I need your guys help!

ZZPiranhaZZ · 2015-12-20T18:40:41+00:00

Think about this, I mean, really think about this.

You're the one stopping yourself.

You're the only factor stopping yourself.

Who cares what you look like? See the world through your own eyes, not through your body. Girls don't give a shit if you don't give a shit. Hell, no one gives a shit if you dont give a shit. Embrace yourself, be confident in how you are, and you will go a lot further. This video has a lot of good stuff on insecurities: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=st19d6huwq4

Wquad · 2015-12-20T18:34:41+00:00

Everybody has something that they are conscious about, I now have big red rashes on my ass but I am trying forget it so it doesn't stop me
You are also going to be almost always in your head, that is something every person has to work through
You need to go through the tough to get to the other side, its never a easy ride to get laid or even kiss a quality chick
Start thinking about making out and getting laid with girls and what you have to do to get there. Go out and start making yourself availble to women.

AttractandSeduce · 2015-12-20T18:44:18+00:00

Hey Logan, thanks for sharing.

I would first recommend that you accept yourself for who you are right now. Let it sink in...

Accept yourself for the qualities you currently have. During your journey of making yourself the best man you can be, you got to work with yourself and not against yourself.

You mention that you are ashamed of your body and that you have not kissed or had sex with a girl yet. You mention that your afraid that people will laugh at you if they were to find out that you never had a girlfriend. You mention that all this is making you feel depressed.

It's great to admit your weaknesses and your insecurities because that really is the first step towards improving any area of your life.

However, you want to avoid beating yourself too much because you will lower your self esteem more, give yourself less hope of bettering yourself and you will ultimately work against yourself.

I want you to accept yourself right now for all the insecurities you have. This would be how your body currently is and how your dating situation is. Accept it and promise to yourself that you will do whatever it takes to live the life that you want in your health and love areas of your life.

Create a clear picture in your mind of how you would really like your health and dating life to be. Type it into a word document and be as specific as you can be. What would your ideal physical body look like and what what are the physical and none physical qualities your ideal girlfriend would have.

Determine your big WHY next. Why do you want the results that you want in your health and dating areas of your life. This will be your every day fuel to keep moving towards that big goal.

Determine what would be the big steps that you will take towards reaching your goal.

Break each of the big steps into much smaller steps.

You will achieve your big goal by taking SMALL steps. Take BIG steps towards achieving your goal and you may lose momentum just like many people do.

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Sneakypeepeen · 2015-12-20T18:33:35+00:00

The first thing you have to do is get yourself out there. Your comfort zone is going to have to expand greatly before you'll even have a chance of getting laid. There's no magic phrase or actions that will get a girl to fuck you, it's all about your attitude. Read some of the top posts on this sub and put yourself out there, worst case scenario you walk up to a girl and she's not interested she'll tell you she has a boyfriend. (whether or not she does is irrelevant) At that point leave it be and find another girl to approach. You need to lose the insecurity. Act like you're the prize, and women will pick up on that.

ImJustSo · 2015-12-20T19:32:04+00:00

I was 330lbs, I lost 120lbs, women think I'm sexy.

Women seem to notice your shape more than each individual flaw, like stretch marks. They still want to see you naked, they still want to fuck you. It makes no sense, but that's how it is.

Go get laid, bro. You deserve it.

thrown_into_seddit · 2015-12-20T21:10:38+00:00

I have to share this story with you.

Almost a year ago, I attended a friends home party. There I met a girl I genuinely thought who looked gorgeous. I was starring at her like a weirdo. Its almost a miracle she even gave me her number. She had a soft voice and a cute face. She even dressed well.

We met three times (nothing happened between us).

After the third meeting, I had enough of her. Why?

Because she was sooooo insecure about herself. She told me she didnt like her nose, that her mouth was too small and she didnt even like her wonderful soft voice. She said, she sounded like a mouse.

