back to that one time, a dude was nice to her at a gas station. Just to be ni…
/r/seduction23/05/15 09:08 PM
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Is there any reason why you are fighting so hard to hold onto a mindset that is so unhelpful in your life? What mindset are you claiming I hold?
/r/seduction23/05/15 01:00 PM
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He doesn't come across as jaded to me. Your re-frame seems like arguing semantics rather than fundamental differences in point of view. "Good to know which places aren't your thing." His answer is a direct response to a specific question from Dear_prudence. Why are you snarking on him for that? "It's not "reality." It's your CHOICE in mindset." You don't think it's easier for some guys to connect with women than others? No other factor outside of mindset matters?
/r/seduction23/05/15 12:12 AM
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"Why did you go to that club?" It wasn't called stuck up snobs only never get laid or have a good time club! "Bro had some pretty solid advice" Like girls don't ever approach -- which is a lie and called out in the first reply post. "You felt the need to shit on it because of the title." No, he shit on the title. Because the title is the antithesis of even the mediocre advice given. "It's easy! Just work really hard, study from books, and do tons of approaches, oh also etc etc..." Anyone who tel…
/r/seduction22/05/15 12:28 AM
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"I get jealous when she talks about how her male co-worker did something funny during work or when she favorite's other guys content on social media." Do you ever feel like you're going to cheat? Have you ever cheated?
/r/seduction21/05/15 05:53 PM
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Bus Pssst, hey. Listen, you can't choose me, because obviously, but other than that... who is the hottest guy on the bus right now? Supermarket I've never successfully done this. Street This is totally out of line, but that jacket is awesome. Hypothetically speaking, let's say... someday I trick a girl into falling madly in love with me, and I want to creepily dress her just like the random girl I saw on the street in 2015, where would I go to get that jacket? Ahh, I love that store. Okay, so ob…
/r/seduction20/05/15 08:19 PM
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Do you have any answers to this question? What sort of things do you think would help you raise your confidence? Right now, there must have been some times in your life, where you've felt confident? Describe those times for me.
/r/seduction19/05/15 08:43 PM
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" I could have improved by grabbing and engaging girls who came by earlier..." I think that's possible, but it's just as likely that they were there to blow dudes out. Did you see anyone be successful with them? My favorite part is "save me from the creeps" = "Let me creep on you" Have you ever used, "Your friend over their needs you!" As a way to disengage before? Do you have a number of outs like that? If I'm in a set that's going well for the girl but not for me, ie she wants it to keep going…
/r/seduction19/05/15 08:40 PM
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Yes, those are signs of interest. But with game you don't need them. Decide if you like her, and if you do, you have one option, approach.
/r/seduction19/05/15 08:25 PM
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"I am emotionally spoken for," What does that mean for you and your girlfriend? It sounds like you can fuck other people but you can't fall in love or date them.
/r/seduction19/05/15 08:20 PM
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This is true of everything in life. Any self motivated person could learn anything for free. I've seen threads in seddit where people said, "For me it wasn't worth the money." But they are few and far between. Most people feel like they get their money's worth. $60-100 an hour is a lot, but it's not in the realm of swindle for a personal trainer. I also suspect people who don't see the value in this proposition underestimate how much fun they are. It's not for me, but belly aching over being swi…
/r/seduction18/05/15 10:24 PM
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Honestly "100% okay" is a huge red flag. No one is 100% okay with open relationships, it's always sorting things out and tons of communication, finding ways to mitigate natural jealousies and petty thoughts. "Divorce is not on the table." Divorce is on the table for every married American. To think it's not more likely when you start fucking other people is... a little naive. A man or a woman can understand cheating/opening up a relationship rationally... but dealing with it emotionally is somet…
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:37 PM
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There are soooo many dudes in the bar you can't compete with. Just because you know this one, you notice it.
/r/seduction16/05/15 05:44 PM
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Most guys never succed? What are the stats on people who never mary or have kids?
/r/seduction16/05/15 05:31 PM
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Given the context, I have another theory. She is shy, when you are dating, she knows it won't go anywhere, so it's safe to flirt. There are lots of other possibilities, not all women are like this, and I know tons of guys who are like this. I'll admit I am way more attracted to girls who can pull. I think you should ask yourself what you want from her. It sounds like you have feelings but her shyness kept you from pursuing so you moved on. Is that accurate?
/r/seduction16/05/15 05:26 PM
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Did you give her more attention prior, your op didn't make it sound that way.
/r/seduction16/05/15 05:06 PM
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stealing from jurassic park, life finds a way. If you were stuck on a desert island with 6 people, 3 girls and 3 guys, you'd be committed for life and almost assuredly be down with wife swapping. Our social mores are predicated on the choices we have. People who live in towns of 200 people miraculously find love. And it's meaningful, and productive and great. The video talks about an X factor being limiting. But the X factor is our biological need to procreate and that time spent with someone na…
/r/seduction02/05/15 02:20 PM
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Acknowledging jealousy, when you're actually feeling it is important. Having ways to diffuse it, is also great. That said, I find jealousy is a turn on if you're doing it as a sign of affection/interest. If you're doing it because you're insecure, then it's going to be a turn off. The subtext matters. "So who were you with last night." I'm about to rip your clothes off, to make sure you never think about another guy again. or "So who were you with last night." Fuck, are you going to break up wit…
/r/seduction01/05/15 11:01 PM
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Of course I'm attracted to more than 1k girls in my city. But how many have actual potential? If you are seeking an LTR and are trying to quantify compatibility... what percentile of compatibility do you want in a relationship? Do you want to be a 10%er? How about a 1%er? If you imagine this possibility is shaped like a bell curve you need a pretty big pool of women to find one that's super compatable with you. Another way to look at it is through the drake equation. 3 million turns into 1.5 tur…
/r/seduction01/05/15 10:38 PM
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You should move to a big city. Sometimes I think about dating in small town america, it sends shivers down my spine. In a town of 3 million, there's maybe 1000 girls I'm interested in. In a town of 25k I'd just be dating people I thought sucked. Perhaps it would broaden my horizons and teach me to be more accepting? Maybe you just learn that getting along is all about shared experience above most else? I don't know.
/r/seduction01/05/15 01:37 PM
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Perhaps instead of men, you should phrase it, "Classy people don't partake in gossip." Plenty of men gossip. Plenty of girls don't gossip. Gossip isn't like a vagina, one team gets it and the other doesn't! Them's just the rules.
/r/seduction30/04/15 12:27 PM
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Have you heard of the term outcome independence? You want to make actions because those actions add value, or are sincere representations of your feelings, not because you're hoping/needing a specific outcome. That's the inner game technique one uses to "stop caring if she replies." When you text a girl or ask her out, you don't do it because you're hoping she will say yes, you're doing it to express your feelings, regardless of her response. You tell her about your day because you want to share…
/r/seduction30/04/15 12:19 PM
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pain period for a few months up to a year. Wait, what? OP, it's going to take the time it takes, everyone is different but... I suspect given what you've written, it's not going to take a year. Nor do I think scheduling out months to be sad about a break up is healthy. The general consensus is go balls to the wall meeting/dating new people. Once you hit ten, you should be over any heartache.
