Do we have any guys here that have an obvious facial flaw and still succeed with women?

904Slife · 2015-11-09T17:10:45+00:00

First off I wanna say good shit for being on here and making an effort to better yourself, that's a success in and of itself. But Extremely crooked smile here. Used to be really self conscious about it until i found out 9/10 girls find it cute. It's actually helped me a few times. Sometimes a girl will tease me about it, and I'll say something like "yeah that kid Matt has such a weird smile, I definitely wouldn't kiss him if I were you" pause, stare, and then kiss. It's worked every time so far. Think of yourself as lucky because it will help weed out the superficial girls you wouldn't wanna be with anyways. You have a funny username, which leads me to believe you're a funny guy. Girls love humor, such a valuable characteristic. I know it's easier said than done, but don't give up. It'll make the success that much sweeter when it happens. Notice how I said when, not if. You got this man

Geloni · 2015-11-09T17:00:50+00:00

My cousin was in a bad car wreck years ago. To relieve the swelling on his brain they removed a park of his skull. He also suffers from TBI. He's also engaged to be married. He's a funny mother fucker though. You have to play to your advantages.

darkstar505 · 2015-11-09T17:19:59+00:00

It is not necessarily important how you look like but how you present yourself.

I have to be honest that this sounds easier than it actually is. I suffer from a chest deformity which I thought was actually an issue when meeting women but it is not. Some have even found it kinky.

Accept that your deformity is a part of you. Feeling bad about is is not going to change a thing. It is all about how you present yourself. Even with a skull deformity you can be a confident guy with an awesome life and with game. It is harder, but not impossible. Think about what you do have, not what you have not. What you can change, not what you cannot change.

Women dig confidence and if you approach a girl as a total badass while having a skull deformity, please tell me how this is not confident.

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2015-11-10T01:15:45+00:00

You're asking this question again. Yes, people have had massive success with ladies despite being ugly, short, or anything not ideal. What have you done with all the responses people have given you?

I went through your post history and found this. People think you look fine, even good. You're sabotaging yourself with your own attitude.

Everyone feels insecure at times, but we all have to learn to toughen up and be ok with ourselves. The only problem you face is your own beliefs about yourself. The only thing I can think of saying is that you gotta become someone you love being (regardless of girls), and as another person said, let your personality shine through.

Eknecron · 2015-11-09T21:56:49+00:00

I once knew a guy who was a paraplegic and confined to a wheel chair and charmed the living shit out of ladies. He got laid as much as I did. Sometimes you're so "you" people barely notice things like that. Your personality can shine brighter than any physical characteristic.

Also, this goes for everything in life. Own it more than it owns you. Do this and you'll be fine. Don't hide in your insecurities, embrace them as part of yourself. Joke about it, talk about it, own it.

BleakCube · 2015-11-09T20:34:06+00:00

Big time lurker, but I read your post and I had to say something. I don't have one of my hands, it stops at my wrist, and for a huge amount of time it has been so detrimental for me. I would fill myself with doubt, but honestly I'm still in the process of learning game, and up to now it has not been an issue in any way, and just as 904Slife said, it will help weed out the superficial girls.

ruffyamaharyder · 2015-11-10T00:47:15+00:00

Dude, just grow a big dick and you're all gravy!!
Just kidding... Just have a good time when around women. Joke with them. Give them shit! Have a "no big deal" attitude and they will see past any issue because it will no longer be one. That's it really. The hard part is building up to that attitude. So don't! Just fake it! Eventually you'll notice it works and it will become your attitude - not just with women but in life.

JustWanderful · 2015-11-10T02:21:27+00:00

Do we have any guys here that have an obvious facial flaw and still succeed with women?

Just this.

leddpipe · 2015-11-09T18:32:55+00:00

I have a fairly significant one but gradually confidence is growing as I get older! It will change for you too!

SmoothPrimal · 2015-11-09T19:56:51+00:00

We all have "deformities" to some degreee i.e. A deviation from the ideal trait.

Best way to deal with it is to try and minimize the deformity. An example would be if you have no teeth than just wear dentures, but at some point you would need to come clean about your flaws or it will just be stressful for you. This is the reason why most women just show up for a date without make up out of nowhere. Its them trying to see of youd accept them without all the fluff, but the best way to handle it is to just let them know you are insecure about it.

People who have a lot of insecurities tend to have trouble with being open enotionally but hide the trait physically so they struggle using a combination of the two so some go overboard and sort of "parade" their deformity to deal with it similar to how fat girls wear unflattering clothes as a coping mechanism for being insecure about their weight.

Maxhall530 · 2015-11-09T21:18:46+00:00

Brutally crooked nose. Like Owen Wilson and Woody Harrelsons noses had a child and that child nose found me.

All good though. I can always play on it. Making fun of your insecurities can make Girls feel very comfortable and they obviously enjoy laughing.

Gmarlon123 · 2015-11-10T01:14:35+00:00

Nick Vujicic!!

Mitchypoo · 2015-11-10T01:14:57+00:00

I've always had acne pretty bad. No matter what I do it just won't go away, but I've found most girls don't really care.

paintwhore · 2015-11-10T02:05:51+00:00

I (30f) used to be in love with a man who had serious divots all across his face from an accident during training he conducted as a marine on proper safety protocol (so NOT a battle scar). His confidence was through the roof and it was HOT. He was probably a solid 80 lbs overweight and 4" shorter than me, but something about the way he carried himself made his physical appearance inconsequential.

jherold87 · 2015-11-10T03:53:24+00:00

I have really deep ice pick marks on my cheeks. Honestly, I've never encountered a girl who has ever noticed it or cared. It's all about how you carry yourself. If it doesn't bother you then it won't bother other people.

winndixie · 2015-11-10T04:19:36+00:00

The guy who lost his toe had a tattoo saying piggy is going to come back. I forgot what the arm amputee had but it was something clever tattooed. I saw a video of a 400 lb man who lived in his moms basement giving a motivational speech in to bodybuilders, in it he said he was about to start his cutting phase after a 26 year bulking phase.

