How to approach random girls I find attractive and ask for number?

mrnap3000 · 2016-04-14T18:56:25+00:00

Keep it sweet and simple.

"Hi, I'm Mike I saw you walking around and thought you were cute, I had to say hi"

"Haha thank you. I'm Sarah."

"Nice to meet you, so where are you heading off too?"

Stop overthinking it, this is how 90% of the beginning of my interactions go.

MikeValentine · 2016-04-14T21:26:44+00:00

A few weeks ago I struggled with approaching but once I overcame that, I realized that getting that number means nothing and is easy as morning piss. Getting a number of a random attractive girl (I refer to my daygame experience) is easier than you think. The problem is flaking. I've got a few numbers but they're all flakes and I'm trying to get to the next level which is turning the daygame number into a later date(never tried instant dates but will also try this weekend).

For example, a few days ago I've met a cute girl and approached her directly by saying that she looks cute and I wanted to say hi. She lit up, and we started chatting. She started asking me questions, where I'm from, what I do etc. She invested in the conversation right from the beginning. Turns out we have the same hobbies and passions. The interaction lasted like 5-8 minutes while we walked and then I took the number because we had to split our ways and I couldn't do instant date. We agreed to meet up later. I texted here and she replied with 4 messages. I texted again and she replied with multiple messages again. And then just flake when I asked about her schedule. No replies. She seemed like the most solid number so far yet she flaked. So after like 10 approaches, I realized numbers are bullshit. At least right now, while my game is not super solid - which is probably the case for you.

And my first approach was ok but meek, next one was awkward, next one was shit, but then you do it and repeat and you get enough reference experience that you stop giving a fuck.

Right now, I have no problems approaching a random girl, even if she's a 10 during a day. Unless it's like on a train, she's with friends - things I'm working on. And I know what AA is but now that I overcame the part you're at, all I can tell you is fucking approach.

And if you feel like you can't - that weird mind block - then you need to do a social warm up routine. You walk outside the house and you open the first person you see and ask them what time it is. Then you proceed and open another person for directions. Then you compliment dude's beard. Then you say "nice hair" to a girl. The social momentum builds up and it's a lot easier to approach the hottie.

Here are some openers I use:

Hi, I know this is random but I thought you're cute/adorable/sexy and wanted to say hi
I like your ... (tattoo/shirt/hair/style/dog) - and then you continue random shit.
excuse me, do you have time to flirt - I found this one here yesterday and gonna try it tomorrow, seems good to me.

Big_TX · 2016-04-14T23:09:14+00:00

There is actually a whole industry and a big community based off of pick up. And There are many companies who make videos demonstrating this, and explaining I depth how to have conversations. You can look up RSD TYLER RSD julien RSD Todd and Alex social on YouTube for some great videos on conversation. (They use different methods)

Any response you get on here will most likely be a shallow abstract of the subject. It is far more advantageous for you to read and watch you way through and gain a understanding. And that will answer most of your questions.

Lastly and most importantly. Actually go out and pratice talking to girls. You will learn soooo much more. The theory can only help point you in the right direction. And help with sticking points. You have to pratice to actually get better. Also going out will let you see how situations actually are which will elevate 90% of questions.

Goodmaymays · 2016-04-15T04:33:27+00:00

you just fucking do it fam!

DaygameCoach · 2016-04-14T21:22:37+00:00

If you find them attractive, they aren't random approaches. Drop the "random" frame.

Read all the sidebar help (including approach anxiety), and check out the newbie board, /r/askseddit.

thepeanutbutterman · 2016-04-14T22:00:02+00:00

That question is basically what this entire sub is dedicated to. It's way too broad of a question. There are so many variables and techniques to approaching women.

Start reading and/or watching videos and go out and apply what you lean. Then adjust based on your experience.

Bigjohnthug · 2016-04-15T05:14:01+00:00

How about you read ANY OF THE INFORMATION IN THIS COMMUNITY BECAUSE IT IS WHAT 90% OF IT IS ABOUT????

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