/r/seduction30/04/15 11:49 AM
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I have spent the last year sitting on my ass, playing video games, drinking/smoking heavily, and doing the bate minimum at my shitty, shitty job. Given the above... breaking up with you isn't that crazy. Actually seems like it's going to be good for both of you.
/r/seduction30/04/15 11:45 AM
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Sincerity. The most ostentatious look is fine, as long as it's sincere.
/r/seduction27/04/15 02:19 PM
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I do it as a pick up line. I ask girls to trade glasses with me. It's intimate, and gives you a chance to tell them they look good. Lots of various ways to play it. After she puts her glasses back on. Touch her arm, "Wait, can I see you with your glasses off again.... Damn, the glasses are cool, I like them... but you're face is really pretty too. I bet boys love waking up next to you." Bite lip."Ahhh, totally out of line. We just met. Sorry. It just popped in there." Blush. Depending on reactio…
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:16 PM
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Recognize it's a sign of disinterest. Change the topic/Start a new thread. Avoid yes or no questions. If you're seriously interested in talking about the topic, push harder. Ask yourself, "Given her response how can I add value to her life?" In the above scenario, if the girl isn't adapt at keeping conversation going, it's very hard for her to answer in a way that isn't, yeah or no. It's also a potentially hazardous question to answer. If she says yes, she's met nice boys she likes, she possibly…
/r/seduction27/04/15 12:54 PM
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" No more Mr. Nice guy." Being confident and true to yourself is the best way to be a nice guy. Doing what you're told and secretly resenting it, isn't nice. Good luck not falling back into a yo-yo situation with the ex. It's hard to break up with people. But it sounds like you made the right decision.
/r/seduction18/01/15 03:16 PM
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What you described is basically my favorite kind of date. I like just walking and talking.
/r/seduction16/01/15 01:04 AM
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It's generally accepted that women have better advice regarding what men want then men do. http://www.reddit.com/r/fpua might be worth it to Xpost
/r/seduction16/01/15 12:50 AM
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Great write up. “Hey [Greenpoint Girl], it was nice meeting you. Thanks for not swiping left.” Why would she respond to that? You didn't ask her out. You didn't ask her to write back. You didn't start a conversation. Did you ever call her again? There are a lot of points in this story that show subtle tech stuff. But... if you never called or texted ever again... like... If I'd been the girl. And the interaction had ended with, "Pleasure meeting ya, Miss." and I had presumably said, "yeah, nice …
/r/seduction16/01/15 12:16 AM
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Do you make her call you immediately? If not, I'm skeptical. The girls who call you back, are extremely interested in you, sure. But you're missing out on all the shy girls, all the girls who simply believe the 'rules' and don't call guys first, all the girls who are on the fence, all the girls who are scared of calling strangers, all the girls who later get drunk and can't remember this extra number in their phone, all the busy girls who mean to call you but lose track of time etc. etc. Any sit…
/r/seduction15/01/15 10:51 PM
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This post makes me wonder, if we should start building more info about the ltr seduction. I wouldn't mind seeing a lot more, date 2 and date 3 field reports.
/r/seduction15/01/15 02:57 AM
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I suspect that there is a good chance saying it out loud will stop it from happening in the future. I liked your idea of adding a compliment, but this is how I would play it. "Jesus, are you flirting with me, Becka!? Because if you keep it up, I'll remain tongue tied, and we will n-n-n-n-never finish this conversation." If her response is, "I am not flirting with you, dork!" Or something negative. I just cop to it, serious tone of voice. "Oh, you caught me. Must have been a little projection on …
/r/seduction15/01/15 12:52 AM
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The direct approach with a girl you're acquainted with is a good idea. While most high schoolers who post here mention they love to text I don't see evidence that it's particularly effective. I would go for the phone number and then ask her out directly over the phone, rather than ask her out/figure out the logistics in person. HS seems like a great place to do recon. Do your friends like her, do they think she's hot? Will they wing you? If a guy or girl friend will "subtly" drop to her that you…
/r/seduction15/01/15 12:13 AM
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Yeah, this is similar to abundance theory and assume attraction.
/r/seduction13/01/15 07:27 PM
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it is a red flag. It is a sign she isn't that interested. It doesn't mean you wont' get a first date and be able to build report. I have no tips for building the momentum in the downtime of a cancel.
/r/seduction13/01/15 07:23 PM
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For next month (or this one) can we add a forfeit or a prize? A point system? A winner? (I like gambling-ish.) I'd throw a couple bucks into a prize pool.
/r/seduction13/01/15 04:52 AM
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Canned responses I would use to respond to things like, "I bet you just charm all the ladies" I do well with a certain demographic. (Then I'd tell the truth if they pursue it further. But Most likely I'd steamroll straight into, have you ever thought about the guys you appeal to? Is there a certain kind of guy you feel is magnetized to you? If she says no, I'll say, "That guy over there." and transition into cold reading people in the room. Okay you don't think he is into you, but what about tha…
/r/seduction13/01/15 03:57 AM
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There is a lot packed into this small paragraph. "What am i doing wrong that I come off this way?" You aren't doing anything wrong. She's acknowledging you complimented her by saying thank you and returning the favor. The quotes you've given in context should be translated into, "Thanks, that's so sweet o you to say." There is a phenomenon called player vibe. Which is when a bitchy wall goes up and the girl confronts it in a negative way. "Yeah, I overheard you saying that to X yesterday." "No o…
/r/seduction12/01/15 09:04 PM
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no
/r/seduction11/01/15 10:00 PM
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It sounds like you are incongruent. You are saying things that on some level you don't believe to be true. That might be an exaggeration, but it might be simply saying something you wouldn't say. Take a note of how many compliments you give yourself, and limit those. Focus on asking questions, and furthering other people's conversations. Really knowing what your intention is will help you keep frame. Your intention should be journey oriented rather than results oriented. Stop complimenting women…
/r/seduction11/01/15 05:17 PM
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I want direct quotes. How brutal are we talking?
/r/seduction11/01/15 05:02 PM
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he said don't ask her out for a few days. She won't have it forever.
/r/seduction11/01/15 04:04 AM
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That is the answer to any specific girl question seddit gets. "I like this girl here are the circumstances blah blah blah... What should I do?" If you haven't already, talk to her a bit to make sure she isn't a zombie apocalypse in disguise as a human girl, and then ask her out. If you've already talked to her, skip straight to the asking out part.
/r/seduction11/01/15 03:02 AM
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She admitted that I'm one of the lucky few who she likes. If she says that, then doesn't cough up her number upon direct request I'd be flabberghasted. On the off chance it isn't obvious, "Say " I like you, I want to hang out. Give me your number"" Use your own words. I find it very helpful to add something to the effect of, "Give me your number, I'll call you in the next day or two, and then we can haggle schedules and figure something out." Having a guy ask for your number is a thrill, but the…
/r/seduction11/01/15 02:56 AM
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they met at school.
/r/seduction11/01/15 02:45 AM
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I think it's funny/cute but I'm not sure how it demonstrates higher value. It's basically a joke saying you don't mind being the side piece. Unless you really aren't jealous, are down with open relationships, and think she is too... this joke isn't congruent. What is your neg of choice to follow up with?
