TL:DR Friend zoned but I'm stuck around her a lot. Can't help but feel like I'm being a beta bitch about it.
I'm in an RN program, one semester left. Classmate is tall, pretty and smart with a great personality. First semester(1.5 years ago) she showed me IOIs(grabbing me, mentioning my girlfriend she assumed I had etc). Instead of making a move I told her I liked her and put it onto her, pretty much was over at this point.
I never showed her a lot of attention afterward and I'm not one to give people compliments, I didn't orbit. We are in a 3 person study group though I just stayed friendly.
Summer just started and I asked her when she had off that week because I was taking her on a date. She replied "I think it's best to wait until after school is over." I didn't respond to it at all and just ignored it.
Few days later she needed a ride to her doctors appointment, I made her buy me lunch if I did, and she did. Few days after that she tried to use me as an emotional tampon because of something that happened at work. I wouldn't let her go into detail and told her she could let it ruin the rest of her day or get over it and enjoy the rest of her time off(half day at work). I then bailed on the plans we had to hang out because she wanted to hit the gym first and was taking forever, and it was past the time we had set.
I didn't stop flirting or pursuing after she told me it's best to wait and finally she shut me down when I was getting aggressive. I told her I'm glad she finally had the balls to say no instead of beating around the bush. She replied "Why are you fishing for a no? I told you before when you asked for a date not now, the timing isn't right." followed by "You're my friend, my good friend. I don't want to mess with that." Boom friend zoned.
That last one was yesterday. I didn't reply I'm probably not going to. I just want to next and cut her out of my life but we have one semester left of school and work together at the same hospital so I'm going to be around her. I plan to just not initiate conversations anymore and keep responses her to to a minimum. In person I'll be cordial like I would any other acquaintance and if she invites me to do shit together I'm probably just going to respectfully decline.
I really have no interest in keeping her as just a friend/wing woman. Am I handling this right? Logically I know I have oneitis and I shouldn't. I'm 6'4 blue eyed, not bad looking but I am lean logic tells me I shouldn't let her rejection bother me because plenty of women would like a guy like me but fuck if I ain't stuck on her. Beta as hell.
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