The thing is. I never noticed all of these things and to be honest, no one did. I showed pictures of her to my friends and everyone thought she was gorgeous.

She planted herself the thought, that she didnt look good and even planted the same thoughts in my mind.

What I want to say is, dont be insecure about it. As long as you love yourself, everyone else will love you.

As soon as you start to feel insecure about yourself, everyone else will feel the vibes.

Also, I want to add, that you should be damn proud. You were able to lose 35kg. Ive been struggling for two years now and am still not able to get rid of my extra kilos. You did a great job. Keep it up ;).

Dont let social pressure take you down. To be fair, a lot of guys struggle with the same problem. I in fact do know a lot of guys who were still a virgin with 23 or 27. And also guys, who never kissed a girl at that age. Some of them would constantly lie about hooking up, making out and having great sex, others couldnt last the social pressure and went to a hooker.

The message Im trying to deliver is: Dont be ashamed of that. There are plenty of people in your age, who never touched a girl. Its ok. Dont let social pressure take you down. Work on yourself (and obviously you are already doing so. I mean, you lost 35kgs in 2 years).

Start reading different types of books and do things you enjoy in life. Most people in this sub including me, struggle with similar problems like you do. Its ok. We wont let social pressure take us down.

Best wishes :)

andrewmarfs · 2015-12-20T22:31:12+00:00

I used to be like you but now I have a girlfriend and nothing much has changed..obviously youve heard this before.. but yeah just believe in your self and never give up :)

IT_allthetime · 2015-12-21T00:24:59+00:00

Hey man, I know this is difficult but don't worry about it, women don't really care. And as for the part where you've never been kissed, you've got everything you need. Go on some dates and get a kiss, I usually wait until the second outing but that's a personal preference. You are awesome and some girl is going to ask her friends for advice about you, you just need to go find her.

I'll leave you with a bit from Kat Williams that is relevant. https://youtu.be/lj5-71ziM5c

Lndbrghwrstlr · 2015-12-21T02:14:20+00:00

Dude you lost SEVENTY SEVEN fucking pounds. Think about how incredibly difficult that is. You literally shed a small child off of your stomach. Do you really give a flying fuck if someone laughs at you for THAT?! Laugh in their faces with your sheer force of willpower, you've done something that 95% of people can't do.

harderitry · 2015-12-21T02:26:32+00:00

Where do you live? Chicago had some nice dancing clubs with tons of women. I see weirdos getting to dance with 9s. You don't have to ask for their number, but they'll be happy to dance with you.

Try to talk to random people in general. Whenever I start talking, I would want to talk more. I start to think, "man I could be using these words talking to a girl right now."

LUClEN · 2015-12-21T03:06:37+00:00

Because of the overweight I have stretch mark on my belly and a little on my back

There's a product called scarfade that I think will be very useful to you. It takes many weeks to completely remove a scar but it is quite effective. I used it to get rid of a scar on my face that was left after I had a mole surgically removed. It is not expensive either if you order from Amazon.

paintwhore · 2015-12-21T04:21:34+00:00

You ARE missing out. It is your own neuroses that are causing this. Women do not care about body flaws that insignificant. That, to women, is insignificant. Be into her, be genuine, be kind, be confident. THAT is what gets the girl. ;)

TheMostSolidOfSnakes · 2015-12-21T05:50:53+00:00

I know a girl who only dates large men (not penis mind you, but BMI). She feels safer around them and enjoys being tiny in the relationship. Everyone has there own thing that turns one person's insecurities into another person's turn on. Don't worry, it takes time to find that person, and that's what makes it worth it.

Logan023 · 2015-12-22T18:42:11+00:00

I would like to thank everyone who responded to my question. it means alot to me that you guys took time to help me!!!.There is still one question that is bothering me. If i meet a nice girl should i just tell her that i never kissed someone, or just go for it.

Title	I need your guys help!
Author	Logan023
Upvotes	24
Comments	17
Date	December 20, 2015 6:11 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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