/r/seduction11/01/15 02:42 AM
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Wait. "she doesn't want to explicitly know the answer to anything she asks, [outside of trivial things like, do you like sugar with your tea]" Do you believe that? And do you believe the corollary is true, that guys do want explicit answers to their questions? And it seems you think the above because men and women have different brains and because they were socialized differently. I want to make sure I understand you?
/r/seduction10/01/15 05:23 PM
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"she doesn't want to explicitly know the answer to anything she asks, female mind doesn't work that way" There are plenty of women who want explicit answers. There are plenty of dudes who freak the fuck out about a girl's number and would much rather have a coy answer, but also can't help but ask, "How many dudes you've been pricked by?"
/r/seduction10/01/15 04:42 PM
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I've never done this, so I'm putting it in a separate thread. If you are a coward, and can't do banter/direct ask. Which is fine, we are all cowardly sometimes. Why not find something more creative than "What's your number, you're super cute." Here is my suggestion. Create a spygame with notes. I haven't worked out all the logistics but I'd start off with something like. Slip the girl the note/game as you come in the door before you check out/or buy anything. "Secret Spy Game through notes! Supe…
/r/seduction10/01/15 04:19 PM
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Here are some openers I use on clerks. Formally introduce yourself, make eye contact and shake over the counter. I usually throw the introduction 1/2 way into the banter, as an afterthought or a oh! I should introduce myself. My suggestion since you see her a lot is to ask for number on interaction/banter 2 if banter 1 went well. It changes the dynamic from, oh he was chatty because he wanted to ask me out, to oh he was chatty, enjoyed our banter, and then asked me out. Obviously you don't wait …
/r/seduction10/01/15 04:05 PM
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While I agree with Thebirds, it's not a business deal, why are you shaking tons of hands? I will also add, there is a gimmick you can use where you hold onto the girls hand for a long time. The trick is to hold it as long as you can before it gets too awkward or she pulls away. It's worked really well to build attraction fast, the couple times I've done it, dated one girl I opened like that. If some girl does get creeped out or questions what was going on. Just cop to it, blush and coquettishly …
/r/seduction08/01/15 08:00 PM
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"made her jealous... but this was a nice side effect." Do you really think it's okay to make people jealous? Would you feel that follows the golden rule? " I personally don't feel it needs to be any different, but I know sex in a lot of girls eyes "changes things"." Why doesn't it change things in your eyes? I too would like to know what you want out of these relationships, and out of your relationship with her in particular? "the morning after continued as normal" What does that mean? What's no…
/r/seduction08/01/15 02:44 PM
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Then you lack perspective and need to go out and seduce 10 new women.
/r/seduction28/12/14 04:33 PM
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Can I get a specific example?
/r/seduction24/12/14 10:14 AM
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"I wouldn't know how long to wait." When I score a number, I tell people, "Listen, I'll text you tonight sometime, and give you a call in a socially acceptable amount of time. Next day or two." The next time your phone dies, try the steal her phone gambit. "Oh, my phone's dead. Let me put my number in yours." And just immediately call yourself and leave a message. That way the number will be in your phone when it wakes up. Good perspective on not getting too hooked on the first girl you kiss. Fr…
/r/seduction19/12/14 07:32 PM
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"The hottest ones were attracted to the sharp suit, office look BTW." What people are into varies, it sounds like your predilections are office type girls. Who probably wear sharp suits and higher end clothes. Every once in a while you'll see a guy ask, "I'm really into goth chicks." Or XYZ type. "What should I do?" Protip: 1 wear the uniform. Same goes for online dating, change your profile, change how people react to it. Match your target.
/r/seduction19/12/14 07:13 PM
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Have you been clinically diagnosed with depression? What did they call it exactly, if so? Are you on medication? What's the dose?
/r/seduction19/12/14 05:37 PM
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Everyone is different. HB matters more to me than most of my friends. Personality is king for a lot of guys. Kink for others. Some people are really sapiosexual. From 24-28 I was a madman. Just dating all the time. Tons of people. 28 was the worst. I've "matured" in my 30s. A guy on here told me something to the effect of, "Fucking a 10 with a 10 personality is the same as fucking an 8 with a 10 personality." And I found that to be true. And it really changed how I viewed this whole thing. What …
/r/seduction16/12/14 04:27 AM
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These are good tips. I wish someone had a spread sheet about times and responses. Anecdotally I've found no difference, except a slight uptick on Mondays. (I thought it was a similar reasoning.) But I haven't really graphed it out.
/r/seduction15/12/14 11:52 PM
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it's more useful than she was so ridiculously hot. 1, HB when used correctly is a standard to explain how approachable the girl was. 2. We've all been to hot or not, we've seen various scales in pictures, if your HB 10 is way off of that accepted terminology, please use something else. But most people have a pretty good idea of what a 10 looks like and how hard she is to approach. When used in a field report recap, what would it matter if you thought the girl was an hb 5 and the dude thought she…
/r/seduction15/12/14 10:26 PM
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Can you give an example of you calling him out? Of him talking hot air. Of him being defensive?
/r/seduction14/12/14 08:59 PM
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http://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty-ebook/dp/B005EOTH24 Book
/r/seduction12/12/14 10:53 PM
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Beauty is fixable on your end. If your anxiety doesn't motivate you to make self improvements it's just an excuse to not approach. Does that make sense? Your three bullet points are false. (Other than point 3 which is just your insecurity about a hypothetical situation you'd never be in.) There is a video that someone else might link to, but the basic premise was, let's say you were right. Girls don't date ugly guys. Or it's 100x harder for ugly guys to get the girls they want... or whatever oth…
/r/seduction12/12/14 10:50 PM
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Someone posted a video a while back that had a good answer to this. "YES. So what?" I agree with the people saying no and or it's negligible. But let's pretend for a second that the answer is yes. A resounding yes. A bitch you be fucked, YES. Op, what is your course of action if the answer is, yes? Do you pack up your bags and go home? Fuck, I guess you'll never get laid or get a girlfriend! Because a filipino with a wife, who has ever seen anything like that. Not me. Hey, were'd you come from o…
/r/seduction18/08/14 10:10 PM
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When this comes up there are various opinions. Most replies tend to be along the lines of "it's a borderline shitty thing to do," or "With so many girls, why go through the hassle of finding one who has a boyfriend?" It's sort of the same as, why date people you work with? Sure you can pull it off, plenty of people end up in good relationships from that sort of thing, but it's also a high risk. There are always people who will say bang what you can, easy, hard, or whatever, as long as it's two c…
/r/seduction18/08/14 08:27 PM
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I'm saying I don't want to be in conversations with women who mimic me rather than come up with their own ideas or further conversation. I wouldn't date a girl who couldn't name a book she likes. I wouldn't be friends with this guy. *shrug
/r/seduction16/08/14 08:16 PM
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the sidebar
/r/seduction16/08/14 05:29 PM
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This makes me want to record myself, is this what I sound like when I think I'm in state? When he couldn't name one author, I died. Date's flaws coming at woman faster than she can rationalize away! Joking aside. Cool video. It clearly went well. One thing, I never let her repeat my questions. I make the girl think up her own. 95% of the time it goes over really well. When she repeats, "What are your favorite books," or "What do you want for christmas" I respond. "No tag backs. Ask me something …
/r/seduction16/08/14 03:49 PM
1

