Over-thinking the importance of confidence at dates makes me go into my headspace and I get stressed out. How to solve?

penguin_says_slide · 2015-11-11T23:51:52+00:00

WTF?! Screw confidence, focus on having fun. You have nothing to lose. Just go in the date with the mindset of having fun. If you're being a little insecure bitch, mention it and make fun of it.

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2015-11-12T01:10:27+00:00

Just have fun. It's understandable you're gonna be nervous, but don't filter yourself, and don't put any big expectations on the date. Just share yourself with her, and acknowledge her and the attraction you feel for her. If possible, take her to a couple of locations around the coffee shop, and always lead. Be a good listener, and remember anything you have to say is good enough for conversation. Basically, don't get caught up with worrying about what is the wrong or right thing to do. If you do want a conversation tip, just remember this: how would you talk to your younger brother or sister, or an old friend? Would you be nervous around them? No, you'd just say whatever you want, you'd be playful, you'd lead the interaction, and you'd be happy to talk to them. Just be like that (and don't hide that you're attracted to her).

unorthodoxintrovert · 2015-11-12T03:29:01+00:00

Confidence = being comfortable.

authenticsociallife · 2015-11-11T23:35:15+00:00

I would just take a deep breath and relax as that means you're overthinking things.

If you were confident enough to set up the date, you're confident enough for it to flow smooth.

Title	Over-thinking the importance of confidence at dates makes me go into my headspace and I get stressed out. How to solve?
Author	oldsoul-
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	November 11, 2015 11:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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