Seeking for advice on how to lower your expectations?

BigBankBaller · 2015-11-19T13:33:44+00:00

Improve yourself

TheXXL · 2015-11-19T15:25:52+00:00

aim for a more "my league" type of girl.

There is rarely a league when it comes to attraction. Except you as a normal person, trying to date a superstar. Not impossible, but very unlikely.

But here I run into a problem, I am simply not attracted to heavier and not so eye pleasing girls. How can I improve on that?

You don't need to change your own attraction triggers. Just change the way you think about yourself, get more confident. You sound very needy, no wonder women don't find you attractive. If you change that, you will see how women will get attracted to you even more, with what others have said, dressing well, and starting to think of yourself as being a hot guy, you will radiate that. People will pick up on that, and it will change their perception of you.

SonOfZeus3 · 2015-11-19T16:12:02+00:00

The biggest advantage that we have as males in our society is that looks do not play nearly as big of a part in attraction as we think. This doesn't mean don't try to improve yourself as, yes, looking better will make things easier, but women want a man that is "well put together." Look like you give a shit about how you dress and start to work out. I can't stress how much physical fitness helps, and it mostly helps with INNER GAME, because YOU feel better about yourself. Get on a workout regimine and eat healthier. You don't have to go crazy, but you will begin to see changes in how you feel about yourself and how others perceive you.

Turlast · 2015-11-19T17:43:02+00:00

Gotta work on your mindset. Life is not that black and white. If you go after women you're not into, you'll still feel alone at the end of the day. That wouldn't be good for you or her.

mimunto · 2015-11-19T23:29:27+00:00

All the guys writing so far are correct. You can probably do a lot by "lifting yourself up". However, to actually answer your question, one method might be to lay off porn.

We humans are relativistic. If we're used to seeing extremely hot chicks on the net, then the ordinary chick will look like shit. If we're in prison with no access to any ladies, not even porn, then a glance at the ordinary chick will make you jerk off for hours.

Title	Seeking for advice on how to lower your expectations?
Author	MeMrPenetration
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	November 19, 2015 12:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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