"I do" Marriage propaganda in my subreddit? More likely than you'd think.
/r/seduction28/07/14 04:39 PM
1

makes sense
/r/seduction09/05/14 02:09 PM
1

From my experience, girls who want to wing me, are attracted to me. And... this seems to be the case for you here. So keep that in the back of your mind. Given this is high school and she volunteered as though she was some kind of expert, I'd love for you to report back on what her wing game was. In HS she can run recon for you super easy. She can probably just straight set the dates up for you without too much trouble because that's just the dynamic. Out of HS she should act like a normal wing.…
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:58 AM
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One, some girls be crazy. Two, you have to be careful how you phrase it when you ask and if they stick to the story, "Nothing's wrong." Three, You've got to reflect a bit and maybe you are getting weird and just projecting. Four, you probably have to let it go. Whether it's you or them, people often get weird after sex. And you don't have a lot of control over the situation. (I also agree with a lot of what other people have said. If you want friendship don't ONS. Most people who want friendship…
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:46 AM
2

"Afraid they're telling me I'm inarticulate or something." Yeah, that's racist.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:35 AM
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If you are uncomfortable fibbing in bar settings in order to work around logistics or to avoid giving player vibe, that is absolutely fine. Be your genuine self, there are plenty of ways to remain honest and work those things out. She asks, do you go out often? Say, "Yeah, I'm working on my game." It's not the end of the world. There will be women who are into that and appreciate the upfront honesty. But being genuine doesn't always mean revealing everything. You can also avoid topics like that.…
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:29 AM
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you put yourself in a lower position than her. It seems unlikely to be read this way. I wouldn't recommend flipping it into a question like, "Can I please have your number?" for the reasons you stated but You should give me your number sees as much success as give me your number in my experience.
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:13 AM
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What I find is the opposite. facebook gets me outside and social. The most anti social people i know askew social media. it's a hackneyed jab that sounds good, but if you really look at how people use social, they use it to connect in real and meaningful ways. Our social circles are bigger, and we know each other better. I have seen enough anecdotes about how seddit influenced people to get out and do, that poem just rings like false pandering too me.
/r/seduction04/05/14 12:06 AM
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Good point. I'd add Or SW1 loses interest in pursuing a girl who doesn't respond. I don't care for it when people say things like, "Don't waist your time on a girl with low interest." Like a phone call or a text is some huge deal. If you are interested, keep escalating until rejection. Just keep in mind, you can reject her too.
/r/seduction09/04/14 04:59 AM
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Normally I say don't ask guys for advice. But the above seems smart. FWIW subtle Kino & invading my personal space is an effective way to game me. Girls I am not instantly attracted to can game me. If a girl is too forward it's a turn off. But a hello, is never awkward. @op sorry more of these guys aren't approaching after you both check each other out in an approving manner.
/r/seduction31/03/14 04:09 PM
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Lots of good options given. My addition is, discuss this scenario with your girl beforehand. If you are in an LTR, talk to her about what you would do, in this situation. What does she think is the appropriate response? Having good communication and a unified front is a good way to go. What is your goal? Ditch the guy, diffuse the tension, have a 3 some? Different girls will want different reactions. In cases were you've just started dating the girl and you haven't talked to her about it. I agre…
/r/seduction29/03/14 01:30 AM
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Are you against me re-posting the questions without the link? The link was ancillary anyway, it's just what made me think about the question in the first place.
/r/seduction28/03/14 06:03 AM
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I like all of these, but escalate seems the best. Do you have a sense of when you use one over the others?
/r/seduction25/03/14 04:09 PM
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Yeah, I don't know what a good answer to this issue would be. People are always going to want to understand and talk about the default 1-10 hot or not scale. There is need to discuss that and a range of other things that make approachability more or less difficult for an afc. But talking about it, seems to undermine a core of the system, which is, these artificial/subjective constructs regarding who has value and who should be with who, aren't just artificial and subjective, they are also bullsh…
/r/seduction24/03/14 08:25 PM
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I didn't DV you. However I want to point out, this is the mindset of one particular hot girl. She doesn't speak for the attractive girls union: http://www.theonion.com/video/attractive-girls-union-refuses-to-enter-into-talks,14290/ "Taking advantage of their weakness..." is a poor choice of words.
/r/seduction24/03/14 08:09 PM
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very, very exceptional context and situation. Realistically, she's not a HB9.5 to 99.9% of men. And I don't agree the value of a chick is We need new/better words to describe what we are talking about. Hotness, Approachability, and maybe Value. Is Bill Murray a HB10? He's not hot but you'd like to think he'd make a girl weak in the knees. How doe the Approcahbility scale effect you when you've conquered approach anxiety? Is suddenly no girl an HB10 because you don't fear throwing game at anyone?…
/r/seduction24/03/14 07:59 PM
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Yeah, the take away shouldn't be, "Lie to people about your sexual conquests." Nor should it be, "Fuck less." It should be, don't brag, and don't be crass about your sexual dalliances. There are plenty of Hot girls who want to fuck guys who have a ton of experience. I wouldn't mind hearing more context to that part of the conversation. Why did this conversation come up with this "Man whore." Was he just walking around telling people how many people he fucked? Or did she date this guy and feel li…
/r/seduction24/03/14 07:42 PM
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Though I didn't dv... as Zack already mentioned, it isn't generally accepted practice, and it's not something he's personally had success with. Here is some more elaboration on why it doesn't seem like a good standard response. Instead of being alpha and taking the lead you are calling her out on her behavior. Leaving her few possible responses and no where for the conversation to branch from that point. How do you see the conversation going from there? One thing that people talk about is plausi…
/r/seduction23/03/14 07:23 PM
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Outcome independence. What is your internal motivation? Are you sending the message because you want to send the message, or are you sending it because you want a very specific response from the girl? Send as many messages you want until rejection as long as you're outcome independent. What most guys I know find, is that when they are truly outcome independent and when they understand abundance theory, they lose interest in persistence very early. They value a girl who is connected right away, a…
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:52 PM
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I agree with all this advice but also want to add. This seems like a legit reason to break up. Sometimes people are in different places in their lives and there isn't any amount of money/value/time/seduction tech that's going to change that.
/r/seduction19/03/14 09:44 PM
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I encourage you to get advice from a girl's forum. Asking a bunch of predominantly straight guys how to seduce men, is... a very special kind of... bad idea. (Gay guys don't know shit about seducing straight men either. You should seek the advice of women who are good at pulling guys. There are a lot of techniques, you should figure out girls who get the kind of guys you like.) I've seen apeople on this forum give bad advice. But never quite so bad as when a girl stumbles in here and asks about …
/r/seduction19/03/14 09:35 PM
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I found this helpful. I'll think on it some more but... this might be a chink in my abundance theory armor. "First of all, they're a dime a dozen. They look pretty much indistinguishable from one another. I can line up a dozen blondes from SoCal and they'll all pretty much blur together. My mind doesn't find any of them particularly interesting." Yeah. Me too. But my physical reaction doesn't give a shit about my mind. "But that nerdy-looking girl with the weird clothes and the tattoos? The punk…
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:49 PM
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I agree the best sex I've ever had was not with the hottest girl. 1) Girls I'm really in love with are the best. Sappy as that might be, it makes it waaay different for me. 2) Technically proficient girls are better than stiff boards. I agree there too. Even knowing that, I would choose a hot girl & bad sex over an attractive girl and great sex. Which feels insane when I say it out loud. One of the things I'd like, is to widen my standard. I want a wider range of body types to turn me on. And I …
/r/seduction17/03/14 10:12 PM
1

This is the simple questions thread! That's like existentialist dilemma question right there. I look forward to hearing people's answers. What is maturity? How does it manifest itself? Where does it come from? Is it ever undesirable?
/r/seduction23/07/13 04:38 PM
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Busy girls suck, get more girls. You will hang out with this one when it happens. Call her when you want to or if you have something cool you want her to do with you. It doesn't matter that much who called last so long as your frame isn't desperate/needy.
/r/seduction23/07/13 02:21 PM
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Yeah, it's a show vs tell situation. Had you just told the anecdote about picking up the chick, and not attempted to make the value judgment for her, she probably wouldn't have felt you were bragging. (Though telling the anecdote is still technically telling. To show, you'd have to actually actively do something cool in front of her.) "I'm pretty good with women." It's telling her what to think and worse, what to think about you. That's a big part of why it's socially unacceptable. When you want…
/r/seduction23/07/13 02:16 PM
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I've been thinking about this myself and here are some of the thoughts I've had. Are you insecure about something? Bragging is often about being insecure and covering for it. That might be as simple as, I want to impress XYZ person/group. Maybe something deeper. If that's the case, humility isn't really the key, it's accepting and acknowledging that insecurity and dealing with that differently. (Which is probably humbling.) If called out, admit it and own it. "I guess I was being conceited, sorr…
/r/seduction22/07/13 03:12 AM
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This is a joke, but in all honesty I've had girls (plural) come up to me years after a random flirtation and say, "Do you remember that one time you tried to ask me out. That was the most horrible experience of my entire life. What are you doing now? I can't believe you never called me." 0.o
/r/seduction17/05/13 04:21 PM
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"You’re not going to remember an awkward conversation from a party ten years ago." OP underestimates how awkward my interactions get. Not only do I remember she'll remember and it will haunt us till the end of time.
/r/seduction17/05/13 02:22 AM
1

It alleviates some of my approach anxiety and I have found it a useful tool for encouraging more approaches. While game topics don't always talk about how you should be pre-screening and asking yourself the deep questions, "What do I want in a woman/life partner?" I've found dating a lot has been a good learning experience and I came to answer those questions as part of the process. When I started dating I had an idea of what I wanted in a girl. A lot of those ideas were self destructive. Over t…
/r/seduction02/05/13 10:41 PM
1

