Met a girl on New Years Eve, no idea on how i could get to know her better now

billyc74 · 2016-01-02T14:43:28+00:00

You're overthinking it dude, just chill out. Text or call her if she wants to go grab a coffee or something.

penguin_says_slide · 2016-01-02T14:48:12+00:00

Yeah definitely overthinking. And the whole "clingy" and "don't want to mess it up" do not help a lot either.

To be perfectly honest with you, most likely you will mess it up. I've messed it up when I was in your shoes and that's completely fine. Learning experience. You'll dust yourself off and do it better next time.

However maybe you do succeed. After all not all our parents were PUAs. People get laid.

Gary_bronson · 2016-01-02T16:23:58+00:00

Just text her. Worse case scenario she doesn't text back. The whole wanting to spend every minute with her is normal. I'm like that but I would be careful how much time I spend with someone when I start dating them

2016-01-02T20:04:41+00:00

My advice:

1) like everybody else, chill out a bit

2) ask her out for coffee

3) find and ask a different girl out also (before you meet for (2)) if you can.

... maybe you two are a match made in heaven, but probably not. (3) is there to distract the "you are the one" attitude... mostly to keep from psyching yourself out. If you can do that then, you'll come across better to the NYE girl.

Text NYE girl today if you haven't already. Once she agrees to coffee, suggest exactly where, when, and what time. You are the man and girls like when the man has a plan, so be decisive (and tap that!) ... and maybe get married one day, but first things first.

Edit: formatting

yenners · 2016-01-02T20:52:56+00:00

Don't be afraid to make moves. Don't feel like you need to take her out on dates and treat her like a lady and then make a move. I think you are trying to figure out what she wants when you really don't know. You guys cuddled all night that shows some level of trust and intimacy already. You're making excuses on why you didn't have the courage to do what you really wanted. But to answer your question just go hang out with her. Invite her out with you and some friends or go do something fun go on a hike walk around the city go bowling etc.

lemon_scream · 2016-01-03T07:30:28+00:00

hey can you update us? somewhat similar situation

Murfdigidy · 2016-01-02T15:21:15+00:00

First stop putting her on a pedestal, this is a problem many men have in the beginning and one that makes girls run. Have a girls perspective, I'm not gonna judge this guy until I get to know him, until he shows me he's cool, fun, and confident. Listen I get how guys think, we can fall in love at first sight, unlike women who only fall in love after they seemingly get to know a guys character. We are visual, women are more into a guys persona. How he acts, how he carries himself.

Don't be clingy, how do you do this? Stop thinking this girls the one, for all you know the girl is a complete tool. I'm not saying she is, but make sure you get to know her. Now your first mistake was not Making a move in bed. Listen I get why you did what you did, but there is no harm in making out. I'm not saying bang her, but a make up session is Def proof you're not friend zone material.

Call her, tell her you had a great time the other night and you know this cool spot you should both hang out at. The way you don't be clingy is to act as if this girl needs to prove to you she's good enough for you. Being a stud means proving to the girl you're the catch not her....understand this perspective and understand how to get hot girls.

Title	Met a girl on New Years Eve, no idea on how i could get to know her better now
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Date	January 2, 2016 2:41 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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