Rockyrambo · 2015-11-10T05:00:34+00:00

He's not on reddit, but i knew a guy with a gash diagonally across the entire length of his face. He was thrown through a windshield in a car accident. It was gruesome.

But his confidence made him SUPER successful with women, even though he was grotesque.

Roamingkillerpanda · 2015-11-10T06:33:37+00:00

I thought I'd chime in here since this is something I dealt with personally recently. I was born with microtia, which is a deformity where the external ear is underdeveloped, essentially leaving me with only one ear. When I was younger I had plastic reconstructive surgery and I have what appears to be something similar to an ear where my right ear is. I wear my hair short, somewhat of an undercut, so it is very noticeable. On top of that in August I had a procedure done to get a bone in hearing aid. That means I've got a metal looking screw coming out of my skull on the right side of my head and soon I'll have a hearing aid.

Looking through your post history it seems like the biggest thing you need to do is find the positive qualities about yourself. Work on yourself. There is an incredible amount of resources here on improving your inner game. As for dealing with the physical deformities don't let it bother you. Own it. The first day of school after my procedure to get my hearing aid I felt incredibly self conscious about it and felt all of these insecurities I thought I had gotten past a while ago resurface. It was so bad I left class early and spent hours crying at home. But you know what I did the next day? I got manned the fuck up and kept going. You can't change it so focus on what you can change. A couple months later I was on a date with this girl and she asked about the hearing aid bracket and this bald spot I have on the left side of my head (noticeable right after I get a new haircut about the size of a thumbprint) and if it bothered me that people could see those things. I told her that it didn't anymore and it's part of who I was. She thought it was cool that I didn't let those things bother me and the date went great.

So in conclusion, don't let it bother you OP, work on yourself.

pureboy · 2015-11-10T11:26:46+00:00

Attractive guys have to be attractive it's the only play they have. But a defective or not attractive guys can play so many game just to give the same result as attractive guys get.

Tjodleik · 2015-11-10T14:06:34+00:00

I don't care if I get downvoted to hell, and I apologize in advance if I seem harsh, but seriously; go see a therapist.

Now, let me elaborate ...

I dug through your post history, and despite loads of mainly positive feedback you seem hellbent on maintaining the belief that your looks is your biggest problem. Also, when you run into someone who doesn't agree with you and/or challenge your beliefs, you simply stop responding and then post another thread with the same topic some time later. So the bottom line is, you appear to not really want advice, and instead you're looking for people who either agree with you or give you sympathy, so you can get your shot of feelgood and then continue to be the victim and wallow in self pity.

As an example I wrote a reply to one of your threads, and I got a response and everything was going smoothly until you mentioned that you were rated a 2/10 on various redpill forums. I pointed out that they were most likely heavily biased and therefore unreliable, and after that everything went silent. Now, don't get me wrong, there could of course be other reasons as to why you didn't respond, but since you keep making these threads it kind of fits the bill.

And since you liked my stories, how about another one. I have an acquaintance who keeps insisting that he's gay. It's not because he actually is gay, but since he can't get women to save his life he has concluded that he therefore must be gay. Like you he also believe that his looks are to blame, and that he's too fugly to ever get a girl. I've seen his picture and he's a completely normal kid, so as you might have guessed, his problem is in the mental department. He is extremely self-deprecating, if you get him going he will literally rant for hours about being ugly and complain to everyone who can be arsed to listen, and he believe that everything is set in stone and nothing can be changed. If you give him advice he will immediately reply that "it won't work on me," "it's not who I am" or the infamous "I've tried, and it didn't work," which most likely means he half-assed his way through one or two attempts with the (subconscious) intent of failing. Add a self esteem so small you have to use an electron microscope to find it, and girls, not to mention people in general, will tend to run away as fast as they can.

So yeah, I'm serious. Go see a therapist. Hope you find a good one, and good luck to you.

Cindaquilz · 2015-11-10T17:15:50+00:00

Girls will sense and project back to you the same vibe or energy that you project.

If you feel unsecure, nervouse and uneasy arround them, they will feel it and they will feel the same way back to you.

You need to learn how to be calm with yourself and how you look. None of us will ever look like Brad Pitt or whoever you take as a male model. And even if you do thats 30% of the attraction. Yes 30% of the attraction is assigned to looks.

How many times have you met a "cute" "Hot Babe" and when you start listening to the way she talks or the very things she says, or her manners you realise she is not that hot? Its not about looks its about generation the right mindset, mood and vibe to atract another person.

On the other hand, how many times have you met 6's or 7's that really know how to exalt their feminism and be sexy and seductive even thought they are not a 10?

TL:DR: Looks is only 30% of the atraction. Learn to accept how you look and work on your other 70% (Style, energy, vibe, mood, Being an Alpha male)

ass_fungus · 2015-11-09T23:25:12+00:00

I know a guy with Bell's palsy who has a pretty cute girlfriend. He looks nerdy too, like without the drooping face he wouldn't all of a sudden be handsome.

Cheers mate, I wish you the best

Title	Do we have any guys here that have an obvious facial flaw and still succeed with women?
Author	MeMrPenetration
Upvotes	57
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Date	November 9, 2015 4:02 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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