How about looking at it this way? If it's just a numbers game, how can game help? Does game alleviate approach anxiety? Does it help you examine what you really want in a partner?
/r/seduction02/05/13 09:36 PM
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My experience with this is generally guys saying, "I wish girls would open me." And then when I see girls open them, I see them shut the girls down. Too ugly, too lame, not feeling it, etc. Didn't want to presume that was you so I just asked. If I'm honest with myself, I don't like it. I like the traditional game dance. It is cool that a girl being direct works on you.
/r/seduction02/05/13 09:11 PM
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I think winging for girls is hard. Is this happening at a bar? This can't be the optimal move, but my only successes have been telling guys, "You should flirt with that girl." Also, every girl who has asked me to wing for her has wanted to fuck me. (This might be me thinking that everyone wants to fuck me, but... I think it's true that, every girl I've tried to wing has eventually jumped my stuff.)
/r/seduction02/05/13 09:05 PM
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Tell me about the last three times a woman opened you. How did it go? You weren't off put at all? Really think about the types of girls who open you and what your reaction was. You love it when you get opened? Have you ever dated a girl who opened you?
/r/seduction02/05/13 08:57 PM
1

That is a serious socially awkward situation and I can't think of a way to "play it off." Agree and amplify is generally a good salve. While walking away, "Hey now, you know I'm going to therapy for my psychotic issues! Dr. Mindbender says I'm coming along really nicely. I'll catch you later." In the general case, you might be able to use the above, "Wow! I have psychotic episodes too, if you're not seeing someone, I'll refer you to my dood." An outburst is an exit situation. I agree with people…
/r/seduction30/04/13 04:28 PM
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Realizing the above helped me a lot. But I'd add to this, rejection does hurt and it's okay to admit that to yourself. It's normal and healthy to feel bad if you've been rejected. Nittutt is saying, "What you think is a rejection of self, isn't." Not only is that true, but it's probably way less hurtful. But if you still feel that ping to your ego/heart. Feel free to admit, "Boy this hurts." I agree with the whole DGAF thing, but if a fuck was given, don't pretend it wasn't. Just admit it, feel …
/r/seduction30/04/13 04:06 PM
1

Screening for "personality" is a little vague. Would you talk about specific things you pre-screen for? What do you look for in a girl? How do you screen for it?
/r/seduction24/04/13 04:51 PM
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Getting people to do you any sort of favor is a big help. Once someone has done you a favor they are much more inclined to trust you, and think of you as part of their social circle. In a similar fashion, giving gifts is also awesome. I have a friend who knows how to make origami butterflies and girls lose their shit. Instant friendship. Super small semi thoughtful pays huge dividends. I never do stuff like that because I'm a prick. But I do the favor thing.
/r/seduction24/04/13 05:30 AM
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Of course you should call! A phone call is no skin off your nose. If it's been 24hrs since the text, give her a ring. "Hey, I just want to say, I'm super flattered that you'd drop your number on me. A lot of girls wouldn't be that brave. Do you slay dragons and rescue princesses too? Regale me with further feats from your clearly glorious past! If she bites: yadda-yadda, well you've convinced me, we should totally hang out in the future. What's your weekend like? If she says, "oh not me... I'm s…
/r/seduction24/04/13 05:22 AM
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Okcupid is my favorite. This is great especially if you're in a decent metropolitan area. r/okcupid would love to give you advise on how to pick up dudes. Get advice from women you admire. Women who get lots of dudes. Women who have approaches you like and compliment your style. I +1d this: "Assume attraction, then escalate until you get verbally rejected." Get used to rejection. It isn't an reflective of you as a person. It doesn't make you worth less. It only indicates that X person didn't wan…
/r/seduction15/02/13 12:22 AM
1

The risk of being stabbed seems too great. http://xkcd.com/169/
/r/seduction10/02/13 11:36 PM
1

Listen, I appreciate your candor and I wrote it in hopes that I'd get feedback. I will say, 0 girls have ever said, "It's personal." All of them have reacted like they've been dying for some male to reach out and be willing to talk about it. If you love the person you're with, it's something I'd recommend bringing up. Even if it's as simple as, "If anything ever bad happens to you, or has happened to you, know that you can always talk to me about it. Sometimes it helps to know you've got someone…
/r/seduction07/02/13 10:52 PM
1

My goto for the bumping people is usually along the lines of, "Beautiful people should never apologize for touching each other." We were destined to meet like this. Don't apologize, I liked it. Or a joke about how I or the other person is clearly starved for touch. And then go in for a hug. I used to have a friend who was adapt at orchestrating bumps with acquaintances who didn't see/recognize him and then he'd fly into a rage at the person until discovering that he knew them. It was an interest…
/r/seduction07/02/13 06:32 PM
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I don't do drugs, but I like the above. A couple ones I'd like to add, Kindness becomes ever greater for me all the time. This stretches into things like, does she like her friends. If a girl slags off her friends it's a big disqualifies. When confronted with a tough situation will she back me up on making the correct moral decision? (Some people want a girl who will encourage them to shoplift. I did at one time.) Take an honest look at how you deal with conflict. How do your friends deal with c…
/r/seduction06/02/13 10:10 PM
1

I wonder if people have pieces of pop culture that they felt ruined their relationships, or played a funny effect on their outlook in regard to how relationships should play out? Would you tell me about it? I... don't know where I got the idea for non monogamous relationships but, when I look back at my childhood fantasy's about how true love would be, I always imagined there being multiple people involved. Which seems totally bizarre because I don't think there was anything that'd give me that …
/r/seduction05/02/13 05:10 PM
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Well then, in context, it's not hilarious at all. If you will, imagine roll reversing what you wrote... changing the genders. What do you think the response would be if I copy and pasted this and posted it in r/girls? I'm being snarky but on some level I appreciate the sentiment. It's just on every level I find this post super funny.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:49 PM
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A sub apologizes for all women.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:04 PM
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Game will work itself out. My suggestion is to think about what you want in the long term. There is a big emphasis on getting laid, but that isn't for everyone. There is a big emphasis on getting girls. But remember, you get to reject girls too. Over time, the one trait I care more and more about is kindness. When I was 18 I wanted to date smart girls or hot girls or any fucking girl, but... you really do have a wild number of options and I suggest taking some time and talking to people you admi…
/r/seduction01/02/13 08:47 AM
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I would call that person a liar. That's easier to believe than someone getting blown out by 100 girls in a row. That or you're about to reveal that in two months you've done 8 approaches. Way more than 1 in a 100 girls are down for a free dinner. I knew a dude who said he went around on the street just literally introducing himself and being like, "I really want to have sex." And he found a girlfriend that way. How old are you, how big is the city you live in, do you dress well, how are your loo…
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:53 AM
1

