I'm not sure of my attractiveness... I get hit on by gay guys and fat girls A LOT.

KreamerTRP · 2014-07-04T06:46:13+00:00

Gay guys and fat girls are not sexually common/desirable to the majority of high SMV male partners. So they naturally evolved a brazen nature to help seek out partners.

Yes, it's a good thing that they're attracted to you.

It's also a shitty thing because it means you probably aren't putting in the work to meet the people you WANT to meet.

Man up, do your approaches, and become desirable to the women you desire. Sex doesn't come from laying naked on a bed and waiting.

TRPpost3r · 2014-07-04T07:02:27+00:00

They are into the same things the hot chicks are after, only that the hot ones don't habe to bother approaching anybody. It's a good sign.

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wakethfkupneo · 2014-07-04T13:28:49+00:00

Maybe you should just lift more. This might or might not be relevant for your specific case but it's a good read nonetheless:

http://no-maam.blogspot.ca/2004/07/pook-19-what-every-skinny-guy-should.html

mormon-virgin · 2014-07-04T07:10:37+00:00

The underlying reasons you are being hit on is a good thing. Approachable, attractive, whatever.

However as former LA resident I can attest being hit on by gay men is extremely annoying. Also hot girls don't have to approach, you have to approach them

kingofpoplives · 2014-07-04T13:26:49+00:00

I feel that in many ways the reaction of gay men is the most unfiltered gauge of physical attractiveness out there. As men, they care about looks, pure beauty, and nothing else.

This is also very illuminating into the differences between male and female sexual priorities and behaviors. You can be hot enough that gay man are literally freezing in place, jaws dropped, when they see you, but yet the reaction from attractive women is almost non-existent. They are seeing the exact same thing as the gay men, but their reaction is minimal to non-existent.

The women recognize you as hot, and may give a look, but they are far from wowed by your appearance, and are going to need to be much more impressed before they want to fuck you. This is an extremely definitive behavioral difference between the sexes.

What makes a woman truly swoon for a man, in the way gay men will swoon based off looks alone, is some type of display of high social value -- performing and receiving cheers in front of a large crowd, working a crowded room, knowing and being friends with everyone and being the man, having social connections that provide access to exclusive events, public displays of bravery and strength (fighting), etc.

Disposable_TRP · 2014-07-04T15:55:08+00:00

215 pounds at 10% bf

lifting since december

gabilromariz · 2014-07-04T08:12:28+00:00

You can turn this situation in your favor! Have you read books in the lines of body language, salesmanship, etc? You can use these people approaching you as practice in good conversation skills, while letting them know you're not interested but appreciate the attention.

With a little practice you'll get them introducing you to their hot girl friends as "my friend from the gym". Everything is an oportunity! Also, it's always good to be friendly with everyone, and not just for girls. You never know which of these people could be your next business associate or whatever

TLDR: This is socializing practice, use it!

TRPpost3r · 2014-07-04T08:24:52+00:00

I would say if you are getting hit on by decent looking gay guys, you are likely putting off an effeminate aire about you (not trying to be insulting at all). This could merely be a "I'm shy" type of feeling on your part that shows to other people as less than masculine.

You sound like the looks are not the problem (congrats on the weight loss!) I think the problem is likely confidence. Women are attracted to confidence. Period. Looks are secondary (and no lower than that really). Work on your confidence and then eye fuck hot women. You'll get so good at it that they'll start hitting on you (first initiating conversation if you don't, then outright pursue you).

You are on the right path. Keep going.

EDIT: If these bigger girls are hitting on you at the gym, they might turn into smaller girls... ;)

Title	I'm not sure of my attractiveness... I get hit on by gay guys and fat girls A LOT.
Author	TRPpost3r
Upvotes	12
Comments	19
Date	July 4, 2014 6:18 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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