Don't you think it only subcommunicates that if it's true? It seems plausible to have a witty/interesting way to drop the, "Give me your number" line while maintaining that I could get your number the regular way. You could be comfortable being witty/interesting. In all your replies it's like you're saying it's impossible to give value. Only to assume it. Being funny is a huge way to kill attraction. What are you trying to say?
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:35 AM
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Well, he talked about it in the video a little bit. He seemed to say Recognize that it's happening. (I do this.) Get validation from the process. (I don't know how much I do this one.) I will add another: Get validation from sources outside the game. And probably try to approach it in a similar fashion. Get the validation from the process, decide a process that you'll enjoy working on and that will help you attain quantifiable goals, but focus on being validated by the pure act of working on the…
/r/seduction01/02/13 06:54 AM
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"I don't have any experience, but it is purely out of choice and not a result of my game." Explain that choice to me. You make it clear that it's a choice, but it seems like you can't even explain it to us. Instead you give a bunch of examples why one would, but that aren't your reasons. How old are you? You haven't fucked anyone? Have you kissed anyone? Very inexperienced is different for different people.
/r/seduction01/02/13 04:27 AM
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I am not following something. He's fucking multiple high school girls in the same night? This has happened four times in two months. So he is a high school boy who has had 8 sex partners in two months. And decided none of them were worth dating? And you aren't seeing any social/psych repercussions on his end or with the girls? This is fairly unusual. And you are falling in and out of crush with these girls in the matter of months as well? Your friend fucking a girl shouldn't devalue her in your …
/r/seduction01/02/13 04:06 AM
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This has never happened to me. This would throw me for a loop. But as a creative exercise I will give it a couple goes. But first off, any shit test answer is agree and amplify. Then you move on as if it didn't happen. You do not dwell on the test. Sometimes people forget that part. If she plays along and you keep going bigger and bigger with the joke, eventually there is no where to go. You need to transition like it's no big deal. (Also read the side bar.) So here are some hopefully whimsical …
/r/seduction01/02/13 03:43 AM
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You misunderstand me or I misrepresented myself. Let me clarify a little. 1) You say I have no idea what's best for the people involved. And while I will agree that there are a lot of things we don't know about the couple, we do know some things. We know that they are dating. We know that they've entered into a social contract and because we know that, it's our job to respect and help them fulfill that contract. If my friend says, "I have to work early tomorrow." And I know it's a shit job. I st…
/r/seduction31/01/13 08:01 PM
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So, for those that don't want to watch the video be present be really into your process (find a process you enjoy) enjoy the road to get good at the process side tip: don't get value from the girl's validation. That's what creates the lows of rejection. Your spike of adrenaline should come from the process. tl:dr "Enjoy the road more than the destination" I think the ideas presented in the talk about the validation spiral are smart/interesting. That has totally happened to me, particularly with …
/r/seduction31/01/13 06:11 PM
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I understand the arguments against this stance. And I approve of moving forward if you think, "I have a bf" is a shit test. That said. I want to detail my logic for not moving forward on girls who have a boyfriend because I don't often see some of these reasons. a. abundance theory b. cheating fucks some people up super hard. You aren't messing with one relationship you're messing with relationships down the road as well. (including yours, guys who pull this type of girl often write paranoid pos…
/r/seduction31/01/13 05:24 PM
1

Have these random conversations ever turned into friendship?
/r/seduction18/01/13 02:28 AM
1

"Can two people engage in such a close relationship of opposite sexes without allowing any feelings to develop?" I think when feelings develop you handle them appropriately for the given situation. It's not about denying or repressing feelings. You should allow feelings. People's relationships are super unique and are subject to change for all sorts of reasons. Platonic relationships can be ideal for all sorts of reasons and those reasons can change. I want to add to this thread that female frie…
/r/seduction18/01/13 12:46 AM
1

I think I disagree with the idea that it's up to the guy to gauge the girl's interest level. Your only responsibility is to gauge your own interest level. If you know what you want, then there can't really be a mix up. There can be clear rejection, but there can't be mix up.
/r/seduction18/01/13 12:12 AM
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I am guessing he's just not thinking about this. puaCurveBall, I'm sure there are times where all things seem equal and you make a choice on who to spend time with based on sex. But if you're completely dropping friendships with quality people because they stopped wanting to fuck, or the girl just likes you as a person and there are people who are as cool and do want to fuck you... I don't think you actually do that. A lot of times I hang out with girls who won't fuck me because I'm their friend…
/r/seduction17/01/13 11:46 PM
1

"if that involves drinking alcohol to 'loosen up'" Yeah, the nay sayers are saying. "This won't help you in the short or long run." Long run because it's a crutch and short term because it makes you think you're being ace when you're being lame. I'd say the experience from most is that they stop drinking and their game improves. I'd argue that people who are drinking and having good results are having those results because of other factors that are trumping the negative effects of the alcohol. I…
/r/seduction17/01/13 12:41 AM
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This happens to my friends more than I would have expected. The last time I was about to write a random okc girl, "Hey you really need to meet my friend Lyn" before I realized that the reason they seemed so similar was because she stole lyn's profile word for word. Two of my guy friends link to their "admirer's" profiles. Super funny. One girl wrote to alert Noal, "Normally I wouldn't write to you, but some dude just joined up and clearly stole your profile." So Noal wrote the guy to say, "Hey, …
/r/seduction17/01/13 12:08 AM
2

You approach working girls at the mall, do you? Oh my. I was out the other night with a woman you conceals her age. I know four women who do this, religiously, not just as a coy ploy. All have said, "Telling people my age has always been a mistake." But the other night this girl said simply, "No one deserves to know. That information, if I chose it to be private, is. People feel entitled, but they aren't." If age is a fetish for you, then I suggest keeping your age private. "A gentleman never te…
/r/seduction19/12/12 01:56 AM
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Cheating is a slick move. I love reading field reports. The anxiety part was so great. Oh, I remember being like that. ahhh hilarious internal torture. I want to suggest an old stalwart variation on tic tac toe. I love passing notes. Pass one or two scraps of paper, or just go full into it and pull out a separate notebook to keep track of the conversation. A lot of times I'd open with, "You can't chose me because we have a relationship and that skews the results. I want pure objectification here…
/r/seduction06/12/12 03:27 PM
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I am not a rockstar either. "If she brings up your act, talk about it like it's just a job. You'll talk about it, sure, but it's not a big deal." This would be disingenuous, I am stoked about my set and want to talk about it. It's not a job, it is a passion. And I have tried your suggestion but found that I don't ever want to mute their excitement. I want to agree and amplify. An example. "Oh, you liked it! Thanks, yeah, I'm pretty baller. Super Thanks. You should have been here last month," or,…
/r/seduction05/12/12 08:06 PM
1

Well, I took this advice. "Just do what you normally would." And while I don't think it's the best advice, I will admit it was effective. I don't have time to write up a FR or go in depth but it felt like running Day Game in a Night Game situation. It wasn't bad, it just felt like there were subtle changes that would smooth things over immensely. But yeah, for the most part people were super receptive.
/r/seduction05/12/12 07:41 PM
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This happens to me a fair amount. I'm juggling to many or I get caught up in something else. I don't call for a week or two and the girl takes it as rejection. I've also been told by girls that they took not closing as rejection. "You didn't fuck me so I figured you hated me." Not the kind of girl I want to be with, personally. One thing to thing to ask yourself with this sort of behavior is, are you losing a girl you really want to mess with? The solution seems clear, keep in contact and escala…
/r/seduction01/12/12 05:18 AM
2

What part of the country are you in? How big of a town?
/r/seduction01/12/12 03:25 AM
2

Yeah I spout this advice a lot in regard to online dating when guys and girls are like, "No one writes back!" There are a million reasons someone didn't respond. Only one is that they didn't like what you had to say. Not only is it not always you, it's rarely you. Especially if you're not totally horrible at flirting. Because after being confident and sure of yourself it's not about changing people, it's about finding people you like and that like you for you. This is not to say it's not worth w…
/r/seduction30/11/12 11:46 PM
1

"Or even better how could I have struck a conversation with some random girl next to me?" Sometimes I'll use some variation on, "Clearly you have excellent taste in music!" This can thread into, fav band, fav concert, your funny concert story. As to the girl, you could have asked for her number. You also could have tagged along with her. Just been frank. "Listen, I've been stranded by my bro. I'm not letting you strand me too. I demand that you take me to these gorgeous friends of yours, once th…
/r/seduction20/07/12 05:09 AM
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There are so many good ways to say, "She wishes" that it will likely be my go to from here on out. She wishes: Bashful like it's what you wish with a wink (Create an inside joke about it) move directly into the role play "think about it," arm around shoulder, "We are here together in <3. Tonight, this seedy bar. Tomorrow Paris!" dark & moody, a little regretful for her loss, like she'll never get her wish But this is what I had been saying. "Ha! Oh that's sweet of you to guess. No, I just like t…
/r/seduction12/07/12 02:13 PM
1

Whos time was wasted?
/r/seduction10/07/12 04:34 AM
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Ha. Creepy is all about intention. You aren't creepy if you don't have creepy intentions. You wanted to talk to some girls. That didn't make you creepy. Underage is super awkward though. I can never tell how old people are. I think sitting down right away is hot. You can't take this as evidence it's not going to work. There is nothing you could have done to win over teenage lesbians. And honestly, that would have been a worse outcome then a blowout. Think about that. You F Close this. Next week …
/r/seduction10/07/12 04:30 AM
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Chillax broseph, He doesn't always get offended by what consenting adults do in their free time, but when he does, he yells, "Stop ruining society by liking things I don't like!" I don't understand how people don't think this is a lulzy. Imagine you doing this! You've lined up two girls you like, you say to yourself, "I don't have time to go on two dates today. I'm going to double up." It's a funny thing to do. I was there, it was funny. I kind of appreciate your concern, but it's not suddenly n…
/r/seduction10/07/12 04:05 AM
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Yeah, getting a good friend is what you seem to be lacking, and I don't have advice on that sort of magic. Thinking about my best friends. It's sort of a strange divergence of circumstances. A lot of it has to do with being stuck together in tense circumstances. I also like over-sharing. I want to know about people's deep thoughts. Particularly their relationship stories. I ask a lot of questions about who they dated, and things like that. And that might be bonding. Getting invited: I invite mys…
/r/seduction10/07/12 03:51 AM
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Kim is Ace. Her character is not in question. Your values may be different but subjectively speaking, she displayed higher value here. I like girls who are interested in dating other people. I am anti exclusivity. I... would have liked to have been warned, but as I hinted, I've not warned people before, so it's all good. The punches were rolled with. I am outcome independent. And I wing everyone. Even my dates.
/r/seduction09/07/12 11:32 PM
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I have a method I use. But I don't have this problem, so my method might not be useful to you. Before I write about how I go about my philosophy, I want to know, Do you feel like you don't have close friends? Because that's what it feels like you're saying.
/r/seduction09/07/12 10:07 PM
1

"I say no as well, because I dont want him to know I actually like her." Laugh out loud, zomg. This whole thing is awesome funny, but that line's the best. "So, whats the deal? Why is she doing this?" No, what's the deal with you? Why are you doing this? Go read the side bar and get a different girlfriend. Stop being this guy: "I rejected this girl for 13 years but now I kinda think I might maybe want to do something but you know, I'll only tell the anons on the internet and would never admit th…
/r/seduction27/06/12 04:27 PM
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The sidebar tips are pretty universal. There is no Goth/Emo/Hipster specific guide. If someone had a genre guide I'd be interested in it. That being said, looking like them helps. I will use an extreme example. Every once in awhile I'll hear someone ask, "Why do gay girls have to dress like that?" Well, it's because getting hit on by people you don't find attractive is a waste of time. And finding people you're attracted to who are a good match for you, is way easier if you have a uniform. This …
/r/seduction26/06/12 05:32 AM
3

It would take more than one hand to count the times I've met okc girls in real life who said, "Man, if only you'd messaged me a second time." Or... "Why did you stop messaging me?" Some of these turned into really awesome relationships with girls who aren't flakes. They were just distracted. Trying to create chase. +trillion reasons we will never know. Some of these girls were just shitty at keeping in contact and continued to be. I wouldn't use this method. It feels condescending, rude, and ins…
/r/seduction25/06/12 11:06 PM
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I was entertained. "No I'm just saying, you're not getting any of these goose." I want that typo to be on purpose to maintain the accuracy of the moment. "I thought to myself as she was whispering to myself." This line, you might want to edit.
/r/seduction21/06/12 09:40 PM
1

Link goes to sex addict Russell Brand failing to number close a yahoo news presenter.
/r/seduction14/06/12 11:43 PM
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You could game this like normal or you could go the direct route. I don't know what a lot of three some experience would look like. Is that someone who has had 50 of them? 100? But I've had about a half dozen experiences and talked with a lot of people about theirs. Most people see it as a supposedly fun thing they will never do again. Threesomes come about in different ways. But I have a preference. And that's a gentle build up as opposed to the direct route. When a couple is like, "Let's all s…
/r/seduction14/06/12 01:47 PM
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You know what everyone will say! Outcome Independence. Also this girl sounds lame. Imagine the other way around too, some guy sleeps with your girl friend and then blows her off for 2-3 weeks afterwords. If you sleep with someone, it's proper to give them some attention after. I believe you know what the side bar solution is, because you said you've F closed since last hanging out with her. But it doesn't say F close and 2 K closes. Now does it? Take the prescribed medicine as directed.
/r/seduction14/06/12 01:57 AM
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As StuThunder sort of mentioned. NSA doesn't need to be sexual. If you want to be the kind of guy who doesn't sleep around. You don't need to be. But you should start actively pursuing other women as dates. I also want to agree with super cooling it with the girl. You want to prepare yourself to be outcome independent. If she breaks up with you, she's not right for you. You're looking for someone who is right for you, you aren't looking for this specific girl.
/r/seduction13/06/12 06:13 PM
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Clearly, we are all wittier more outgoing upon reflection. And I haven't seen this confounding movie. But it's hard for me to imagine her not being DLVd by telling me she didn't get it. That would effect my response. But you've said she's super hot, and I know I give hot girls a break on stuff like this. And I have more caveats, but the last one I'll give is, cocky funny is not my preferred style. So! All that said, I'd most likely engage her. I have two solid anecdotes about not getting art. I'…
/r/seduction13/06/12 06:02 PM
1

Curve Ball is right. The girl you are attracted to is your best bet. You don't want an easy "target," you want to meet women you're genuinely attracted to. Worrying about, "Do they like me?" or "Are they interested in talking to me?" Is counter productive. Part of game is learning about what you like in a woman and refining that. You want to be pro active and finding the girls you like! Not trying to find the girls that are subtly pre-selecting you. In general, once you're comfortable opening pe…
/r/seduction13/06/12 04:57 PM
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"Can anyone shed some light on why girls do this?" There are a million reasons why one might do this. And to be PC non gender biased, guys do this too. I will admit to doing this sort of thing. We can't shed light on why this particular girl had this particular reaction to you with much certainty. But I'm going to throw out that sometimes people in relationships meet attractive people at a bar, and get along really well with them, and then start to "play with fire," and then their friend stops t…
/r/seduction13/06/12 04:30 PM
1

"I don't think she's super into me. I think she might find me somewhat interesting as a person." How flirty is she with others? Does she do the IOIs with other people? Cocky funny can be tough, it's a fine line. If your goal is to practice, well done, and mission accomplished. It seemed like there was lots of opportunity that you seized on. As with anything you're trying to get better at, isolating one part and focusing on it with repetition is a good practice technique. You're reflecting on it …
/r/seduction13/06/12 04:06 PM
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Thinking of it as a competition seems narrow and counterproductive. Do you get more/better chicks soloing or with a tight set of wings? When I go out, everyone is my wing, I am everyone's wing. There are billions of girls so there isn't a limit on the number of quality girls you can get. You helping others helps you in every case. This is a game of abundance. Competition is also the wrong state of mind/frame to go into a social setting with. You want to be relaxed and care free, outcome independ…
/r/seduction13/06/12 03:19 PM
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These are just snippets, but cut and put in a row like this, I think you're right, it comes off as judgmental and overly negative. I would suggest trying to slow down with the analysis of game while in the moment and listen a little more. When she hints that she's diabetic, I think that's the time to throw out the sympathy. Tell here you know how hard that is and you understand. It may just be due to the fact that these are the snippets you wanted examined but it seems like there is a need for b…
/r/seduction13/06/12 02:33 PM
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Few of the girls I've dated have ever dated anyone who works out, outside of runner types. And it sort of baffles me, because abs and muscles look hot to me. But my type of girl, never seems to be into it. As we mentioned to a guy a while ago who was worried about his libido. Lifting quickly changes your hormonal levels and you act differently on higher testosterone. A lot of people are turned off by physique because there is a stigma of "meathead" around it. Turning a girl on to something she w…
/r/seduction02/06/12 01:34 AM
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Yeah, I thought about that too, but it's about girls with controversial looks rather than a 7/10 average. Girls who have a lot of guys say 10 and a lot of guys say 1 get more messages. Which the study says is good, but it doesn't take into account getting negative messages.
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:49 AM
1

No one has suggested apologizing. And you're right to say people shouldn't apologize for asking another for their number. You are also right to point out the distinction between, worrying, "What will other people think?" vs, "How do I want to treat people?" I believe Audioisawesome is interested in developing the latter by asking us for classy responses. You can do the slow jerk off for the lulz. But I don't think it's optimal, nor do I see it as a necessary stepping stone toward "high level" ga…
/r/seduction18/05/12 06:55 PM
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It won't be weird. It's also frugal. But roommate selection can be a hassle. I will also throw out Couch Surfing again. Putting a couch up on that website, is awesome if you want guests. They are grateful, they generally want to hang out and do stuff together, and they leave. It's also great social karma, in short order you have friends who want to show you cool places all over the globe. Though it's better in bigger cities, people are always traveling all over.
/r/seduction18/05/12 05:37 PM
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Thanks for this post, Captain. "boys get their feelings hurt and show it." This seems true. Also, getting your feelings hurt over this sort of rejection is particularly childish. Because the rejection, in most cases, isn't a rejection of you as a person, it's of you and the girl as a couple. And she has every right to make that decision. It doesn't mean she thinks you suck, it isn't name calling, it isn't mean. It's just rejection of an idea/concept. I tend to show that my feelings are hurt in a…
/r/seduction18/05/12 05:32 PM
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As Captain stated, it matters on a lot of levels. Not the least of which is that it matters to the OP. He wants to be a certain kind of person. The kind of person that handles rejection like an adult with long term perspective. It's fine to be a jokester, but that's not what he asked us for. On other levels, the likelihood that you'll see the person again is high. Even in a big city. The likelihood that they know someone you know is even higher. Treating people with respect and kindness begets r…
/r/seduction18/05/12 05:10 PM
2

An example of the sort of the thing I do: I draw a single tear line from my eye and say, "Well, may the next cute boy who crashes into your beauty fair better." Flirty wink, shoulder tap, and skip away. Unless I get rocked, which happens. I usually give an exit complement. "Oh no! We're lucky you're still pretty and I'm still awesome, lest we'd be in trouble for defying the gods and fate in such a way." (I've never said this, but it sounds like me.) If I get rocked, I'll fain physical pain, and …
/r/seduction18/05/12 04:56 PM
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I like living with people. I also like living alone. I've never met a girl who cared. So you should be making the choice based on your personal desires/needs. There was just a post about people living with their parents. And everyone was like, "It ain't no thing." Roommates are nothing compared to that hurdle. (And that's not a hurdle it's a limiting belief.) Cities aren't totally necessary. But man, it's sooo much easier. I won't ever live in a place with less than a million people. One thing I…
/r/seduction18/05/12 04:14 PM
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+1 for more context. Particularly how well you know the girls in question.
/r/seduction18/05/12 05:52 AM
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You guys are always trying to get men laid. It's troublesome. I will email her forthright for your edification.
/r/seduction18/05/12 05:48 AM
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I know a girl who is into tasers. Too bad Squand = Vanilla. +1 for posting a pic upon request. I think that's ballsy. I like this semi anon. And I now suspect our 9.5s are similar. Tell me if you agree with this. Tattoos are a good way to peacock if you're into them. They are generally sincere and girls who like guys with tattoos have an easy in for conversation starting. Do you find girls who open you with a tat opener are a specific type?
/r/seduction17/05/12 11:20 PM
2

The majority of us are telling you not to try again. We think you should freeze out. One thing you might try is a pre-emptive freeze out. You are in bed with her, things are progressing to heavy petting and you say, "Listen, we aren't having sex tonight but your pants have to come off. You have to keep your underwear on because I don't want to go past that point tonight but your pants absolutely have to come off." You want to reframe the situation so that you're setting the boundaries and not he…
/r/seduction17/05/12 10:34 PM
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Confidence, self respect, and perspective, they all go hand in hand. This is not the only girl in the school who wants to make out with you or hold hands and feed ducks, as the case may be. We look forward to reading about future success and blow outs. Blow outs are some of my favorites really.
/r/seduction17/05/12 09:38 PM
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You just don't notice. This is common and akin to confirmation bias. Often times as guys will make excuses, "She came up to me because she needed a yoga partner" would make perfect sense here. Trust me, girls have come on to you, Mr N. You are not the 0.01% Imagine how you'd feel if a normal looking girl told you, "I've never had a man hit on me!" it's just as silly coming out of a guy's mouth. But for the girl, feels just as real. She goes out and for whatever reason doesn't notice it. Sometime…
/r/seduction17/05/12 09:12 PM
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I believe that some people are flakes. And I expect their erratic behavior to be consistent through out their life. I enjoy hanging out and keeping up with flakes. But I don't flex anymore when they don't show, or do show, or act erratic. Her behavior is bizarre, but from what you've told us, it's consistent. You could probably do an easy check and see if she flakes on everyone. In fact, I suspect she already tells you stories about missing appointments, dates, parties, friends etc. I like this …
/r/seduction17/05/12 02:35 PM
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He could have sex with this girl, but he's made it fairly clear that sex isn't so much his goal as dating this girl. I second the freeze out and playing, not hard to get, but colder physically at times. You can be the one to pull back when things start to move heavy, and that's okay. But from what you've said here. Take her on a couple real dates and then ask her out. Am I off base with what you want, Bdvilla?
/r/seduction17/05/12 07:55 AM
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I would like to know how the talk goes. And even if he acknowledges the pattern, know that sometimes patterns are hard to break. Don't feel bad about reminding, but sometimes it's hard to see when people are trying to change. I have had success telling friends to back off on negative comments.
/r/seduction17/05/12 07:18 AM
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Have you never called her? Why haven't you set up a date to meet in person? We can't know what's going on with this specific girl. But I can tell you that a lot of girls get okc guys who only want to text/trade messages. By not asking her out after tons of messages, you're signaling that you aren't into her. My suggestion is to call her with a date in mind and ask her out. Follow the side bar tips. "Hey I'm busy too, but I have X amount of time on ___ let's do lunch at ___." General tips: I'm pr…
/r/seduction17/05/12 07:08 AM
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edited, to make more clear. but she gave me her email. I just haven't emailed her.
/r/seduction17/05/12 05:23 AM
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A friend told me: If you are playing a game on a regular basis, using only one strategy is a losing strategy.
/r/seduction02/05/12 02:42 AM
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I love how girls flirt. I feel like they get to be way cooler/sexier in their flirtations. Coy good bye smiles. Soooo cute. Ending it on talking with an old couple was my favorite part. I love field reports. So much fun to live vicariously through other's exp. Hope to find the time to write one or two up next weekish. You amused me, sir. Thanks
/r/seduction21/04/12 03:33 PM
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There is a split on how one should act in this situation. Here are some things to think about and some opinion. I fully believe in helping people honor their social contracts. If she's dating a guy exclusively, you're doing the right thing helping her honor that commitment and you're making her more likely to honor it in the future. We are creatures of habit. Also, there's always the standard, there are too many hot/cool/kind girls to mess with any of this sort of drama. And it's true. People sa…
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:32 AM
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